Lesbians

Obsession is only a problem if it harms yourself or other people. Lady parts, man parts, everything in between parts, sculpt whatever you want. I don't know where you are from, but the western world has unfairly demonized sex and the human body. Your hobbies are your own, and you should not suppress yourself to get affection from others who don't like or appreciate who you really are.

I have a bi friend who's like this with all genitals, including things that aren't even genitals. She's got a healthy relationship with sex and goes about her life just fine. I don't see a problem.

In terms of being a turn-off, I think you should probably focus on relationships willing to embrace this aspect of yourself rather than hiding it. "LET ME SHOW YOU MY GENITAL ART" is possibly not first-date material, but early on for sure. Might even be how you start a connection with someone if you share the interest.

Georgia O’Keeffe was a successful artist, given her subject matter.

Statues of the Virgin Mary in various flavors of Xtianity are based on lady parts (the way her robes flow out, etc).

Fertility figures, flower arrangements, you name it it’s been styled around lady parts.

There is no shame in having an appreciative fascination with the human body. As long as you’re not body shaming others; consensually enjoy to your heart’s desire!

I have made some unusual creations inspired by lady parts, including a virtual pinball table.

Can I see this table? That sounds fascinating

When I was 10 I had a favourite tree because it had had a branch removed and the bark had grown round the wound in the shape of a vulva. I think a fascination with lady bits is perfectly fine.

Let's not forget that dicks are the subject of a lot of fascination, including the world fascination which comes from an ancient Roman winged dick monster.

Similarly to what the other comments say, I think this is something that is undeserving of guilt or shame, and is rather caused by the demonization of the human body by Western society. This seems different than the stereotype about cishet guys being (as you put it) "breast-obsessed." I think the disturbing aspect with that is that guys will minimize women down to solely their body and how it serves them, having no regard for the character or desires of the person. It doesn't seem like that's what you're doing here at all— rather, having an appreciation for this specific aspect of being human, yknow? Your "obsession" doesn't seem to stem from anything malicious, nor does it seem to harm anyone, so.... keep doing you!

my time in kink taught me one important thing, ask for what you want, someone out there is as freaky as you. own it, just -- double down on consent.

I don't see the problem as long as you're not being a creep, and can think about other things like laundry and doing crimes and train schedules/driving.

And a lady really liking my breasts and paying attention to them, reveling in them during sex is really nice. A partner being really eager to eat me out because they love my pussy is also a bucket list item.

You can be more sexual than romantic. Even completely aromantic! Its fine! You still have friends, right? Or not having them is unrelated? Then it's fine!

It's not the usual, but the best part of queerness is not having a script, not having (as much)shit boxing you in and telling you who/how you can and can't be. The figuring out can be really fun.

Don't worry too much about it is my take.

Yes, you're almost certainly going to find people who are enherently discusted by that. I've met women who'd just say "...eww". I've also met women who'd be like "bro saaame!" People vary in opinion, and I find it unlikely that if you were in a relationship with another girl they'd be the former (though I wouldn't know because I'm a guy and never been in a relationship; someone else would have to chime in on this point).

I think it's important to also consider why people look down on guys for being obsessed with tits&ass. Usually, the implication I get is that the issue is feeling like you're being used for sexual gratification, not the emphasis on sexuality. An unsolicited DM praising your nipples doesn't exactly make you feel like you've got good looking nipples. I think if you're clear about not "using" their sexual characteristics and just like them in the same way you'd like flowers or whatever, then at that point most of the "weirdness" is that it's non-sexual. Personally I find that to be more of a quirky kind of weird than a gross kind of weird.

This sort of thing is something I've read feminist theory about. Not crazed sex fiends, but the refutation of the idea that it's unfeminist for a woman to be a pervert about women. Sex positive feminism came out of this rejection of purity and originated with lesbians who enjoyed casual sex, bdsm, and other dirty stuff.

Straight feminism sometimes has a lysistratic bent in part because one of the ways patriarchy exerts dominance over women is through sexual violence, coercion, and pushing the consequences of sex primarily onto women. A lot of internal politics later this manifests as waves between reclamation and rejection of sexuality. This unfortunately spills over into lesbians.

Yonic art and imagery have a long and storied tradition in lesbian culture and community. I've known breast obsessed women (I actually can be that way myself), butt obsessed women of all orientations, and genital obsessed women of all orientations. Should you be putting this foot first? Probably not unless you're in a very sex focused space (but if you are, you absolutely can). But it's not something you necessarily need to hide.

I'll also add, I suspect that this interest is amplified by the shame and feeling the need to hide it. I have friends who write porn and until they stopped feeling shame it looked a lot more like an obsession than a hobby and an interest.

But yeah, especially if you're making yonic art, look for community about it. If you're looking for casual lesbian sex, look for community about it. Knowing you aren't alone or bad is the biggest thing you can do about it.

Just read an article about lesbian sheep syndrome that talks about this