I haven’t gotten shit done today because we are doing cluster maintenance tonight. I couldn’t even sleep in this morning in prep for it because my brain was like “nah we got that thing tonight we better be up for”

[–] Hadriscus@jlai.lu 21 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (2 children)

Seriously, where does this come from ? anything I know is coming up, I am frozen. But improvised events ? no issue at all, I can be ready within fifteen seconds. As long as it doesn't involve too many people, of course.

[–] Cypher@lemmy.world 13 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

It’s anxiety, which really seems to be the root of most of ADHD

[–] DokPsy@lemmy.world 7 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Exactly this. I know me. I know how quickly I can get sucked into something and look up to find I'm 7 hours deep from a hyper focus and completely missed The Important Appointment. If I don't do anything before the scheduled task, I don't run the risk of missing it because time doesn't exist.

[–] ThoGot@feddit.org 2 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

That's why I started setting alarms with just enough time left do get ready for the thing
(sometimes they actually help with the anxiety)

[–] DragonTypeWyvern@midwest.social 2 points 2 weeks ago

And other times you set three just to be sure

[–] devfuuu@lemmy.world 2 points 2 weeks ago

Unless then you are constantly worried and checking the phone to confirm the alarms are actually set up correctly, for the right time, for the right day, and that the sound is up enough to be heard and that there's enough battery for it to go off... Alarms and notifications stress me even more.

[–] dontbelievethis@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Maybe because when it is far in the future you have all the time to think about all the things that can go wrong?

[–] Hadriscus@jlai.lu 13 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I don't personally think about anything, it's just the looming presence of a planned event that prevents my tranquility. But I don't think I'm imagining much. Are you ?

[–] Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world 9 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

I figure it’s because I know that an event is going to take a certain amount of energy out of me. Energy is a finite resource that only gets topped off after I get enough sleep (I can’t take short naps either. I take forever to fall asleep.) Therefore, if I have something planned for the evening, I feel compelled to “reserve” my energy so I don’t feel too drained by the time the planned event happens.

By contrast, if something happens in the moment, I might have enough energy for it just by chance. I’m not concerned with “saving up” my effort if there’s nothing planned later, so I can go with the flow as long as I can keep pace.

[–] Hadriscus@jlai.lu 3 points 2 weeks ago

Ah, right. I can relate to the energy part. Any social event is exhausting.

[–] enkille@lemmy.world 16 points 2 weeks ago

i have a tentative "might happen one evening this week" plan and it's causing a similar reaction every single day somehow

[–] FordBeeblebrox@lemmy.world 13 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Hell I even feel this way about going to therapy sometimes. I look forward to arriving home the whole time I’m driving there but it does feel good to check it off the to do list.

[–] explodicle@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 weeks ago

Simply sit down and talk to one person for an entire hour with no interruptions or change of pace whatsoever. Easy! /s

[–] Agent641@lemmy.world 6 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

I used to have this really, really bad, but I got over it somehow and it does not phase me anymore.

A couple weeks ago I got a bunch done all in one day. Car service, dentist appointment, license renewal, eye test and vehicle inspection. And in my spare time bought new cookware, some books from thrift store, and has a sit-down lunch.

I'm not really sure how I got over it. Maybe just exposure.

[–] GregorGizeh@lemmy.zip 20 points 2 weeks ago

I can do a bunch of appointments in succession. I can't have enjoyable free time, an appointment of some kind, and then free time again until another scheduled thing. All that free time I will spend waiting, on edge. Can't relax when there is still a thing to be done.

[–] Ioughttamow@fedia.io 3 points 2 weeks ago

This has been causing me trouble at work for the last few weeks, yeesh. Picked up my first bottle of Vyvanse though! Start tomorrow, yippee!

[–] sfxrlz@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 week ago

only if it’s kinda important and/or you can’t predict exactly what will happen and what will be the outcome