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This is kind of a gross thread. It’s just “hey fellas, tell me all the ways you can find women unattractive. Make sure to really communicate how upsetting it is you, because remember, that’s what this is really all about.”
What I noticed in the top comments is also that many of the beauty standards mentioned are racialized, either appropriated or just plain racial. (E.g. thick lips, the hair curlies, the thin/drawn on eyebrows).
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Totally. This thread is filled with casual misogyny and racism.
There are mentions of beards, full public bush, overly white teeth, and tats. This thread isn’t just about women.
Man you have a pretty selective filter not even mentioning the several times makeup and collagen/lip filler came up, both of which dominated the thread. How dishonest.
“Big asses,” too skinny, not skinny enough, too much makeup, curls/hair extensions (racially coded AF), Botox, lip filler, I mean it’s relentless dude.
One guy said “fake anything. Boobs, lips, butt.” The vast majority of the comments are some variation of this. That ain’t about men my dude.
I want you to honestly look at this thread and tell me what percentage of the comments you think are by straight white dudes. You’re going to scoff at that challenge but you know I’m right. This thread is gross as fuck.
Yeah but I’m a lady and can comment lol it’s doesn’t specify the gender
I mean…it sure baits a one-sided, gendered response lol
The thread is also almost exclusively talking about how women dress/style themselves.
No it doesn't, that's your paranoia and your own preconceptions speaking.
What…?
Agreed BUT TBF he did not make a reference to women. It could apply to man too. Which is also stupid because it doesn't matter who you are you have the right to be what and how you want!
“Beauty standards” pretty heavily slants the answers dude lol
Ugh, I HATE when women present themselves in ways they like. They should be focused on appealing to ME, a man they aren't attracted to in the slightest.
Women? Not only op didn't set any sex or gender constraints, but for what it's worth, disagreeing with a beauty standard doesn't mean you necessarily find it unattractive. It just means you don't think it's the right standard.
For me, I disagree about perfectly white teeth. I prefer the ivory shades, not yellow, just ivory. I steer clear of any tooth whitening products.
Just read the responses. They’re proof enough. OP did not likely intend this but it was always the inevitable outcome unfortunately. Look at the sheer number of people poking specifically at collagen in the lips. Most of what is stated is clearly things women generally do.
This is basically a table of predominantly dudes griping about what they find unattractive in women, rather than critically assessing the beauty standards society/culture is unfairly putting on all of us. The latter is what I imagine OP intended, but the former is clearly what came of it.
I don't see it. I don't find it gross at all, and wouldn't find the opposite version gross either if I saw it on c/womensstuff or something.
Ok then we disagree. That’s fine.