My fiancée sleeps with a fan. I sleep with my finacée snoring.
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I do the same, I can't sleep without a fan
I even use a fan in the winter. I like cold air on the outside and warm air on the inside. More than that, something about the wind moving past my head is soothing.
Lmao thats a tough one
Not necessarily.
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I had insomnia for about the first 45 years of my life. At its worst, I would miss at least one night of sleep per week. By "miss" I mean I would go to bed at a reasonable hour, lay there with the lights off and my eyes closed until about 4:00am, when I'd get out of bed, get dressed, and go to work.
I tried drinking myself into a stupor. I tried white noise CDs. I even got a prescription for Ambien from my doctor. That scared me because I thought meds would do the trick, but I took it and still didn't sleep.
One day I saw a post about the Sleep With Me Podcast. It's described as bedtime stories for adults. I followed the link, started listening, and thought, "this guy may be the most boring person I've ever heard".
I started playing it when I went to bed, and it worked for me from the very first night. I fell asleep within minutes of starting the episode, but then I woke up after it ended.
The next night I loaded my phone with all the episodes. I slept through the night, but then I couldn't wake up in the morning. My alarm would go off, I'd hit snooze, then I'd hear the podcast playing and fall asleep again.
What I finally settled on was setting a sleep timer to stop the podcast a few minutes before my alarm would go off.
I've been listening to that podcast every night for the last 11 years. It's been the best sleep of my life. I've actually had the experience of being consciously aware of losing consciousness. It's a weird and wonderful thing.
The thing about the stories he tells is that it seems like there might be a point, and you start listening to the story, but he goes on so many tangents and diversions that it never actually goes anywhere. After a while, my brain just shuts down.
The first episode I listened to was telling a story about a group of people about to enter a pyramid. It ran for over an hour, but I didn't hear more than a few minutes.
The next episode continued the same story, and when I started it the next night, the people were still outside the pyramid. In over an hour of telling the story the night before, absolutely nothing happened.
Damn dude, I figured I'd give it a shot. Over 12 minutes in and it's been ads, introducing the concept, then more ads, then a short song, then another ad, THEN welcoming you to the show with another explanation of the concept. If I wasn't trying it because of a recommendation I never would have made it this long in.
Yeah, it doesn't work for everyone. He even says that in the intro.
I'd point out that if you thought he'd get right into the story, you weren't paying attention to my description. I'm usually asleep before he gets through the intro.
Nah I got the gist of it from your comment, just almost 15 minutes of pure ads at the beginning is abrasive to me.
I did stick with it, but unfortunately for me I have the same issue as I do listening to an audio book in bed. Even though he's talking nonsense about butter and whatnot, I'm still paying attention too much. Was worth a shot though.
I swear I've read a creepypasta of something like this happening to someone.
Yes.
There's a retirement village nearby, and EVERY MORNING around 4 o'clock, some motherfucker with a huge rubbish truck goes in.
The driver parks.
The driver walks over to the large industrial bin.
The driver opens the lid to see if it's worth putting the contents in the truck. If it is, he lets the lid SLAM down, then pushes the rusty metal bin over the bitumen road towards his truck GRRRRNNNNNNNTTTT (because the wheels on those things never work).
He then gets back in his truck, does the little garbo magic with the mechanical arm thing, the truck lifts the bin, and he bangs it against the top of the truck receptacle a few times for shiggles BANG BANG BANGGGG, then moves the mechanical arms to place it back down on the bitumen with a gentle kiss BANG!
He then gets out of his truck, and pushes the now empty industrial bin over to where it was GGNNNNNNKKKKTTTTTT and positions it gently against the brick wall there BANG!
He then gets back in his truck, and reverses out the driveway DOOT DOOT DOOT DOOT DOOT DOOT DOOT DOOT DOOT DOOT DOOT DOOT, and finally fucks off.
Dozens, if not hundreds, of people live there. If I can hear that truck as a neighbour, how much worse must it be for the oldies trying to sleep there?
"If I'm awake everyone else should be awake to witness it." ~ asshole on a motorbike, overrevving on a 30mph road at 5 am
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No, I cant sleep with anything with vocals in it. My brain strains too hard trying to interpret or ignore it. Non-vocal music can work very well at low volume as long as its repetitive and thus predictable enough that my brain doesn't have to pay attention or react to a lot of changes in composition.
