I've met many people that have killed people. I didn't think that was all that unusual. I know for sure two people I've met had killed people and there's a whole bunch more that range from maybe to probably.
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I’ve met many people that have killed people. I didn’t think that was all that unusual.
Same here. While no one in my family has ever owned a gun, I can think of at least 3 people I've met who have killed someone. One was by a nice woman and was clearly in self-defense.
You have definitely met someone who will kill themselves in the end. The rate is about 1/70 people in the US, and for every successful suicide there are 32 attempts of varying seriousness.
I've met two people who took their own lives.
My mom shot herself with her husbands gun.
My moms father shot himself with his rifle.
Oh man, buddy, I'm so sorry for your loss. Those must have been hugely impactful to grieve. How are you doing?
I’m four friends (three best friends at various points in life) and five or six acquaintances down, and I’m not 40 yet. I’ll have to agree with you.
Back in 2000 I had a close skydiving buddy. He was an excellent competitive pool player and taught me how to play and I even went on to win a few tournaments.
Our friendship came to an end when my girlfriend broke up with me and he was in bed with her the very next day.
Out of curiosity I tried looking up his name about a year ago. Turns out he was living with a woman down in Tampa, Fl. She had lost a child previously and was dealing with major psychological issues... He came home to find she had committed suicide.... And he killed himself because of it. This all happened way back in 2013. So he's been dead a long time.
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Yeah, I think I've met 3 murderers, two before they murdered, one after the fact.
One was mentally unstable and sad, then made fun of, second I met was kind and normal, third was dumb bulky drug dealer that was also kind.
None of them were evil or psychopaths or any of those typical traits and it made me think that to become a murdered you have to be both unlucky and triggered in a meaningful way.
On the flip side, you've probably met someone who has saved a person's life.
I saved my self a bunch of times by convincing my self to not kill myself.
Does that count?
It's the thought that counts! I keep asking myself, is this it? Living like this. Trying to find joy in a world doing all it can to make every aspect of life miserable and boring.
Also, if you're an empath like me, chances are you resist the urge because you know you'd only be passing your pain on to others. I hate it, but I know that self checkout won't take my pain away; just spread it to others in my life.
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I've saved a bunch of lives. Give blood! It's easy and makes you feel better about yourself.
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I have killed someone. My mother. It was intentional, legal and sanctioned. She was at the end of her life, suffering from Alzheimers and her entire family was present. I volunteered, as her only living child, to pull the plug. And I did. Did I kill someone? Yes. Was it the best thing to do at the time? Yes. Do you wonder if that's a good way to go out of this world? Probably. Would you be wrong? Yes.
When I was younger my grandmother died of cancer. She wanted to pass at home and we lived with her.
For months she just declined, until she was bed-bound in the living room, having carers and family members feed her, clean her after she pooped on herself, sometimes randomly screaming in pain, having nightmares, and was largely incoherent. In the last week she didn’t have the strength to eat and her doctors told us to just stop feeding her. She had a death rattle that lasted for days and echoed through the house every time she breathed, until finally something just gave out.
It was not dignified. It was not peaceful. It was deeply traumatizing. I wish we could cut her suffering short somehow – for us as much as her.
I wish we could cut her suffering short somehow – for us as much as her.
Our legislators and judges are enormous chicken shits for not addressing this issue better. In a way, I would call them demented torture masters for their lack of clear and humane definition of when assisted suicide and mercy killing are legally permissible. Not required, but when all competent parties are in agreement? Keeping people with no quality of life and no hope of recovery alive with technology can't be called anything but torture, in my opinion.
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I've met multimillionaires before so yes, thousands of people probably
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Went to high school with one.
I went to high school with at least six. I say “at least” because those are just the four I know about. Two killed people with their car, three went into the military right after graduating and did combat tours. Talking with them afterwards, it was clear they had 100% seen combat and killed people. And the last just straight up shanked a dude at a local fast food place during a drug deal.
Once met a man who confessed to me that he once hit and ran after striking a pedestrian with his car. He said he knew he killed them, but got away. It was fucking creepy as hell and couldn't get away from the guy fast enough.
I've always wondered what drives people to such confessions. Not a killing of course, but I once met a dude and like 20 minutes later he was telling me about the literal scams he pulls. Shit like stealing old people's passwords and whatnot to buy things for himself online. Very unambiguously illegal stuff. There was no context either, no lead up to that conversation. He just pulled the subject to that out of nowhere and started spilling the beans. One minute we were talking about wearing thinner gloves inside thicker gloves to keep our hands extra warm, and the next minute he was telling me how he tricks old people into submitting their email credentials into fake forms that he makes.
Wait til ppl start walking up and confessing without even saying "Hi" first 😂 Once you get that "It's ok to confess to me" vibe, it's hard to shake it.
Significantly more likely if you live in the USA. Not so much in big parts of the rest of the world.
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I know a train operator. They are sometimes involuntary involved in other peoples suicide.
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I've been in the army and I met guys there who took part in the Karfreitagsgefecht. They may or may not have killed some poor peasant with an AK but they for certain lost an important part of themselves.
I had a co-worker at one of my first big boy jobs working for a hospital, and this guy was weird as weird could be.
He was an older man, probably in his late fifties at the earliest, and we worked in the IT department, and he would blast Avril Lavigne music non-stop.
To make this worse, he wouldn't stop even if you asked him to, and he didn't talk to people, he was rough, he was mean, he was grouchy, he was unapproachable.
About a year after I started, he disappeared one day.
I asked my co-workers about him, and the truth finally came out.
Apparently, about six months before I started, he had gotten into a car accident and killed two people in the car accident, and he was found at fault for drinking and driving.
The reason he was not in jail at the time was his trial was still going through, and the weekend before he disappeared, his trial commenced, he was found guilty and he was sentenced.
And, yeah, as far as I am aware, he is still in jail today if he's still alive.
About a year later, one of my other co-workers was murdered by his wife and their pastor, and it became nationwide news.
I'm associates (he's a friend of a friend) of a guy who did Manslaughter Under the Influence.
He's a prick, but that's unrelated to that, just right-wing
I dunno, it takes a type.
Knew a guy online who was part of a game guild and regularly told a teenager to go kill himself for not healing him on time during raids.
One day the Kid shot himself.
The guy was a full on asshole in rl, much older than the kid, had a family and a job and told himself and everyone that he wasn’t at fault cuz the kid was not mentally stable.
Like dude, regardless of someone’s mental health he is a bully with an anger problem and leaned into unleashing it on a young kid.
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I have actually met, spoken to, and joked with convicted murderers. And people who committed far more heinous crimes.
I have a very interesting work history.
The fact of the matter is, someone who has murdered another — beyond a shadow of a doubt, I don't mean to include those falsely convicted — does not necessarily mean to kill YOU. Unless they're a psycho or something, most killers have killed because of some circumstance that put another person in the way of their life. I'm not saying they absolutely had to kill the person. Just that had the circumstances been different, they wouldn't have necessarily killed someone at all. Sexual predators are different. They target their victims and set up the circumstances, in most cases. But killers? Not necessarily a threat to you, unless you are necessarily a threat to them. Even serial killers. Serial killers just have a body count. Most of them don't want to kill everyone.
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