One could write a book on unspoken rules for tipping in the US. Do you tip on takeout? Do you tip baristas? Does it depend on the beverage? Do you tip if you sit down but bus your own table? What's considered a good tip (and this is situation-dependent)? The only thing I can tell is if you're worried about something happening to you, then 20% of the price is generally a safe amount.
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Easy highly controversial fix : dont tip and start demanding that people are paid a living wage
Do NOT stop to talk in doorways.
Or at the bottom of escalators.
Elevator Etiquette: Let people exit before you enter. That way you have more room to enter. This applies to all things, not just elevators.
Trains, buses, gangbangs...
Since the majority of people in the world are idiots, and management tends to collect them at a higher rate than other roles, you will generally be rewarded more for how you make others feel than the amount or quality of your work. A person with a 10 in charisma and 4 int gets farther than the person with a 10 int and a 7 in charisma most of the time. Focus on learning better people skills. If you find a place where your work is recognized you should cherish it.
Also in the US the left lane is for passing the right lanes.
Even if you have a green light at the crossrowds you shouldn't drive if you can see that you have no way of exiting the crossroads and would block others e.g. there is a traffic jam on the road you want to drive into.
(at least in Poland)
It’s called impeding traffic in the US and it’s illegal. Some places are super strict and even having your bumper in their intersection can get you in trouble. I wish more people took your advice or at least more places enforced the law
I wish more people were aware of it and not simply thought "green means go".
If you need to stop while walking on a path, inside or outside, step to the side. I can’t believe how many people just abruptly stop to look at their phone, have a conversation, point out something they find interesting… like my guy, would you do that in a car? Fucking GOOOOOO!!
Other people exist???
Yes, those same people are likely to act the same way in a car
When driving, you should engage your turn signal before you start applying the brakes in preparation for your turn.
Also, related to proper use of turn signals, you should signal well in advance of your turn. The rule of thumb I learned was your signal should be on for three seconds of before you turn, assuming you're currently in motion. Additionally, you should actually use your turn signal. Far too many people seem to be scared of the blinken lights. There is no reason not to use your turn signal.
- Changing lanes? Signal.
- Turning from a turn-only lane? Signal.
- Backing out of your drive-way? Signal.
- Pulling out of a parking spot? Signal.
- Moving the steering-wheel for any reason other than continuing to follow the curvature of your lane? Signal.
- Driving in a post-apocalyptic wasteland where you are confirmed to be the sole living thing left on the planet and doing any of the above? Signal.
If you're turning and think you have a reason not to use your turn signal, you're wrong. Fucking Signal.
Cant you just fucking read the mind of the person in front? They are clearly thinking of turning way ahead. Sometimes before they enter the car.
When driving, if you plan on turning from the turn lane, switch lanes and THEN slow down to turn. Don't slow to a crawl before leaving the driving lane.
This is my husband's "pet peeve", as he puts it. "Don't just throw on your brake in the middle of the road! Why are you slowing down? Signal!"
I originally got this one from an Actual Advice Mallard meme.
Do not start or continue a phone conversation when going to the bathroom - public or private restroom but especially in public bathrooms.
I've seen people facetiming in the men's room.
About ten years ago I was talking to one of my sisters on the phone. She was in NZ, I'm in the UK, so it wasn't an everyday thing. Evening for me, morning for her. So we're chatting away and suddenly there's a weird noise, like interference on the line. I remarked on it - and it turned out it was her PEEING. She somehow thought I wouldn't hear? Bloody hell.
don't hold your phone while driving
"Do unto others..."
Even those who supposedly devote their lives to such teachings don't seem to know wtf that means
I don't think everyone agrees on what it's supposed to even mean. if you want no mercy to be given to you should that mean that you shouldn't give others mercy?
Let the people out of the elevator that are trying to get out of the elevator before you attempt getting in.
Elevator, all public transport, buildings. There’s more space outside. Stop cramping.
Yes! And to those getting out: don't stop or walk super slow the moment you are out, people are trying to get in, get out of the way!
And escalators. I forgot one of the reasons I hated shopping with my ex but this past weekend we had to get some stuff for our kid. Sure enough, STOPPED as she stepped off the escalator. Wtf
Ditto buses and subways
So many of these are "Don't create obstacles or bottlenecks".
Return your cart, zipper merge, wait for people to get off before you get on, don't block doorways.
Clearly, the truest unspoken rule is "Get out of the way!"
Zipper merge done properly is amazingly efficient.
If you need to have a conversation with someone, don't block the entire hallway to do it.
This gets so bad at groceries certain times of the day.
But I get really annoyed at them at places like Costco. The aisle is like 15’ wide: how are you even managing to get this much in the way
One day I'm going to get the cops called on me for screaming like a maniac at the people hosting an impromptu reunion in front of the item I'm trying to get at the store.
We all know that Suzanne doesn't care how little Timmy is doing, and you're really not going out for coffee sometime or getting all the kids together for a playdate.
You get a polite "excuse me", a less polite one, a "I'm trying to get to the [whatever]", a 3 second soul-piercing glare, then the hamster falls off the wheel and the demons get released.
I like to enthusiastically join the conversation. "Oh how IS little Timmy? I hear he shows a lot of promise on that baritone accordion of his! Were they able to reattach his foot after the incident?" Then everyone gets weirded out and confused enough that you can reach through and grab the grocery you want.
This is probably just a me thing, but if you have to use the restroom, just say that instead of saying what you specifically have to do. I don't need to know any details and you don't need to share them with anyone. The only details worth sharing is if something happens, like a pipe leak/burst or something else serious.
Be aware of your surroundings. This is not just a safety thing for yourself, but a courtesy thing for other people.
Push your chair in after leaving a table at a cafeteria. It blocks the path for people who are carrying trays and may not have a free hand to push it in themselves.
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