All posts need to have the same title: me_irl it is allowed to use an emoji instead of the underscore _
It hits for me when I'm typing it out and I can already read the braindead response they're going to type and I don't want to spend another 2 paragraphs preempting the obvious response and I definitely don't want to wait a few hours/days to explain why they're still wrong.
Me when I realize the person I'm commenting to is from hexbear.
Tank you!
That's because Reddit sells anger quite well. Their bots and human instigators work overtime to get you to comment like that. I think all of us Reddit refugees have fallen for this shit.
We're not doing great on deprogramming ourselves either. The news outlets not only manufacture consent, they also manufacture outrage. This isn't a new problem either. It's been going on since at least the Spanish-American war, probably earlier (see also William Randolph Hurst , Joseph Pulitzer).
This is why "disable inbox replies" is such a great feature that I wish Lemmy would implement. For when you still have something to add, but it looks like the conversation is going downhill, the thought of further responses is causing anxiety, and you know the right choice is going to be to let the other person have the last word anyway.
Here's a tip for how I've improved my social media experience greatly:
Stick to a rule of 1 comment and no further replies.
Strangers online are not going to be convinced by your point of view and there is nothing to gain from getting into a back and forth conversation. Unless it's a particularly positive or productive conversation about a particular interest you share....there's nothing to gain from arguing online and lots of potential mental damage you risk.
Proposal for an exception: Where the comments/discussion revolve around something non-controversial with people who are OK with partaking in a conversation without needing to win it.
You're clearly incorrect!
I know you're playfully joking, but I second their opinion. I was basically on a crusade against misinformation in 2020 and 2021 against COVID deniers and election truthers. Nobody ever changes their mind. Nobody ever admits their wrong. No matter how respectful and accommodating you are, no matter what sources you find, it's just not worth it. Give one response if you feel inclined, but don't reply to the reply. Don't waste your time. Don't get pointlessly stressed.
People do change their minds sometimes, but it's never done in the moment and if you press them too hard on their beliefs they'll double down.
My stance is: when arguing on lemmy, you're not only trying to convince the other one. You're also trying to convince future readers. Even if the other one is an asshole, people see that and that has an effect.
Actually a great tip, thanks! I will take this into my memory.
"I didn't have time to write you a short letter, so I wrote a long one."
i wanna say Mark Twain said that, but I'm not 100%
I thought it was Victor Hugo but apparently it was Blaise Pascal
It's a similar story with editing videos. Paring a video back is where most of the time goes.
Yep.
Flippant, mildly humorous comment, one sentence: (2,345 👍) (123💬)
Well thought out, reliably sourced reply of one to two small paragraphs: (3👍) (0 💬)
Lemmy is actually better on this. I get a lot of upvotes for well thought-out long posts and comments here as well as humorous one-liners. I've been pleasantly surprised that people actually take the time to read out my longer posts. On reddit it'd probably just get lost and be another 1 thumber that never got read.
The key is also to make your story interesting. Something that pulls your reader in. Be personal and amicable. Realize you're talking to real people and speak to those people in your writing. I'm more of a creative writing buff. I managed to eek out 98th percentile for creative writing in my SATs. I love writing. Its my favorite thing to do. I want to be an author. I fucking hate my ADHD. I've started a hundred books at least and either bore myself or tell myself its a stupid plot, even though I have friends and family begging for me to finish something.
My early books were written in small notebooks. The old ones that sorta looked like they had cowprint covers with a title on them. They'd get passed around the school for weeks. I'd get them back and people would keep asking me to continue. I never did. Fuck me, I hate ADHD sometimes. But your words are alive. They can heal, hurt, cause laughter and tears, and, above all, words can influence anything. Words are power and, as long as you are careful of that power, you can write any damn length you want.
Honestly, my fear now is AI. I like AI, but I don't want to write a book and have people claim its AI or AI assisted. I'm regretting not writing one earlier now.
tl;dr: Is k. Writ stuf.
Yeah arguing on the Internet is a waste of time which is why I don't do it much anymore unless I feel very strongly that someone's reply to my comment needs to be disputed.
Most of the time I make my point then don't bother responding to any replies. It's much more pleasant to respond when it's you're not arguing, just discussing something interesting.
If someone is an obvious tankie or far-right troll, just be like "Lol loser" and never elaborate further.
Reddit? Nah that's literally every platform.
If I was the owner of Reddit, i would 100% save in-progress comments, and keep the unsent ones in the database for my enjoyment.
If I was the owner of Reddit, i would 100% save in-progress comments, and [...]
sell the data to AI companies
sell the data to other humans!
how much would you pay to see all the not sent comments of some account?
Pretty sure it would be profitable.
Imagine reading all the tweets that were never sent...
In all seriousness - I wouldn't because I value people's privacy, but I imagine it'd all be quite lucrative with the data economy being what it is.
I am slightly concerned that I recognized the anime source from that one frame 😅 To be fair it is a fantastic series! Check out Paranoia Agent if you can 🍿
Literally just finished watching it. Incredibly series from the GOAT Satoshi Kon. But... I will admit when I first saw it, my brain went to
When you're 20 minutes into an argument on reddit and suddenly get permanently IP banned for saying something that didn't even break rules
I do this all the time with regular comments! I get sidetracked by life, come back and see this giant post i was making and go eh who cares and back out.
Someone gave some advice on a forum or a blog or something a long time ago that really stuck with me and completely altered my outlook about social media and interacting with people via the internet in general:
Before you hit "send", ask yourself whether this is for your benefit, or that of those who will see it.
I basically stopped using socials after that, because I seldom thought of anything that followed this rule, and my feed was so full of garbage from people who also didn't, but saw fit to post it anyway. The internet has given society an ego masturbation problem.
I bookmark subreddits and read them without logging in. Every time I feel the urge, I've got a hurdle to cross before I can type anything. Then it's immediately a "fuck it" moment and move on
The Reddit interface is so fucking obnoxious when you're not logged in, I've just given up on the community entirely. Days of casually browsing have been ruined by the constant gating and engagement baiting and GUI hell they've injected into the site.
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Yeh I've stopped myself from making negative comments before, you aren't changing anyone's mind and it's probably gonna get you banned
lol I got permanent my banned for saying I was surprised Kanye hasn’t murder/suicided Kim or Taylor yet… they’ll ban you for anything at this point
"and suddenly you remember most readers of your comment will be bots"
Sometimes I just delete it, sometimes I go ahead and post it and hope nobody responds.
Happens on this platform too
I've written paragraphs and paragraphs about how calling someone stupid is not ad hominem. I've gone 20 comments into a thread trying to explain how analogies work. I'm currently in several arguments about the fact that water is, indeed, wet.
don't go there bro. not worth
No one, on their deathbed, has thought "Man, I should've spent more time arguing online"
Sometimes multiple times in a row.
Sometimes on the same post.
Hello ADHDers! It really is a health management skill to catch yourself and pull away. The worst is when you do care about the topic and you know you're mismanaging your time, it doesn't actually matter, but you can't not "finish it so at least it's out there"