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More men should wear skirts and dresses. With right style even masculine men can look good with such clothes.
And long hair. Long hair is so beautiful and sexy that everyone should grow long hair despite of the gender.
In the 60s and 70s, feminists fought for the idea that people should feel free to dress and act however they wanted and not let their gender define them.
It seems like we've taken some steps backwards since then. Men wearing dresses is more accepted now, but only in the narrow confines of being trans. I don't think Kobain or Bowie ever wanted to be defined as trans, they just wanted to be themselves and challenge cultural norms.
I wouldn't agree with that wording, it's more like people see wearing a dress or a skirt as something that makes you a woman (or woman-adjacent). They don't see it as socially acceptable for a man to wear a dress or skirt not because they think it's unacceptable but because they see him as a woman, or wanting to be a woman. Trans women aren't men wearing dresses, trans women are women, who sometimes wear dresses.
The conflict here is that men (or masculine/androgynous enbies) who wear dresses aren't women and don't see themselves as such. So other people seeing them as women or wanting to be women for their fashion choices sucks. I agree that Kurt Kobain and David Bowie if they were alive today probably wouldn't want to be defined as trans. Many GNC people today face hardship because society expects them to want to be women due to how they dress. Although I have noticed that getting better. Egging and Egg culture is way less acceptable these days, and most people in the community can recognize how nasty it is to dismiss someone's identity and call them the wrong pronouns on purpose. 4 years ago I wouldn't be so sure of that because it happened so much in queer communities I felt unsafe being open about my gender non-conformity online.
There's a sort of societal pressure to present as your gender when you're trans simply because it's safer and the alternative is often being misgendered and marginalized. it's also really scary to change presentation early on so early in the transition is when you'll see many sort of "overcorrect" and go overly femme or masc, but many are perfectly happy to be gender non-conforming, and many try less hard as they get more comfortable with themselves.
There's also the growing trend of femboys or guys that present more feminine, and I see guys painting their nails more than before these days.
I think a celebrity making a gesture or doing something symbolically is really cool, but at the end of the day the real signs of a cultural shift is what regular people are doing casually, and to me it feels like there's something shifting, even if it's slow going and there's pushback.
PS the trans dress thing sounds sort of accidentally transphobic, but looking at your profile I don't think that was intentional and is just an issue of phrasing.
I've noticed that many people don't really care that much when I present feminine in public, and that it's also the same for many other femboys as well. So I think public perception of it is at least neutral. Things are getting better these days, even if it is slow. I think that until people are doing it casually though it'll always be seen as something fringe or queer. Not necessarily a bad thing, but not widely accepted as normal like how women wearing pants is.
As a bald man... Fuck your long hair encouragement! (Out of spite, and envy)
Fortunately for you, Scotland exists
FREEEDOOOOM!!
... for gender expression
As long as your gender expression is channelled along very strictly defined lines that define what tartan to wear, how to wear it, which accessories are allowed / required with it, etc.
I run in circles where dudes semiregularly wear kilts.
I've sat in a circle with other dudes where they were comparing brands of utility kilts. Lol
There are folks out there that wear them. It's just not super fashionable in a lot of circles. Unfortunately.
I also have a toddler. So yes.. I run in circles quite often.
Lmfao
I agree. Gender stereotypes suck. I feel like lots of men would love skirts if it was socially acceptable for them to wear them in more places. They're way better than shorts when it's hot.
i remember reading that in the medieval age, most noble men had long hair because it was a sign of wealth and such
It makes sense. A lot of fashion is showing off your wealth. It's also showing that you don't do manual labour. When I travelled in South-East Asia, a lot of taxi drivers had one very long fingernail. The accepted reason for that was that if you had that kind of nail, it showed you didn't do a job that involved physical labour.
There's a man's skirt sitting in my Etsy favorites for so long. It's scary to pioneer something like this but it's so tempting at the same time.
Do it do it do it do it do it do it
I think you should do it
Buy it and start small! Debut it for friends indoors, get the validation and confidence and slowly start working your way up to wearing it outdoors :3
friends? 😿
I've thought about it sometimes, But when my hair starts to reach about 4-5 cm in length, i start getting itchy, sweaty, hair gets fatty and i start shedding scales like crazy...
i think that's a phase. my hair got fatty when it was 4-5 cm long as well, but that stopped somehow when it got even longer. i guess the body just takes some time to adapt or sth.
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Don't be so rude. Lots of people ignore lots of things! We're all learning.
Refrain from washing your hair everyday
Do some research about your hair and scalp type and what products they need in order to thrive. For me that was the key to better quality hair and no more irritated scalp :))
100%, long hair for all!
I have long hair, and it's a major pain in the ass. Even though it's in a braid 99% of the time, I still find long hairs everywhere. And, wrestling it into that braid is annoying because the only time it's at all manageable is when it's still wet from the shower. I can't get a brush / comb through it any other time.
The main reason I stick with it is that I really hate hair styling sprays and gels, and I think parted hair looks really stupid. So, my choices are either very long and tied back, or very, very short.
Sad bad genetics noises :(
Long hair is nice on young people. I was nice with long hair, I looked like Jean Michel Jarre on his Equinoxe album.
Make that hair gray.
Ugh.
Is also where everything goes down the drain and social pressure starts to crush people.
My younger me would’ve stated that everyone should wear hoodies, jeans and short hair.
I get what are you trying to tell, but when i talked about everyone getting long hair, i mostly meant men, and how they should be more open to it. Its fine if people want to have long or short hair, but for men specifically, long hair is considered gay in my country, which is unfortunally homophobic, and ive heard stories about boys being bullied and even beaten in schools just because of long hair.
So it turns out kind of opposite. Men are socially pressured into having short hair, and generally "not being gay" in homophobic way.
Yeah, it’s really just about that exact wording and not accidentally ending up with dictating the opposite of what is the current issue. Every style should be allowed. I’m not very hopeful we actually could get there some day.
My nephew gets excluded from the boys toilet by schoolmates because he has long hair 🤦
*I don't know why the downvote? This is long hair on some people. My hair grows up, not down. Less perm, but I joke I'd look like Bob Ross. More similar is Seth Rogan, Jeff Goldblum (pre-jurassic era)... or like a hobbit.