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[–] candyman337@lemmy.world 9 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

Reminder for those that comment that hate and rude comments are against the community's rules

[–] LandedGentry@lemmy.zip 8 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

Frankly this whole thread is kind of fucked dude

[–] Crankenstein@lemmy.world 4 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

Yea. There is "having personal tastes" but a lot of these comments are just straight up judgmental of other people's choices of personal expression and using this post as an excuse to espouse some pretty harmful rhetoric.

[–] LandedGentry@lemmy.zip 1 points 9 hours ago

Honestly this is a much more elegant way of explaining it all than have managed lol

[–] Crankenstein@lemmy.world 7 points 9 hours ago* (last edited 9 hours ago)

I inherently detest the concept of a "beauty standard". Something so subjective to each individual experience as "beauty" shouldn't have a standard, and a mentality or social culture that tries to establish or reinforce them is something I believe to be highly problematic.

Like in this very post, all the people who are admonishing body modification (injections, implants, piercings, tattoos, etc...). That has been a thing humans have done since ancient times. It is just a form of personal expression, there is nothing inherently wrong with the practice itself. It is the social expectations that makes those things appear uncomfortable at first glance instead of just a different but equally valid form of personal expression. A lot of the comments around them are very judgmental of the assumed reasons behind doing it, though, and it is because of societal "beauty standards" that people behave and think this way.

[–] some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 4 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

I don't like big boobs almost ever.

[–] MTK@lemmy.world 5 points 9 hours ago

Most of them, but by far makeup.

If someone enjoys it and wants to, I don't judge.

But I seriously never saw a person who looks better with makeup. Even light makeup ( which can look good) still looks worse than just natural.

Also there is this vicious cycle where heavy makeup users have worse skin and more pimples so they feel pressure to but heavier makeup, which in turn worsens the skin condition.

People, be happy, love yourself, you are pretty for who you are.

[–] Ceedoestrees@lemmy.world 27 points 16 hours ago* (last edited 16 hours ago)

Mowed lawns. Just let it grow, it's easier and healthier.

This is literal and an innuendo.

[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 6 points 12 hours ago

I like how the standard has fractured and there isn't really a standard now, but I do also kind of like the obviously fake bodies being the standard because an insistence on natural beauty is more oppressive than the idea of beauty as something you do, an art or achievement, even a purchase.

If beauty like that is something you choose, I am free to choose it or not. If it's just by luck of birth, that sucks so bad. When I was a gawky tall stick insect of a teenager and the only girls considered pretty were the short and stacked, there was no way to meet that standard.

Later the tide shifted but as I didn't grow up feeling my body could ever be mainstream sexy, I didn't get attached to that - I do have hangups but they are my own. I just try to stay in shape, have good hair, take care of my skin and let the rest be.

But I think my unpopular opinion is beauty as something you do - makeup, style, fitness, is more democratic than insistence on symmetry of features or a particular height or build, the idea of "natural beauty" is worse. Beauty should be a choice, a hobby, a project, do or not.

In terms of what I do not currently understand, it's the moustaches. Young men with weedy little moustaches, straight men with moustaches that scream gay to me, the unopposed highway patrol/1980s gay man moustache I can't wait for that trend to pass.

[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 4 points 12 hours ago* (last edited 12 hours ago)

I can't think of a single beauty standard I do like. Everyone is beautiful in some way. Even the people who are regarded as ugly by the majority.

[–] Vinny_93@lemmy.world 70 points 21 hours ago (2 children)

Overly full lips. There's a bandwidth there where it should fit the rest of the facial features. Filling them up with collagen just almost never looks good.

[–] MotoAsh@lemmy.world 2 points 11 hours ago

Personally, I'd extend it to the entirety of the bimbo look. Why the fuck would anyone want to look like a cheap sex doll!? (ok well I can kinda' understand it as a fetish thing, but when ever parts of that look extend to "beauty" like huge lips... ugggh)

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[–] notnotmike@programming.dev 73 points 22 hours ago (12 children)

I've always disliked plastic surgery, botox and heavy makeup. But that's normal enough

My real hot take is I am disgusted by long, fake nails. They make my skin crawl. They're so cumbersome, I truly don't understand how people love with them

[–] LandedGentry@lemmy.zip 8 points 14 hours ago* (last edited 8 hours ago)

This response makes me take back what I said about your intent in my other comments. This thread is gross.

