Ask Lemmy

I don't date anymore, but I don't subscribe to the idea that a lot of people think there is a formula to figure it out. I don't hold a position of power or authority, so if there was a connection between me and another adult, the age doesn't matter.

25-38, maybe even 40's?

No-one.

Absolutely no-one.

If I get widowed tomorrow, imma gonna stay single for the rest of my days.

Not only am I edging into that age where I am becoming increasingly cranky and unwilling to change for someone else (I have changed enough for my wife of 30 years), but I have also been keeping a light finger on what’s happening out there between the sexes, and holy shite that’s become one hell of a mess that I want absolutely nothing to do with.

I mean, the door isn’t going to be barred and locked. But it is going to be firmly closed and with a cinder block in the way. If someone wants through, they are going to have to demonstrate real effort in their pursuit of me.

But then again, I would be shocked AF if any woman thought pursuit of any kind wasn’t beneath them. So I guess my peace and quiet would be quite safe. Thank the lord.

The youngest I’d go is 23 for a short term fling. If I was to end up in a relationship, I’d like someone in their mid to late thirties.

No more than 10 years either direction. Would probably try to stay closer to 5 though. But really depends on their personality and their intelligence. I can't date someone that can't have an intelligent conversation or honestly believes easily disproven shit.

I’m 53, so probably 43 to 58, but there are always exceptions to the rule.

35-45 seems like a good range at the moment

This depends on what you mean by date

If you mean pursue a long term relationship, the answer probably is around 30 and 45

If you mean a short term fling or one time thing, the answer is 25 to probably 60. This depends a lot on their physical condition.

Edit: also, F38

Half my age +7 and double my age -7

Joke answer: whomever my wife would let us.

Actual answer: I don't know. I'm in my mid 40s. If I had to start over for some reason and was looking for a serious relationship, at least 30s as the minimum. Max would be low 50s, probably, though I've not thought a ton about it.

Actualer answer: if I ever lost my wife, I doubt I could/would pursue a serious relationship again or at least for a long enough time to make my answer above probably innacurate.

I used that formula to half-jokingly look for a partner on my blog. And it worked. I was 22 and she was 27. "So old!" I thought back then. Didn't help that she sent me a really ugly blurry photo. Still, I was desperate and liked our conversations.

Now we're married and laugh about that "huge age gap".

Meme in question:

Half your age plus 7 is an okay rule for finding the floor. Don't aim for the floor. Plus 10 is less eyebrow raising.

I only date people who are physiologically in their twenties but chronologically in their one hundred and twenties.

/I have a thing for time travelers.

I'm curious - why would you never go younger than yourself, but don't have an issue with the older person going decades younger for you?

EDIT - just found out your 17 which changes things. I'll get my coat.

Youngest: A mayfly, born this morning and destined to die this evening, which landed on my nose.

Oldest: A mountain with ancient bones, eroded by the aeons to a mere hill with sides of crumbling rock.

Oh you mean humans? Well, anyone between the ages of 47 and 52 I guess.

Im a dude which means if someones an adult im not likely to shy away. Realistically there is a point where someone younger than me is not going to be attracted to me or the commanality factor is not there or our lives simply would not mesh. Granted im married so this is all theoretical alternate univers where I was not. Similarly when it comes to older its likely to be more about looks. We all know some folks that keep themselves fit and if someone is hot they are hot. Now the limiting factor there is im not exactly fit and you have to be realistic in expectations. Anyway I don't think its about age when it comes to attraction. Its physicality and personality meshing.

Give me a rich, generous, elderly, asexual sugar-mama or give me death.

I'm 37. Oldest: maybe a 40? Youngest: maybe 25? Just by the looks, I could go far younger, but I don't want to have to go through the whole becoming an adult shenanigans again, and I wouldn't want to have to babysit an insecure person, whose insecurity stems from their lack of experience - important distinction, because some people have some insecure traits (myself included)!!!

My dad is 98 and he started dating an 82-year-old. It seems to be going really well. She can't drive and he still does so that probably increased his appeal.