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I tried dating sites for a while with much disappointment. I tried joining a few activity groups, but didn't find anyone who really understood me.
Story time
By chance, I happened to meet someone through a mutual friend. All communication was online and I didn't even know what they looked like. We played a few games together, and I enjoyed their company.We were both invited to visit our mutual friend, so we met in person there and got along well. They had to drive 700km (450mi) to get home.
I wanted to stay on contact and I realized that I had 2 options. I could do nothing and probably never see them again, or I could offer to share the drive with them and end up in a town I'd never been to with no family or other friends nearby.
Going somewhere new like that was a terrifying concept, but I was even more scared of never seeing them again.
I offered to share the drive, and to my surprise, they said yes. I ended up staying with them for a week to get the best prices on flights home. It was basically a sleepover with my best friend, and it was the best week of my life (so far).
After getting back home, I realized how much happier I had been there. A few weeks later I packed everything into a rental car and moved in permanently.
I never actually dated anyone, I just claimed my human and moved in with them. We've been married for several years and they're still my best friend.
I can't offer much advice about finding someone because I just got lucky.
I can tell you that stereotypical dating is far less important than finding a friend who makes you feel comfortable and safe, and brings out the best in you.