..yes? That's what you have to do. Maybe she says no. Maybe she says yes. Doing nothing definitely won't get you anywhere.
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The issue is the "always works for me", the same way an old white man is going to have a lot less trouble with the police or telling a handicapped person to just walk the stairs because it "always works for me".
You miss 100% of the shots you don't take.
I also made most of those shots I didn't take
In my mind
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I asked a girl out once...she said yes. But it was touch and go there for a while before I asked. And let me be clear, I do not look like this guy. Still solid advice tho.
If she says no it doesn't come without consequences. You can't talk to her anymore without it being awkward, and if she's part of a larger friend group you're in the embarrassment is even worse.
You're overthinking it. I know because I do the same. But realistically most women are quite relieved when you can take a kind "no" in stride because the bar is so low in this regard.
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Why doesn't she have to ask me out? That doesn't seem very equitable.
Nobody has to ask anyone out, its not compulsory. Women do ask potential dates out, so do men. Its pretty irrelevant who the one doing the asking is - the point is not to put the onus on one gender but that if you - whoever you are - don't ask, then you'll never know.
She could ask you out. But if you just wait you're giving up your initiative. Use your agency.
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Just ask if she plays Warhammer bro
Send me her number. Because she clearly knows Tau are the only good guys in Warhammer.
Only if you’re cool with psychic brainwashing and a pseudo hive mind.
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The one who says yes will be really into you tho.
Do u know about leeeenux muhlady?
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So I recently found out my ex wife had a type. A type she desperately wanted me to fit into. A type that she would make me go to clothing stores for specific shirts that look good on pretty much no one but Henry Cavill.
I did not look like Henry Cavill. Turns out around the time we divorce she goes through this phase swooning over Henry Cavill. Then she cheats on me with a dude I don't know the name of (except I've unfortunately seen his dick) and low and behold he has this kind Henry Cavill build.
Fast forward several years to now. I lost about 100lbs. Started lifting. Getting swole cause it was fun now that my body was smaller. Ate more protein, added creatine. Drink lots of water. I need different shirts. I dig out some old shirts, the only ones that sort of fit well are the ones she got at clothing stores that look good on pretty much no one but Henry Cavill. Turns out they still don't look good on me, not because I'm not Henry Cavill, but I'm not a fuckboy.
I searched this text because I thought it might be copypasta. Great read lmao
I can’t even lie I thought the same
Feels like it sometimes NGL
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i mean people tend to like confidence, also you get to stop wallowing in ignorance. conventionally attractive or not, either they say yes or no and then you get to move forward from there. going from not knowing to knowing, that is a positive.
You should know when it is appropriate to ask and when not:
Don'ts:
- complete strangers
- people who cannot retreat, e.g. cashiers, waiters and the like, on a busy train/bus in an elevator etc.
- people clearly not in a space to socialize.
- asking for sex
- being ambigious about intentions
Do's:
- people you held a normal conversation with before
- in a space where they are comfortable and either party can leave easily if things get awkward
- being clear about it being a date
- public place with individual privacy, e.g. going out for a coffee
- no alcohol or other drugs
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Definitely. Looking like Henry Cavill makes it easier, but confidence is really the main attraction. I know less attractive men sleep with Victoria's Secret-type women. And there is actually a study on men who are perpetually single, and the common denominator is being under-confident. But at the same time, you don't want to be overconfident and thus arrogant.
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Sooooo..... we're doing incel shit posting now?
This sort of black pill doomerism seriously destroys your mental health. You don't have to be a Chad to find a girlfriend friends, but thinking your not "conventionally attractive" enough to date is a self fulfilling prophecy.
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This is what "blind to privilege" means.... LOL
I have had more than one. I am autistic with an anxiety disorder and ptsd and I had guys who aren't those things always talk to me about girls like I am super pick up master just because inam decently looking and in shape. They way they talked about their experiences made me kinda not want any, too...
And no matter how much I tried to explain my situation when asking for advice they just gave sabotaging and extremely vague advice that doesn't mean anything. I wasted away my 20s and a large part of my 30s because of shit like that.
The best advice is "women are people too, not some mystical being from outer space". They feel the same emotions, they get hungry, they get horny, they get anxious or shy too."
Look for people who think similarly to you. I found it that I mesh well with other people who are on the spectrum, have adhd, etc. Ultimately nothing matters when you can't approach someone, or go out of your way to find hobbies where you can find people with the same interests as you. So if you can't get over that (or accept a rejection), it won't work.
Also, don't focus on a single person, especially someone who doesn't return feelings / attention, or doesn't have time for you at all. Even the busiest person will find a tiny bit of time to meet with you if they really like you. Obsessing over a single person for years isn't the way to find love. Quoting a song by Tim Minchin, "your love is one in a million, but it doesn't mean that the other 999 999 loves wouldn't be equally nice". If you find someone who returns your feelings, you mesh with well, hold on for dear life.
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Ok so yes looking like Henry Cavill helps but how do you expect to go on a date with someone you like without asking them out? An amulet of Mara?
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I should get chin implants
chinplants? Chimplants?
[queue super hero intro]
Here comes the Crimson Chin!
Chimplantees
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Let's be honest. Henry doesn't have to ask.
Bro looks like he Superman, they should have had him play Superman at some point
Instead of whatever the hell Man of Steel was
I don't know where I saw it, and I can't seem to find it again, but I remember one video where a girl uses Cavill as an example of what SOME women find attractive. He's good-looking, yes, but what really got her was how he can talk about his interests with such passion. I'm obviously paraphrasing.
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I mean, I know it's a meme, so what. But before getting the pitchforks out: does anyone have a link to Henry Cavill saying this? Just curious.
I searched and it's all memes and reaction videos. Maybe true, maybe true but sarcastic, or maybe false. My guess is it has all the making of a quote that nobody fact checks because it's too good for engagement.
I didn't read it as being a genuine quote, and I don't think the idea was to smear Cavill. I think he was just used a proxy for the incel talking point of only hot dudes think you can just ask women out and have it work.
Asking women out is kind of necessary to the process, even if she says no.
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I was about to ask who cares what some random dude says, but judging by the comments I'm the only one who isn't familiar with him.
lol he's the DCEU superman actor as well as for the Netflix The Witcher series, The Tudors, Man from UNCLE, Mission Impossible: Fallout.
I don't think it's relevant to this specific meme though. He's just handsome as all hell.
Amy [Adams] said, “Whenever I looked into his eyes, I started giggling because he has this effect on you. I think most women feel the same way about Henry. He’s dreamy.”
Well, turns out I'm not gay afterall, because he does nothing for me.
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