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[–] anon6789@lemmy.world 46 points 20 hours ago

I don't get why people try to hide freckles. They're so unique!

[–] CocaineShrimp@lemm.ee 42 points 20 hours ago (10 children)

Tabs over spaces, always

... wait, you're asking in asklemmy, not programming...

Uhhh... that thing where people glue little strands of hair to their forehead in an arc

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[–] bieren@lemmy.zip 21 points 18 hours ago (1 children)
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[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 11 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

Pure white teeth. I prefer ivory shades- not yellow, just the natural ivory. I've had salespeople approach me offering teeth whitening products and it terrifies me.

[–] phonics@lemmy.world 29 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

My favorite people, and probably yours too are not 10/10 hotties. The people I want to spend time with are funny and kind.

Chasing 'beauty standards', I feel, is a waste of your human potential. That time can be better used building friendships and community. Isn't that what most people really want?

If people focused their time there instead, maybe they would feel more accepted, confident and worthy instead of trying to shortcut their way to perceived success by altering their bodies. I find it sad that the digital age has pushed humanity so deeply in to 'comparative society'.

Confidence is the hottest most attractive thing to me in the end.

[–] CanadaPlus@lemmy.sdf.org 13 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

It can go too far in the opposite direction, though. I was raised in an environment where men doing literally anything besides showering a bit was gay.

[–] rumschlumpel@feddit.org 1 points 7 hours ago

Arguably, being muscular is a male beauty standard. I would very much prefer it if men had more freedom of expression, though.

[–] gedaliyah@lemmy.world 37 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

Lip injections make me think of those wax lips they used to give out for Halloween

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[–] fujiwood@lemmy.world 38 points 21 hours ago* (last edited 14 hours ago) (26 children)

Not everyone is beautiful. Most people are average and many are not attractive.

Obesity is not beautiful. It is unhealthy and honestly delusional.

Edit: Most people are thinking of this when mentioning obesity.

https://duckduckgo.com/?q=real+obese+people+&t=h_&iar=images

Not this.

https://duckduckgo.com/?q=heavy+rugby+players&t=fpas&iar=images

Complaining about the BMI scale is a disservice to those who truly need to lose weight for their health.

[–] penguin202124@sh.itjust.works 5 points 14 hours ago* (last edited 14 hours ago)

Same with being underweight. It is also not healthy or beautiful.

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[–] rumschlumpel@feddit.org 41 points 21 hours ago* (last edited 21 hours ago) (2 children)

Ultra low body fat, e.g. high fashion models, bodybuilders. You don't see it that much in real life, but it's pretty heavily promoted in media. Plus the dehydration thing for bodybuilders, I hate that 'saran wrap' look.

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[–] Opinionhaver@feddit.uk 21 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

Not a beauty standard per se, but I don’t like tattoos one bit.

It used to be “rebellious” to have a tattoo, but nowadays it seems like everyone has one - so maybe the truly rebellious thing now is not having them.

[–] klemptor@startrek.website 14 points 18 hours ago (3 children)

I don't think tattoos have been about rebellion in a long time. It's just art for your body.

[–] Crankenstein@lemmy.world 3 points 8 hours ago

It was always just art for your body.

People who got tattoos wanted to be able to express themselves in the way they desired, by decorating their body with artwork, and didn't appreciate having their decision dictated by arbitrary standards that they did not agree to. They weren't doing it for the sake of rebellion, it was just called rebellion because it went against the social expectations of the time.

People often do not understand the reason behind the act of rebellion and attribute those engaging in the activities as being done for the sake of rebellion itself instead of some deeper cause.

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[–] fargeol@lemmy.world 21 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

"Beauty has to be gendered"

I think you don't need to "look like a man" or "look like a woman" to be pretty

[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 2 points 8 hours ago

Angelic androgynous beauty is indeed so very beautiful.

[–] Gorilladrums@lemmy.world 6 points 16 hours ago

I dislike most artificial "enhancements" to boost your attractiveness.

Things like fake lashes, hair extensions, fake nails, breast implants, BBLs, lip injections, botox, and so on. This also extends for me to things like overly excessive tattoos, piercing, and makeup.

I personally like people who look and feel real. I don't want to date a mannequin. It's a okay to have flaws, nobody is perfect. Your flaws are a part of your charm.

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