I was in a simmilar situation a while ago
For a multitude of reasons I left mainstream society as whole and began hanging out with alternative and queer communities exclusively.
Along with other things I noted my dating experience was improving significantly. Not only did I found other neurodivergent folk with whom a social interaction was fun, but I was influenced by what I actually wanted in a partner.
After becoming poly and beginnging my transition, going back to dating in "normie-space" turned out to be impossible.
At this point I think the difference in what I need and what the mainstream can provide is to large. The people who understand me most are the ones whom I share a connection with, either by having simmilar conditions or modes of thinking in general. Those are the people I want to date and who also want to date me, for simmilar reasons.
Maybe not a feasible option for you, but I know others who have a simmilar story like this. Hope you find a fitting solution