Lobanova

I remember when I was moderating a Reddit subcommunity about NSFW all-women clips, and somebody left a rude comment on a butch lady’s submission because of her appearance. She tried to be diplomatic by telling him(?) that “it’s not for everyone”, and I joined in with “Have you ever heard of the expression ‘If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all’?”, but this guy wasn’t having it.

While I think that the rude commenter was a guy, I’ve seen this sentiment from other types as well. When I lurked the nauseatingly toxic L Chat forum, there were anonymous users dissing butch women by calling them cliché or unattractive, saying “I want my women to look like women”, and so on.

Let me be clear: if the femme aesthetic is your personal favorite, then cool. I tend to prefer femme looks myself. But being elitist about your preferences and dissing butch women — as if they all had an obligation to look “perfect” for you — is as utterly unnecessary as it is unpleasant. This may be surprising to read, but not every single woman needs to turn you on! You can appreciate them for reasons other than their appearance! And you can keep your unsolicited feedback on their appearance to yourself! It’s so easy that even I can do it!

I know that I should have let these memories go, but maybe expressing how I feel about them would help with that. That concludes my rant.

Source: https://xcancel.com/ArachnidMafia/status/1532715959886159872

I feel guilty about my obsession, not because it’s sexual, but because it sounds disturbing. Also, I feel like I must be a shallow person who is not interesting for more than five minutes. I certainly have a few other interests, but this secret one is special to me.

Is this an instant turn-off that I should hide as much as possible? I’ve seen jokes ridiculing guys for being breast-obsessed but I am too socially awkward to tell if it is more the obsession itself or the apparent disinterest in both personality and meaningful relationships that turns people off.

Update: I’m surprised at how many comments this thread received and how many users wanted to see my pinball table! I restricted it to private messages partly because I assumed that NSFW images were forbidden here, and partly because I used numerous other artists’ assets without permission (I had not intended to publish it anyway).

That said, a moderator told me that I could share it provided that I marked the topic NSFW and I credited the artists whose work I used. I modified a small part of it based on one of your suggestions. Click here to see it!

(Brand new account because I feel too nervous to ask this under my main.)

Is it wrong or really weird that sometimes I like to imagine that all women are lesbians?

I never take this to the extreme, like going up to confirmed cishet women and telling them what their sexuality “really” is. By “sometimes” I mean that I only think like this when I am alone, with a lover, or with a good friend.

I never see anyone else talk about this, so I feel like I must be weird, maybe even unwell.