Ask Lemmy

"Its a great day to hang out clothes"

I was in my late 20s and two of my uncle was having a heated argument over politics. Everyone else was quiet, afraid to say anything. I spoke out in a normal tone, not raising my voice, "that's enough". They stopped immediately. It was fairly surreal.

I still have mine against the side because of space issues. I like my open space, especially since I have lived in a couple of rooms where having the bed against the wall gave me extra floor space to move around.

But to answer the question, various things have definitely made me feel it. Though I'm definitely gonna say the stereotypical "All Kids Are Annoying" as my answer. Definitely how I've felt for years, despite not even being that old.

I was recently on a public bus that ended up stopping at a stop by the local museum and because of a youth ride free program, what looked like a whole class of elementary school kids got on the bus. They were loud and annoying and wouldn't shut up. Thankfully I had my headphones so I could listen to music to try and ignore them to the best of my abilities. 0/10, would not recommend.

Similar things happen when I get in around the time highschool gets out, but at least the teens have the ability to shut up and use their inside voices on a public bus. So they at least get a pass for not being super loud and obnoxious.

You start saving boxes. You think, this looks like a good box.

You find yourself compulsively drawn to woodworking.

You find yourself in a hardware or furniture store and everything looks cool.

I'm choosing a light fixture right now and I'm trying to decide which one looks best with all the natural fibers I plan to place in the same room, and the fact that I'm choosing to spend real hours on this self-created homework when I could instead be playing video games should tell you all you need to know.

Your body starts betraying you.

More specific to becoming a middle aged man, I started finding any sport enjoyable regardless of what it was. Additionally I started listening to history podcasts. Not sure these are gendered activities but there is definitely a stereotype that men start getting more involved in sport and history.

Being excited for a dump truck of free mulch

Finding joy in having a clean kitchen

Being jealous of other people's wooden floors

How does that means that you're an adult? You arrange furniture based on a lot of factors.

When throwing away a perfectly good box is a well thought out decision after the box has been in a staging area for some time while you think about it.

Being around kids and being seen just like I remember seeing adults when I was little. Assumed authority and decision making power and the answer to every problem or wish.

Owning a proper lawn-momer like the one my dad had. A proper petrol, cylinder mower like this one:

I bought a refurbished on from eBay. Sadly my lawn is too shitty and bumpy to use it, so I just use a Honda IZY which does a perfectly good job but it's not like the one my dad had.

Being able to just go and buy coconut bread without having to ask my parents and them telling me: "Only if you put it on your bread"

The wiry black hair that grows halfway up the length of my penis for some reason

Eating a meal that is mostly vegetables.

Buying and cooking your own food. Reading the nutritional info on labels.

You get excited about a pillow

When your empathy extends to people you don't even like.

The #1 sign of adulting has to be paying for your own stuff.

One big sign is when you stop demanding to be treated like an adult and just start being one.

Being an adult is just a decision you make one day.

Years ago my older brother was on the phone complaining to me because our mom found out he bought a motorcycle and was mad at him and my dad (who helped him pick it out).

He wanted to know why my mom thought she could treat him like a child.

I pointed out that when he decided to get a motorcycle and kept it secret from our mom, he was acting like a child and enabling her to treat him like one.

I have no interest in ever owning a motorcycle. However, if I ever did, it would never occur to me to keep it secret from anybody, because I'm an adult in charge of my own life. Everyone else can have opinions, but I get to decide whose opinions matter to me.

Celebrities (especially politicians) younger than me existing.

You wash all your dinner dishes before you go to bed.

Waking up at 7 on a Saturday for no fucking reason

When you stop caring if something is a childish thing or not. Some people never get there.

You empty the dishwasher immediately, as it is the only time during the day you have the time to do it.

You wash your sheets, because of the calendar notification popping up.

you vacuum the flat on saturday at 8 AM, as that is the time to vacuum the flat in your planner.