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This has happened too many times to be a coincidence and it's always men from Taimi that already know I'm trans, it's never the men from Hinge whom I date stealth.

They invite you over everything seems nice until you tell them you don't want sex. I'm asexual, and this leads to some agressive reaction from him always followed by "you're too young and immature you can't be asexual" with tarnsphobic remarks. ALWAYS the same sentences.

This last time this guy yelled at me saying "You think I'm stupid? You're asexual but post pictures of your fat ass in your profile" I'm not joking he literally said that shit 💀

Mind you they're not pictures of my butt, I'm fully clothed, this is an example:

It's funny how I never get these reactions from men that I'm having a date with while stealth, not even when I tell them later. They either don't care or just tell me they're not interested in trans people, but the guys who are from Taimi seem to be the most transphobic and deranged.

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[–] Acelia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 1 week ago

Hey, heres a "guide" on how to detect and treat chasers, it might be helpful for yor situation!

What exactly is a chaser?

We use the term “chaser” to describe people who fetishize trans individuals based on their assumed sexual characteristics. They are not looking for genuine relationships or friendships, but simply other people to satisfy their sexual fantasies. Although the majority of chasers are male, people of any gender can be chasers.

There are a few clear signs, although not all criteria need to be met:

Excessive focus on your body, especially your genitals.
Very quickly asking for photos and images of you, sexual or non-sexual in nature.
A rapid urge to meet in person, just the two of you, especially (but not exclusively) with the person in question.
Love bombing, i.e., showering you with compliments. 
Often intrusive, pushy behavior, (passive-)aggressive if you are not interested in sex, often accompanied by attempts to make you feel guilty.
Use of sexualized language and fetish terms to describe you.

General behavioral tips

Trust your gut feeling. If something makes you uncomfortable, you should refrain from doing it. As a rule of thumb, “no” is a complete sentence and only ‘yes’ means “yes.” If someone tries to persuade you to engage in intimacy—even digitally—you should set boundaries with that person and block them completely. This also (and especially) applies to requests for other contact options (Discord, Instagram, TikTok, Telegram, etc.) and photos. In general—regardless of the platform—make use of the option to block people. Consider adjusting your DM settings so that only people with whom you have other friends, servers, or similar connections can write to you directly, or disable DMs altogether. If you are unsure about someone, it is better to say no at first or ask friends for their opinions.