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is it likely that someone like this will change? what would be her possible mindset for doing all this? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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the woman who hurt me for years always finds a way to blame me for things. things are never her fault, and she thinks i’m disgusting or inferior because of my disabilities.

she’s nice to everyone else regardless of their disability, but they either have adhd or autism + adhd so maybe autism + bipolar isn’t “one of the good diagnoses”.

she’s charismatic so everyone defends her. they either don’t know about her or dont care as long as she isn’t hurting them because they love her so much.

she flirts with all her friends and told me I was too “disgusting” to flirt with and that she “hates threesomes” and that we “weren’t close enough to be friends” even though she finds me “too inferior” to even try and be my friend.

she’s fixated on me to an extent it feels, going out of her way to piss me off, make me jealous/hurt, making rude “jokes” (which are more annoying than hurtful) but then acting like she does this with all her friends.

she tries to be friends with my friends in a weird way, such as being overly nice and touching their shoulder/head, and it has been reported several times that she is somewhat creepy towards children irl and especially online and will go out of her way to follow and “befriend” children under 13 on social media apps. she has also defended people who like children romantically and saying that their romance should be okay.

I keep trying to give her the benefit of the doubt and holding onto hope that she’s a good person who just suffered a lot and that she actually likes me, but I know she doesn’t and I get hurt every time I give her that benefit.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

she “hates threesomes”

Fine, I guess. This sounds like a boundary (of someone who’s monogamous) but the way she reacted makes it sound like you asked her out. If she tries to make it seem like you’re being actually romantic with her, it’s weird and it reminds me of those bullies who think “Oh, you’re a lesbian? OMG SHE HAS A CRUSH ON ME EW!” (Especially since you have stated before that you’re a lesbian/bi)

too “disgusting” to flirt with

Not ok.

we “weren’t close enough to be friends” even though she finds me “too inferior” to even try and be my friend.

I’d be glad she doesn’t consider me a friend. What an ableist creep.

she tries to be friends with my friends in a weird way, such as being overly nice and touching their shoulder/head, and it has been reported several times that she is somewhat creepy towards children irl and especially online and will go out of her way to follow and “befriend” children under 13 on social media apps.

Harassing you and obsessed with pre-pubescent kids. 🤢

she has also defended people who like children romantically and saying that their romance should be okay.

I don’t call your run-of-the-mill jerk a pedo to insult them, but I think she IS. Anyone who talks to minors to “be their friend” and supports the romance between someone under 12 and someone over 18 is probably one themselves. There’s a difference between her behavior and people who are kind to children as a babysitter, teacher, etc. And people like that (teachers and stuff) probably don’t want to befriend children and get their personal info.

she thinks i’m disgusting or inferior because of my disabilities. she’s nice to everyone else regardless of their disability, but they either have adhd or autism + adhd so maybe autism + bipolar isn’t “one of the good diagnoses”.

False ally, she’s trying to look good. Often these people will say they support people with disabilities but it’s only the ones that are “good” or “interesting”, so to speak. They’ll even say they support autism but will hate you and never speak to you again the second you show signs of it and start to unmask around them. People who only support “good diagnoses” are fake and gross.