I value personality but I feel like my secret obsession with lady parts would only make others either back away slowly or run to get away from me.
I know that being attracted to them is normal but this feels next level.
Some of the lewd content that I collect is mundane, but some of it is more abstract and involves photographs of furniture, jewellery, desserts, and other things in… “interesting” shapes. Additionally, I do graphic design in my spare time and I have made some unusual creations inspired by lady parts, including a virtual pinball table.
I feel guilty about my obsession, not because it’s sexual, but because it sounds disturbing. Also, I feel like I must be a shallow person who is not interesting for more than five minutes. I certainly have a few other interests, but this secret one is special to me.
Is this an instant turn-off that I should hide as much as possible? I’ve seen jokes ridiculing guys for being breast-obsessed but I am too socially awkward to tell if it is more the obsession itself or the apparent disinterest in both personality and meaningful relationships that turns people off.
Update: I’m surprised at how many comments this thread received and how many users wanted to see my pinball table! I restricted it to private messages partly because I assumed that NSFW images were forbidden here, and partly because I used numerous other artists’ assets without permission (I had not intended to publish it anyway).
That said, a moderator told me that I could share it provided that I marked the topic NSFW and I credited the artists whose work I used. I modified a small part of it based on one of your suggestions. Click here to see it!
That's a joke I used to make all the time. It turned out I was trans and it was the only honest thing I said about myself.
No, if you’re an hetero man, it’s cringe and a red flag.
Unless it’s a sign of gender dysphoria of course
since your first message, you still haven’t figured that you posted this on a “Lesbians” community? And that we could have issues with heterosexual men coming into our communities exactly the way you did?
Why?
… patriarchy?
I grew up in a matriarchal community and the men there are still vag obsessed.
thank you for proving once-and-for-all that patriarchy is fake, with your single, impossible-to-prove, personal anecdote. /s
I'm not saying patriarchy is fake. I'm saying that it's not responsible for cishet men having an obsession with women's bodies. That's the result of evolution. If straight men weren't interested in women's bodies the human species would die off. Patriarchy has plenty to answer for, but sexual attraction isn't one of them. Expressing that attraction in an unhealthy way, however is a problem with the patriarchy.
yes, and going into a lesbian space and say “i, a man, like pussies” kinda qualifies as an unhealthy way of communicating.
I don't think reassuring op with a light-hearted joke is indicative of women being crushed under the booted heel of the tyrannical patriarchy. This is after all a public community.
There is plenty of patriarchal bullshit to get angry about, but if you waste time on every il advised joke then you're distracting yourself from the actual issues like the widening wage gap, sexual assault, fgm, maternity leave, or the fact that the majority of people in the world genuinely believe that cis women exist to serve men and trans women exist to be thrown off roofs. Save your anger for the genuinely offensive and dangerous shit.
the “light-hearted joke” that has been removed by mods, you mean?
In any case, thank you so much for explaining to me how i should fight, i haven’t had this kind of deeply inappropriate comment for some time. I wasn’t expecting it in such a community, tho.
Ok, well I am of the opinion that we should focus on the larger picture, but by all means enjoy a lifetime of being offended by everything and everyone. I'm sure everyone you know will be fine walking on eggshells around you. Just ask yourself if its worth having your day ruined by some stupid joke and if your life will be a fulfilling one of you allow yourself to be so easily offended.
The mods are welcome to remove whatever they see fit, but I personally didn't think it was such a big deal in the grand scheme of things. And I'm here to hang out and have interesting discussions about vagina and boob themed virtual pinball machines, not argue with strangers on the interweb. I'm not about to assume that I speak for everyone though.
I'm not sure what you mean. I should think that some portion of heterosexual men would be preoccupied with feminine-coded attributes under any kind of hierarchy at all. What about it makes it bad?
if you really want me to spend time explaining to a random man on a “Lesbians” community why we really don’t like this kind of behaviour, and why it’s totally inappropriate, i’ll have to charge you. I take €100 by the hour.
That's okay. It's not my intention to be aggressive with you.