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It was a simple wedding with only our family who came and some friends of ours.

I’ve never actually been married, and to think it’d be with a beautiful woman who I’ve been friends with and lived next door to for 6 years (now live with).

so my ex kayla (20f) is someone i got back together with after she changed and stopped being a dick towards me after we broke up the first time when she was 18 and i was ~17 (i’ll be 19 this year).

now, she’s a very nice person to me, and i broke up with her because we stopped talking to each other and i therefore lost feelings for her. i didn’t use social media much let alone group chats, and she didn’t private message much.

when i could/wanted to, i’d try to message but she’d often be doing something else or already in the middle of the convo. before we broke up, it turns out she was seeing another girl without my permission or consent because “she’s poly” (we gotta let each other know before we can date someone, that was the agreement. i did it for her but she didn’t for me).

we broke up and she moved on quickly because “oh at least i have 2 other women i like” and she didn’t even have feelings for me after we dated?? (she had feelings at 18 when she was a bully, but not at 20). neither of us like each other that way, but it hurts that she found someone else so quickly, didn’t feel that way for me, and didn’t even tell me about her new gf before we broke up

@lesbians Ika Freudenberg was a German #lesbian musician and feminist. She would be 167 years old today. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ika/_Freudenberg

i’ll refrain from overposting but i’m a bit scared. kayla (20f) is my gf and (idk if she still is) but was a huge trump supporter. she was quite cruel to me because i first dated her as a trans man and she accused me of sexual harassment after we broke up.

we got back together and have been dating for quite some time (about 11 months) but we barely talk. she only plays video games and talks to her friends, so i barely chat with her, she rarely responds, and i don’t use Discord a lot where i chat with her.

i asked if this would work out and if she would prefer it if we were just friends, but im scared that she’ll accuse me of things again and make harassment/slander of me because i said that

@lesbians In case anyone needs to find me.

(If you're interested, location is https://www.google.com/maps/place/Dyke+Mountain/@61.7147217,-146.3047177,54676m/data=!3m1!1e3!4m6!3m5!1s0x56b5fcdc64c81993:0x1ca87e1ab812d9c2!8m2!3d61.6994444!4d-146.1272222!16s%2Fg%2F1tgxt8dv?entry=ttu&g%5C_ep=EgoyMDI1MDMxOS4xIKXMDSoASAFQAw%3D%3D )

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transcription: every mage in the chamber trying his or her best to come up with a strategy to defeat Frerien. meanwhile the lesbians: depicted: two girls laying on their backs, one being held in the air by the others arms and legs.

@lesbians Pepi Lederer was an American #lesbian actress and writer. She would be 115 years old today. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pepi/_Lederer

It feels wrong to jump into a relationship after trying to get over someone and not fully being over them, so I’m gonna wait a while before I pursue this girl and will break up if I just can’t move on.

I don’t want to break up, but I’ll have to for a while, so I hope I can get over the crush soon so we can both date :3

re-publicado de: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/23181039

i’m so sick of this. i’m just gonna stop dating people who prefer men because people i love ditch me for them.

they’re usually bi but then like men more. obviously men are better partners than women to them because they leave me for some dude. i’m so sick of it.

i’ve never even dated someone who exclusively liked girls, so i’ve never been left for another girl but i’d obviously be liked better by ppl i love if i were a man. (some ppl would dump me for other women tho probably)

ditched, ignored, dumped. i’m so sick of this. i want someone who loves me and only me. someone who wont break up with me for some dude. someone who wont ignore me and talk to dudes behind my back like my gf. i love my partners equally, im so tired of not getting the same fucking treatment.

i am done.

i’m never dating anyone else who already has a partner, ik they prefer the existing partner over me regardless of if they are poly.

i don’t want to be friends anymore when i’ll just be ignored.

@lesbians Lida Heymann was a German #lesbian feminist. She would be 157 years old today.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lida/_Heymann

@lesbians God forbid a #lesbian likes to dress like a ghost.

I’m finally not 23 anymore, and I’m going to spend this wonderful day with my beautiful girlfriend!!

