Transfem

The VAST VAST majority of people see some degree of sexual contact as a necessity in any long term relationship. You are, of course NEVER obliged to have sex with anyone. However, stating in your bio that you are in no way interested in sex will mean that you don't have to deal with people who expect it. because they will read that and simply move on and look elsewhere.

There are plenty of asexual people out there who only want companionship and you really ought to concentrate on them. A relationship between you and someone who isn't asexual will only end in resentment, because either you capitulate or they do. It's the same with having children you have to be in agreement with your partner or it won't work. Even if two sexual people have different libidos it can be a problem because one feels starved for attention and the other feels pressured to the point it becomes performative.

Hey, heres a "guide" on how to detect and treat chasers, it might be helpful for yor situation!

What exactly is a chaser?

We use the term “chaser” to describe people who fetishize trans individuals based on their assumed sexual characteristics. They are not looking for genuine relationships or friendships, but simply other people to satisfy their sexual fantasies. Although the majority of chasers are male, people of any gender can be chasers.

There are a few clear signs, although not all criteria need to be met:

Excessive focus on your body, especially your genitals.
Very quickly asking for photos and images of you, sexual or non-sexual in nature.
A rapid urge to meet in person, just the two of you, especially (but not exclusively) with the person in question.
Love bombing, i.e., showering you with compliments. 
Often intrusive, pushy behavior, (passive-)aggressive if you are not interested in sex, often accompanied by attempts to make you feel guilty.
Use of sexualized language and fetish terms to describe you.

General behavioral tips

Trust your gut feeling. If something makes you uncomfortable, you should refrain from doing it. As a rule of thumb, “no” is a complete sentence and only ‘yes’ means “yes.” If someone tries to persuade you to engage in intimacy—even digitally—you should set boundaries with that person and block them completely. This also (and especially) applies to requests for other contact options (Discord, Instagram, TikTok, Telegram, etc.) and photos. In general—regardless of the platform—make use of the option to block people. Consider adjusting your DM settings so that only people with whom you have other friends, servers, or similar connections can write to you directly, or disable DMs altogether. If you are unsure about someone, it is better to say no at first or ask friends for their opinions.

Haven't had that experience (yet? thankfully) in my transition, but yeah ew, I can imagine. I only had a guy be all flushy when I sat next to him in the train, but other than that, nothing.

I think it's because guys often date only for the fucks, and not to just have a fun time together gaming, walking, doing hobbies. They're horny mfs. But yeah, I feel like what you describe are chasers, ie. people who "chase" trans people, not because they think they're cool, but becaue of fetishisation. They wanna treat us as a sort of property, and don't actually care at all about us and our issues as people.

Jealous of your looks though sis, I wish I had that! Either lucky genetics, or that's good exercise. Maybe I should do that too. Any tips, if I may ask?

sounds like chasers to me, on a side note I'm so glad i only date women.

Stay safe sis. Make sure to let someone know where you're going and put your own safety first. I'm so sorry youve had these experiences. I would just stop using Taimi entirely. I've dated men before though and yeah I could go on about all the horrible experiences I've had.

Its tough out here. Hope your week is off to a lovely start 🩷

Is dating common for asexual people? Would it be courteous to disclose that before meeting up with someone?

Chasers simply don't view trans fems as people, they see them as sex objects. They're so entitled and porn brained that they see you saying no as if a sex doll told them no and they flip shit.

What do you mean with "date stealth"?