A lot of comments in here about white noise and no one talking about brown noise! Brown noise is elite iykyk
I want something deeper than brown noise. Haven't had any luck though.
Try the Biggest, Blackest Brown Noise!
not intentionally, white noise from the ac or a fan is fine on summer nights though! and the sounds from my girlfriends headphones when she stays up a bit later than me, but only because I get to be next to her lol
a speaker/TV show/movie? absolutely the fuck not I can't sleep with that my brain wants to pay attention so bad
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Yeah, tinnitus.
He's 100% right. I laughed at the imaginary pain, until it happened to me.
"Trust me, you do not want tinnitus." – Sterling Archer
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nMfPqeZjc2c
For the past two years. Without it, I have intrusive thoughts and anxiety. The sound makes me able to dream and to remember my dreams. I feel protected. Like I was in a bubble, sheltered from reality.
Oh yeah this one is my go to as well
Tv every night
Yeah, my girl is a pitch black silent room sleeper so I do the headphone out of respect. Like I said though, during the days when I sleep alone the TV is blaring.
I always put on one of Vinny Vinesauce's vods from his Fullsauce channel when I go to sleep. He just relaxes me so much I'm normally out within less than 5 minutes whereas in complete silence I could end up taking half an hour or multiple hours to fall asleep.
Never, but I like conversing with my internal monologue in my head. I'm not quite neurotypical, but I have been pretty good (trained?) to rein in any out of control thoughts if they ever wander by using bait I know my brain can chill with.
When I was a teen, it was sexy stuff. Young adult, plot points for a novel setting I'll probably never write. Lately, it's just plans for the day (I sleep so much faster now than I used to, though, since I changed my sleep habits after having kids).
Plus, my own monologue makes sense of how I'm feeling and gives me pep talks! That's probably a product of coping with abuse, but it's nice none the less.
You planfor the day and fall asleep? If I start planning I start stressingand worrying and I stay up all night
Especially when it spirals into panic about not having fallen asleep yet which keeps me awake even longer which makes me panic because I have stuff to do tomorrow! Which keeps me awake, on and on
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I’m so goddamn hyper alert that I need complete silence and pitch black darkness to fall asleep.
Except for thunderstorms. Those are oddly soothing. But that’s it.
seconded on stormy nights, I love sleeping with the pitter patter of rain and thunder
Playing by Minecraft rules, I see.
Ooooof I'm the opposite. Hyper alert meaning every minor noise, shadow or anything will keep me up. Need to drown it out with someone's voice telling me about a video game from 20 years ago. Or some nonfiction book read by a dude with a monotone voice.
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I prefer to sleep in the quiet, but if the neighbours are being loud I'll use a fan to drown them out
No
We have a ceiling fan, and I also used various white noise apps on my phone. I read somewhere that sound apps running on my phone all night was bad for the battery, so I bought a small, dedicated rechargeable white noise machine.
White noise (usually a fan) has been greatly beneficial to my quality of sleep. I wish I had started doing so many years sooner.
I do not do well with TV or anything that has speech though.
Podcast recommendations:
- The Drowsy Historian
- History of English Podcast (Kevin Stroud)
Both have no ads at all, and uniform volume.
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If it's hot out yes because I got a window ac unit. But when it's cold out, it is the deepest silence, and I love it. Either way, doesn't bother me. But I prefer the quiet.
"Woo" unintentional ASMR, for me. Love hand reading and concave earth nonsense, it sends me straight into Morpheus' arms.
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I live in a city, of course there's noise, mostly road noise from cars going past tbh
I absolutely have to have white noise of some sort. My stupid ass brain is ALWAYS on alert for any noise whatsoever. A pin drops on the opposite side of my apartment and my brain freaks out "omg wake up and pay attention!!" it's so fucking frustrating. Any typical creaks or whatever that a house makes, well time to focus the entirety of my attention on it whether I want to or not. A knocking heater? It's the most dangerous thing in the universe and apparently my brain feels that it deserves all of my focus...
I swear sleeping is the most difficult thing for me to do. I'm so tired of being tired lol
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