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I mean first? Generally pretty sad but most did not even go very long or very far. I was pretty nerdy but I did some dating in high school so. Even after that. I mean I broke up with some and it was still sad. You want(ed) it to work. I can't see a scenario where I would decide to be in a relationship and not be sad when it ended. That said you can also be excited to be out and about looking although I find I need time before that happens.
I don’t know if it’s wrong to feel this way, but the thought that I’m in a free Western country (Switzerland) right now, and can go on public dates, have a public relationship, show PDA, and be open about it, makes me feel excited, lol.
Your feelings are valid!
It sounds like there was no betrayal or hostility involved, just two people who grew apart.
Because you’re a good citizen you didn’t start looking around before telling your partner things were over.
And it’s springtime, so certain… feelings are more prominent.
I mean no one should feel its wrong to feel some way. I mean as long as your feelings are not leading to hurting people or something. We are all different and you know we very different with out things. I had very few relationships before marriage so there is a bit more intentionality and significance to them. I had friends who started dating in high school and heck maybe junior high and grade school and almost was always in one. These are like the hey do you want to be my girlfriend/boyfriend, ok. type thing. So I really think its going to depend on the individual. Im one of those people who think its good to feel sad sometimes and thats ok but its also good to feel good or excited. I do think I would feel sadder knowing someone I had been in a realtionship was not sad though. Then I would be wondering if I was bad.