spouse is a great help ;)
Libb
joined 1 year ago
Like the others: don't. It will most probably be too much of a burden, for him most certainly (he already told you not to do that, it could be a costly mistake to ignore that explicit demand) and, I would imagine, It will be painful for you too even though you may think otherwise, for now. Believe me: you don't know.
(old fart mode ON)
Being in a couple does not mean being together all the time, imho that would be the surest way to shorten the life expectancy of most couples. And that's coming from someone that has been with their partner for 25+ years and counting.
Also, like already mentioned in other comments if you want him to grow and become an adult, let him have experiences and make friends on his own. It is is essential and, yes, that also undoubtedly includes a fair share of bad and harsh experiences too... For him, as well as for both of you as a couple.
Our own couple is holding nicely not because we're perfect my spouse and I, we are not. Quite the contrary. And certainly not because I (over) protect her from the outside world. She would massacre me if I tried to act like that. We're sticking together because we know we can work (better) together to make things work no matter what's happening and because we enjoy being a couple, aka we appreciate being together without constantly being glued together all the time or constantly trying to tell the other what they should do ;)
Really, don't be afraid to let your friend get hurt and feel lost. Like a baby learning to walk or anyone learning to ride a bike... feeling afraid and falling down (and getting hurt) is a legit part of the teaching/learning process. There is no other way to learn... anything that is worth learning.
(old fart mode OFF)
Scoop for the German government: we also have no real alternative to US troops/military supply. Should we lower the EU flag and welcome anyone wishing to took hold of it since the USA has made it clear it's now up to the EU to defend itself?
It's a personal choice, based on personal priorities.
That’s the fundamental problem with your post,
If you say so. Thx for the useful insight.
Thx once again. Great video, well worth listening to.
thx, a lot! I will watch it asap :)
trackballs, the arguably superior input method.
As a mouse user, I vehemently contest that unfounded affirmation!
That being said, you have already managed to make me pull out of its drawer my old trackball and put a fresh battery in it. So, who knows? Maybe trackballs are not all worthless plastic gimmicks? Joined! :p
As a student, I would not have offered 100$ + chocolate + flowers to anyone. I was too broke :)
First, I would check with her brother if it's expected you should make her a gift? I mean, in today's society, getting too close to a teenager, even for her birthday or as a way to be polite, may be very ill-understood.
Then, probably I would have written them a nice personalized note, with a little silly sketch or something, along with some flowers. Say an encouraging note for a young girl/woman. Or maybe I would have offered her a book. To write the note or pick the book, I would have needed to know the girl a little more (worst case, ask her brother). By default, without any specific info, I would pick a nice poetry anthology, the nicest edition I can afford so the person would see it's no just some random shit I have picked up on my way to her party (and would not discard it without even looking at it).
Poetry can be an amazing gift... provided you can get the person to open the book and start reading the poems with interest (appetite), which is not a given with those younger generations. It may help if you already noticed a poem you think she might enjoy more in that book and decided to put a (nice) bookmark at the corresponding page?
Yeah, I'm that old that I like to offer books (including poetry) to people... as well as to myself ;)
Sorry I don't click YT, unless it's really worth it. What is the video about?
All those ungrateful tourists that can't stand the idea of getting mistakenly deported into a High Security Salvadoran prison and then being left to rot there because 'yeah, it's kinda annoying but we can't get him back, you know'.
If I were the all-mighty orange dude, I would put a 146% tax on every single tourist that is refusing to come spend their money in the USA! They're nothing but traitors! They should pay! And maybe I would invade their country, to show the world who's the boss.
I like routines as much as I like... change. Which means that I love to experiment with new stuff as often as I can but once I find something that works well and that I enjoy using, it won’t be easy to make we switch to anything else. That's why I've been using a fountain pen for long-form writing for 50 years now. There are more practical and cheaper writing tools (I'm also a Uniball user and a lifelong Bic fan), but I've yet to find something that can compare to the smooth and almost completely friction-less experience of using a fountain pen. So, for anything longer than a quick note, I use a fountain pen.
It's the same with notebooks. I will keep using the one I prefer until I stumble anything better or that I like more. So, unsurprisingly, since I’m nearing the end of my blue journal I’ve just unwrapped its successor, which happens to be yellow (I'm a sucker for flashy colors and this brand comes in many different ones, or in classic black or cork hardbound covers).
Like the blue one, it’s a sketchbook not a notebook. It's from the Dutch brand Royal Talens. Why a sketchbook? Because of its (ivory) paper being 120gsm (plain, no lines nor squares, no dots, it's a sketchbook) which makes it great for sketching, obviously, but also great for using a fountain pen (which is double great news, since I also use a fountain pen for sketching). This paper doesn bleed (it can even withstand some light watercolors wash). I've really fallen in love with them and they're not expensive (The non-pro lines of Royal Talens will often be very reasonably priced for excellent quality, if you're into watercolor you way want to test their Van Gogh paints, imho they're among the best non-artist grade watercolors).
I like those notebooks so much that I've stocked enough to last me at least two more years. It's silly, since they're readily available in a few shops around here but, you know, better be safe than sorry and then I have all those pretty brightly colored covers pilled up :p
Enough not sponsored content and back to this week's question: do I have any ritual with a new journal?
I do. I'm not much into emotions but it still feels exciting to start a new notebook. And I do have a ritual. I will ruin its very first page on purpose. Making a stupid sketch or just staining it. Doing so, it will instantly stop feeling intimidating by the journal, thinking it's too nice and that I would not write (or sketch) stupid shit in it. The journal is already ruined. No need to worry about writing shit any more which is incredibly liberating if you're anything like me. That's also how I will write anything: I will write complete non-sense for a few lines and then the brain starts feeling less intimidated and, hopefully, starts writing slightly less shitty stuff ;)
It's a bit different with my pocket notebook. My journal (the Talens one) never leaves my home, so I carry with me a smaller Clairefontaine spiral notebook (that works great with fountain pen too even though I use a Cristal Bic in that notebook). On the first page, I simply put my name + email + phone number with or without a silly sketch and with a short message: '20€ reward if found'.
What about you?