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I'm also curious about this. I never had a breakup. Been married for 12 years.

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All my relationships ended while the next started - i am an honest guy and if i develop feelings for another person while in a relationship i do inform my partner before doing anything else.

The first one i practically fled - She was quite abusive and i moved out as fast as i could.

The second relationship was dead and it was obvious for both of us - high emotions were only in the moment i told her that i'm out, i was hit by a open red bull can, but afterwards it was calm.

The last one i was left by her - the relationship was dead too, but i still feel for her, and if had any chance of winning her back i would take it. alas, there is none.

Confused.

I didn't even know we were dating. I took a friend to see LOTR because she was just as into fantasy as me. A few days later, she "broke up" with me saying she wasn't ready for a relationship. I was like "What? but we're not dating?"

Despite being in my mid 30s I never had one. But I was rejected by someone I fell head over heels for. That was… bad enough, really.

anyone else never had one? married my first gf and it's been a couple decades now lol

I wasn't too upset, I'm the one who wanted it and this was in middle school. We just went our separate ways as best as I can remember, no one was particularly hurt. In my limited experience breakups go a lot smoother when you're both ready to call it quits, it's just a problem when it's only one of you that's done.

I had high school “relationships” that were kids stuff. The first real relationship I had was in college. We dated over two years and when it ended I was.. RELIEVED.

I was just sick of her bullshit and she was pretty much just as sick of my bullshit.

The relationships ended when our lease ended and I was so happy to put her in my rear view.

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I was devistated when my first girlfriend left me, I briefly considered suicide and was depressed for half a year. But ended up being a good thing, my second partner I've been with for much longer now and love to death.

I'm 37m now. I was with my first gf from age 18 to 24. I was a wreck for years. I didn't go on a date for at least a year. I didn't have sex for 2 years. I didn't get into another relationship for 5 years.

We had kinda been circling the drain for a while, so it shouldn't have been a surprise at the time, but I didn't know any world without her and I was scared to end it.

Looking back, it was one of the best things that ever happened to me, but in the moment it was awful. I was a depressed wreck for years.

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Really awful. We had been together for about 2 years and she just... disappeared. Lack of closure and not knowing if she was even safe was tough. Years later she contacted me and told me what happened.

You're really young and it was a long distance thing, right? Breakups around then are really manageable. The way you describe feeling sounds reasonable. I've felt similar following breakups, even big ones. My first serious girlfriend that I broke up with was actually exciting. She and I weren't really meshing and her friend (the one who got us together) had a thing for me. Ended up dating the friend within the same week (ah to be 15 again). That one ended way worse with cheating and all kinds of bullshit. It doesn't real get brutal until you're living with someone for years and then breakup.

Devastated.

I only had one real relationship before my wife, and I was the one broken up with.

I was devastated, and just generally sad for probably a month or so. After a while, I started to realize that my life with her would have been pretty bad. She was shallow, judgemental, not particularly bright, kinda bad in bed. I would've stayed with her out of loyalty though.

It gave me the push to improve myself and get out there more, and I became much happier than I was when we were together. I've been with my wife for 13 years now, and she's amazing.

Relieved, tbh. It wasn't working, and it hadn't for a long time. We somehow drifted from being a couple to friends with benefits. And over time, I am reluctant to claim there was much if a friendship involved either.

We did have a lot of mutual friends, though, so we didn't cut contact. And about a year and a half later I was back in the area, and a bunch of us were out drinking. She was making out with some dude she met that night, possibly/probably in an effort to make me jealous. One of my friends asked me if I had any opinion on the matter, and I don't think I've been so honest ever again: "Never before have I felt so indifferent".

I actually felt similar after the end of my last relationship. It was causing me a fair amount of stress and when I ended it, I felt relief. My first break up was way too long ago to really recall my exact feelings. But normally it's anger or sadness instead of relief. For me, the relief or feeling refreshed typically happens on reflection instead of immediately after.

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wasn't much of a breakup but then it wasn't much of a relationship

(Male 37)

When I finally broke up with my first love in ninth grade after having endured her cheating on me with my best friend for two years - which I was aware of but didn't know how to deal with - I felt worthless, stupid, ugly, like a failure and I wanted to kill myself. Did some real damage to my hands to numb the pain. Even now, 25 years later, the whole ordeal still hurts mentally and physically. I know she was an incredibly horrible human being and I shouldn't punish myself for it, but that's easier said than done.

I've also broken up and got divorced about five years ago. We were together for eight years and married for four. This time, it was kind of amicable - we just had to go our separate ways even though we loved each other still - but it still felt horrible. I felt like puking for days after. It also shoved me into moderately severe depression and now I'm on meds for it.

I wish I didn't have feelings.

Absolutely devastated. I got on my bike and pedaled away as fast as my little legs could go. I dried my eyes and went to my grandma's house and had some cookies.

I mean first? Generally pretty sad but most did not even go very long or very far. I was pretty nerdy but I did some dating in high school so. Even after that. I mean I broke up with some and it was still sad. You want(ed) it to work. I can't see a scenario where I would decide to be in a relationship and not be sad when it ended. That said you can also be excited to be out and about looking although I find I need time before that happens.