Does it come with massive amounts of anxiety every time I look at it?
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But only until you go to another room.
You can also just cover them with a pizza box.
Or any other DOOM ( Didn't Organize Only Move ) pile.
I have boxes for that.
Pretty sure that's not ADHD but anybody seriously in debt crisis.
No debt but still have pile of unopened letters. It's a huge relief when I finally tackle them and realize it's mostly just junk mail. Only to find it was pile from last year and this year's pile was on the other side of the desk to be anxiously avoided until I have the willpower to do it again in a few months. Then I remember that's how I got badly in debt in the first place.
It gets easier. Then harder! Then I find sonething new to dive into and forget all about it again
No extraordinary debts (just the normal ones on auto-pay) but the other day I inadvertently unearthed a speeding ticket from a traffic camera in a foreign country I traveled to four years ago.
I have no idea if I paid it, but now every time I see it I get filled with the dread that I'm somehow an international fugitive, and yet I'd still rather die in a foreign prison cell than call the number on the ticket and ask if it's been paid.
The trick with those is, if you never acknowledge you received it in any way you don't have to pay and never get in trouble.
...Probably, I only have one data point.
If you haven't gotten any reminders, they don't really care, and it may have even reached statues of limitations. And unless it's a real corrupt country, they'll just have you pay it if they "catch" you. Just throw it away.
Try the following trick: mail is a mix of different kinds of junk. So unopened mail needs to be separated in order to sort it into the correct bin. Opening is not about reading and reading is only about checking if it can be binned directly. If you have similar tendencies as I do, this works wonders. You have you separate the envelopes that have plastic windows though, they belong to a different bin.
What a surprisingly profound post.
That's how I feel about everything I learn through tough experiences and then try to incorporate and keep incorporated in my life.
Also people who are really lazy. "Eh I'll check them out later"
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When I moved house, I put all the Very Urgent Mail into a separate pile and packed it into my backpack instead of a box.
So I could go through it and do what needs doing before all the boxes are unpacked in the new house.
The pile still sits on my desk untouched, it's been 6 months, and my cat now sits down on it whenever she wants to be left in peace. She knows I'm not gonna go near that.
I figure since no cops or court officers have shown up yet, it can't have been that urgent after all.
I keep tuning maybe I don't have adhd and then I read posts like this.
Are there psychopaths out there that open their mail and read it?!
Those people also probably answer their phones when someone calls without texting first. The monsters.
Easy peasy my friend. Divide and conquer. I open all the mail, sort out the garbage from the important stuff. I throw away all the chaff and bullshit, sort that into important stuff that needs attention, and important stuff that needs to be kept track of.
I then throw the important stuff that needs to be held onto but requires no action, into a box with the year (or at least a year within the last 3 years) written on the side. And then every 5 years or so I throw away the old boxes.
At that point, what's left is just a few pages per week that I then give to my spouse so they only have a couple of things to deal with.
They then take those couple of pages and put them on top of the ever looming pile of toxic things that we will never dare to touch again.
However, this pile is strategically placed so that it can't be missed, and acts as an anxiety point that drives us to do other tasks that would normally be avoided, but now seems like a nice diversion in the shadow of "the pile".
Or at least that's the way it used to work, but now we just avoid that room completely.
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Um... How many pieces form a pile?
I have two right now, and they might as well be a pile, knowing my patterns. They will form a basis of a good big proper pile until I have a manic episode.
I know mine's more than I can count at a glance.
Because counting them would require touching them
NO, I DO NOT!
I have several 😑
Once I scan them and file them digitally I will throw them away! Any day now...
No need for scanning. I have a binder where I neatly organize them, and currently they are all shoved under the binder so that the cats won't play with them.
I also have set up paperless for this!
I also have a very few things in paperless
More like
... do you have a pile that you see every day but never touch
or more like
... do you have a pile
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True and all, but this is an autism community. Why are there so overwhelmingly many ADHD posts here? There are ADHD communities for content like this.
Isn't that what a mailbox is for? Holding several pounds of junk mail and maybe 2 bills? 😶
I'm in this picture and I don't like it
Welp, guess I’m cured… later losers!
Work: I try not to.
Home: Ask me next week.
I don't like this post because I have three
Ha! Both physically and digitally :)
Oh dam... I just did mine this week, and it took hours because its about 4 months worth. I do think it's partially due to being depressed more since it's mostly bills and I just avoid them.
No. I don't check my mail to avoid it
I thought it was more an anxiety pile
I don't even look at it some of the days
How about if you look at that pile of mail and say oh yeah I need to read all that shit and then say I'll do it tomorrow and then you see it again in a month and do they same shit
Confirmed ADHD.
At some point maybe, nowadays it's all just garbage so I feel like this is fairly common.
Important stuff isn't a plain white envelope.
Important stuff isn't sent just once, you get reminder letters.
So, I can sort the post another day because it looks like it hasn't changed since yesterweek
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