Harsh truth for you bud. She doesn't like you and she probably hates you for trying to get her to like you. She treats you bad because you let her and keep coming back for more. Honestly, I'd hate anybody doing that with me. I'd lose all my respect for that person very fast. I think most people do. This is on you to accept it and get on with life. She's already made it clear that she's not interested in whatever you are hoping for.
this post was submitted on 26 Mar 2025
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i blocked her :) thanks
Good for you!
That is true, but it still doesn’t seem like an excuse that she hurt OP and didn’t communicate to her how she felt respectfully.
As far as we know, from what OP has told. But it doesn't really matter. The only thing that matters is that OP moves on. Both OP and this girl will be better off without this toxic interaction of theirs.
Why do people try to save Dead before arrival "relationships" like this? Dont expose yourself to people who tell you they hate you and want to hurt you, believe them when they tell you these things
Even if she did cut off contact, it seems this person is harassing her regardless. I agree that it’s better to cut contact though, assuming she did?
she thinks i’m disgusting or inferior because of my disabilities.
If she said this to me, this bit right here is the "full stop" where I would have cut ties with her and she'd be gone from my life. At best she may be younger, and this may have been said as a tantrum of someone too young. She may grow out of it, but its not my job to "fix" her. There is much better use of my time, effort, and empathy with anyone else but this person. Its also possible this is who she is.
The result is the same: I'd simply never interact or talk to her again, and move on with my life. There are literally billions of other people in the world that aren't this person. I'd like to get to know those other people instead.
It sounds to me like she needs a scapegoat, for lack of a better word, and she's chosen you to dump on. Do your best to ignore her and don't feed it. Her opinion doesn't determine your worth in any way, it's irrelevant.
She sounds very self-centered, creepy, and sick in the head. For some reason, I would say she’s fixated on you, and it feels like a 5-year-old playground bully but worse as she’s a grown woman.
And most people don’t go out of their way to befriend children and follow children < 13 they don’t know on social media, so are you sure you even want validation from her?
Life isn’t fair, but hopefully one day, she’ll either change or pay for how she’s treated people. People who defend her or don’t care that their “friend” (you) is being harmed by this lady they’re obsessed with are kind of dicks, too.
Yeah, no, you need to cut them out of your life and never look back. The fact that 1) they have a special interest in you, 2) they sound like they have a weird attraction to kids, and 3) you say you're disabled in some way seems like you're being preyed upon. Good on you for picking up on things, now you need to act on your feelings, stop giving them the benefit of the doubt, and get away from that situation.
she “hates threesomes”
Fine, I guess. This sounds like a boundary (of someone who’s monogamous) but the way she reacted makes it sound like you asked her out. If she tries to make it seem like you’re being actually romantic with her, it’s weird and it reminds me of those bullies who think “Oh, you’re a lesbian? OMG SHE HAS A CRUSH ON ME EW!” (Especially since you have stated before that you’re a lesbian/bi)
too “disgusting” to flirt with
Not ok.
we “weren’t close enough to be friends” even though she finds me “too inferior” to even try and be my friend.
I’d be glad she doesn’t consider me a friend. What an ableist creep.
she tries to be friends with my friends in a weird way, such as being overly nice and touching their shoulder/head, and it has been reported several times that she is somewhat creepy towards children irl and especially online and will go out of her way to follow and “befriend” children under 13 on social media apps.
Harassing you and obsessed with pre-pubescent kids. 🤢
she has also defended people who like children romantically and saying that their romance should be okay.
I don’t call your run-of-the-mill jerk a pedo to insult them, but I think she IS. Anyone who talks to minors to “be their friend” and supports the romance between someone under 12 and someone over 18 is probably one themselves. There’s a difference between her behavior and people who are kind to children as a babysitter, teacher, etc. And people like that (teachers and stuff) probably don’t want to befriend children and get their personal info.
she thinks i’m disgusting or inferior because of my disabilities. she’s nice to everyone else regardless of their disability, but they either have adhd or autism + adhd so maybe autism + bipolar isn’t “one of the good diagnoses”.
False ally, she’s trying to look good. Often these people will say they support people with disabilities but it’s only the ones that are “good” or “interesting”, so to speak. They’ll even say they support autism but will hate you and never speak to you again the second you show signs of it and start to unmask around them. People who only support “good diagnoses” are fake and gross.