@lesbians Vita Sackville-West was a British #lesbian author and garden designer. She would be 133 years old today. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vita/_Sackville-West

@lesbians Edith Ellis was a British #lesbian author and activist. She would be 164 years old today. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Edith/_Ellis

it was around 1am and i was trying to sleep, and suddenly i thought “what if i get back with my ex from sixth grade?” (i’m still friends with her)

i started to get a warm and fuzzy feeling, so i was like “ruh oh raggy… i can’t get another crush again…”

she’s straight now, and my tired brain decided it was one of those things where i’d understand if she said no and continue to be her friend but would be like “yeah, why not” if we dated 🤷‍♀️

i thought that even if i was an immature ass at 12, i could be better and we could try again now.

however, when i woke up, my feelings completely vanished and i had no desire to date her at all.

My girlfriend (22) and I (F23) have been friends since I was eighteen and moved to the U.S. when she was my neighbor. It’s been almost six years since our friendship, and I’ve been into her for quite a while.

We’ve only been on a few dates, but since we’ve been long-time friends, I trust that this relationship will last. By May or June, we’ll have dated for about 3-4 months (but like I said, I’ve known her for far longer). I’ll be 24 by then, and hopefully she’ll be my fiancée.

Before then, I’m staying at her house for a while to see what it’s like before I move in.

@lesbians You wanna get something done, get a #lesbian.

huh? why is everybody here so gosh darn adorable?

(Don’t take this seriously, I’m just being silly)

I would have to say honestly, like 4 because there’s some very gorgeous women and I have a girlfriend but I do have a male preference. (Hope I’m still allowed here)

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/22189318

(figured more people would give advice/relate because it’s a lesbian community [“the idk how women like men romantically” part] and also because i don’t see any comments/nor do i think the other community i posted in was good for breakup advice/rants.)

(im going to say that im a lesbian, first off, and maybe i just feel this way about relationships with men because i’m in a bad spot, or in other words, pissed.)

part of the reason i broke up with my boyfriend of almost 3 years was because i figured out im a lesbian and couldn’t see myself dating nor attracted to a man.

the other part? he wasn’t there for me as of recent.

he was pansexual and i was a gay/bi trans guy. i met him through a friend, and he lost contact with the friend sometime after he met me and only we talked (our only mutual friend after that was some VERY controversial guy from tiktok but due to said controversy, we stopped being in contact with him and he blocked us).

a lot of the new friends we made on his discord server started to make silly jokes about us, like “get a room you two!” or “are you sure you guys aren’t dating?” it was very casual, i had feelings for him so i was just like “ if he wants to 🤷‍♀️” and he replied with “yeah ok why not :)”

so after that, we were a couple. we talked a lot as friends, we talked a lot as boyfriends. then i got a girlfriend (the deal was that we could date if we knew about the people, and he knew about my gf). we broke up the first time and she acted really cruel (saying i abused/assaulted her, either acted this way because i was a guy or because i was trans. maybe both). this made me feel terrible for MONTHS due to having bad-ish attachment issues.

i detransitioned after that, since the very thought of being a man reminded me of our relationship/breakup.

he, however, was there for me during it. at least, when he could be.

there would be periods that would last several weeks where i would hear nothing from him. even when i would see he read my messages and posted on social media, he would not respond to my messages. ever.

then he would be like, “sorry, i was at work” or “sorry, i was staying at someone’s house for a while”. i was quite forgiving and was honestly just worried about him.

then, it happened more frequently, again and again. he would hardly say he loved me or show any affection. my “friend” told me this was normal in relationships and thought i was crazy for thinking otherwise.

sometimes, he would say he loved me and actually be there for me, but he recently started leaving me on read again. i broke up with him and decided i was a lesbian since i kind of lost feelings and couldn’t see myself with a man or even attracted to one.

[so, im still kind of pissed at him, confused about my attraction a little, and at a rocky relationship with my “friend” and girlfriend.]

(sorry, mods, ik i’m talking about a straight relationship but im a lesbian now so im posting here)

she’s just not a very active person online. when she is, shes only active in group chats with her friends.

usually, she talks about video games, and is actually offline because she plays video games almost all the time.

is there any way to salvage the relationship? she’s too focused on her interests to be interested in mine, and like I said, is almost always playing games so we barely talk aside from: “hi ❤️” “Hi sweetie ❤️” “hru??” “Good, just playing games, you?” “good :)) im listening to music” and then the conversation ends because she doesn’t message first and is busy with the other stuff.

(i have tried talking to her and she says she’s usually busy. shes either genuinely busy, busy with games, or in a bad mood and doesn’t feel like talking [sad/tired])