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Mine is the volume of their voice. If all that they can do is just talk too loudly with no reason for it and don't control the volume of their voice. That to me is a sign that you're a stupid fuck. Because people think the louder they are, the more righteous and attention seeking they are. Than it is to just listen, digest and respond accordingly to anyone talking around you.

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[–] lord_ryvan@ttrpg.network 38 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Not learning and adapting, never admitting they're wrong when they actually do realise they are wrong.

Managers tend to not like me.

[–] scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.tech 13 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Refusing to learn is the most frustrating things. Working computer repair this would be the surefire way that 1) I was not going to like you and 2) you were going to be a moron who will give me a lot of money of the years.

"I lost my Gmail password."

"Sure let me show you how to reset it"

"NO. JUST DO IT"

"sigh, that'll be $30."

I would always try to teach people how to do things. Refusing to learn at all though, well, I've always wondered if there's a link to refusing to learn anything new and dementia

[–] satanmat@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

I have a major problem!!! It is causing me pain and I cannot work because of this issue!!!

Sure let me fix it…

No!! Not now! Come back later!

So, it isn’t that big an issue?

No!!! It is so big I will talk to your boss about how you are not helping and why it is causing me issues!!!!

β€”β€”β€” yeah had this conversation more than once. Sigh

I feel you.

[–] ChillPenguin@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

Never admitting you're wrong is a big one. Admitting you're wrong allows you to grow as a person.

[–] some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 29 points 1 year ago (1 children)

People who believe in the bible as a historic document.

[–] wizardbeard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Very frustrating, especially when the book itself has a lot of fairly direct "this is symbolism/allegory/not to be interpreted literally" statements within.

[–] xilliah@beehaw.org 2 points 1 year ago

Can you share some?

[–] southsamurai@sh.itjust.works 21 points 1 year ago

Bigotry

It isn't necessarily about intelligence, since stupid is as stupid does.

I tend to call that willful ignorance. It's knowing that there are other ways of thinking, but refusing to even consider them. Which is stupid, dumber than dammit, and/or moronic. I've known some damn intelligent people that are stupid by virtue of not using their brain.


Be aware though, not everyone can control their volume. I don't doubt you were aware of that, but it's not so rare a thing as to not be worth mentioning. There's also others that have trouble controlling volume.

Again, I don't doubt you meant the folks that can control their volume, and do so without difficulty, just adding to things.

[–] NaibofTabr@infosec.pub 20 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Not keeping a constant speed when driving on the highway. Just pick a speed and drive.

[–] EveryMuffinIsNowEncrypted@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

While I agree with you, I would like to point out one exception I've noticed: veeeeeery occasionally you'll run into someone with an old junker that either has a broken cruise control or an old, not fully maintained cruise control system.

My old busted up, 70% rusted-out ’99 Ford Ranger that I had bought for like $1000 had the latter problem, where the cruise control would work, but its accuracy sat at around Β±1–2 mph or so.

[–] MoonMelon@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 year ago

It's annoying when the vacuum system has a small leak so, over that long road trip, the car is always slooooowly losing speed. It's such a nightmare to diagnose, at least as a DIYer.

[–] Zikeji@programming.dev 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

My car is a 2015 and didn't come with a cruise control lol :(.

To be fair, I can drive at and maintain a consistent speed without it, though I didn't have to often thanks to stop and go traffic πŸŽ‰.

[–] EveryMuffinIsNowEncrypted@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Like, at all? From the factory? That's very strange, I would think.

[–] henfredemars@infosec.pub 2 points 1 year ago

I drove a base model Ford Fiesta about five years ago that did not ship with cruise control functionality of any kind. I was surprised as well, but the practice does exist.

[–] Zikeji@programming.dev 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Yup. Toyota Yaris '15 stock. Lowest trim they offer.

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[–] Maestro@fedia.io 6 points 1 year ago

If you don't have cruise control and keep your foot steady, your speed will vary naturally with the road.

[–] AnarchoSnowPlow@midwest.social 20 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Above everything, lack of curiosity. If someone is uncurious, it's a big red flag to me.

I was thinking the same thing. The not wanting to know more is a really big red flag for me.

[–] modifier@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 year ago

This is the main thing I come up with because curiosity is the one thing that keeps ignorance from being a temporary state.

[–] xilliah@beehaw.org 2 points 1 year ago

Unfortunately extremely common

[–] xilliah@beehaw.org 20 points 1 year ago

Inability to see things from different perspectives. Assuming any perspective you talk about is your own personal belief.

[–] hanrahan@slrpnk.net 19 points 1 year ago

Conservative politics, as Mill points out, stupid people are attracted to it. Many of them will plant a sign on their lawn to let you know.

"I did not mean that Conservatives are generally stupid; I meant, that stupid persons are generally Conservative. . - John Stuart Mill

[–] aniki@discuss.tchncs.de 19 points 1 year ago

Anyone who refuses to change for any reason.

[–] j4k3@lemmy.world 15 points 1 year ago

I will counter that the definition of intelligence is needed. Yours OP seems to be emo intelligence, maybe social intelligence. One can be very intelligent in other areas while not within these.

My quality would be a person's ability to abstract and understand subjects through inference and intuition; to see all the layers of bigger pictures and the uncertainty of truth when contextualized.

In many ways, I fail at my own stupid, but it is a striving in life. After all, what use are achievable goals.

Stupid is subjective, circumstantial, and non binary.

[–] EveryMuffinIsNowEncrypted@lemmy.blahaj.zone 14 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

for no reason

Just for the sake of argument, one good reason is actually something I dealt with for a while there: after having worked in a factory where hearing protection was absolutely mandatory for close to a year, for like two years after leaving that job I found myself shouting, even indoors, without even realizing it. It had just become second-nature.

My point is even if there doesn't seem to be a reason, there might be.

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Edit: Just to be clear, it was a job where hearing protection was mandatory, and I was there for close to a year; it wasn't only mandatory for close to a year. Lol.

[–] Today@lemmy.world 8 points 1 year ago (4 children)

My mom had a hearing issue so I spent my young life being asked to speak up. Now I'm too loud, except for when i try to adjust it and then I'm to quiet. 🀷

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[–] NielsBohron@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Profession can absolutely affect volume. Even without any hearing damage, any job that regularly requires that you project can become a habit.

I'm a chemistry professor at a community college, fairly well educated, and I flatter myself to say reasonably intelligent, but I still slip into what my wife calls my "teaching voice" in some social settings or even occasionally at home.

Blue collar dudes yell into cellphones. Doesn't matter how smart. They just do. It used to drive me nuts but I get it now.

[–] wesker@lemmy.sdf.org 14 points 1 year ago

When they don't use their indicator signal.

[–] BCsven@lemmy.ca 13 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Some people aren't self monitors. A lot of stupid/ignorant people are loud, but being loud can also be lack of awareness of their volume, hearing deficit, or cultural

My brother has tinnitus and sometimes doesn't realize his voice is really loud.

[–] sndmn@lemmy.ca 12 points 1 year ago (2 children)
[–] henfredemars@infosec.pub 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I’m less certain. Lots of intelligent people can get caught up in such things. Religion depends also on upbringing and cultural background.

[–] BCsven@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

This. One of the smartest guys I know, running a worldwide software business, is religious. Faith does not equal stupid.

[–] 474D@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

Agreed, faith can often be a sense of comfort, not necessarily gullibility.

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[–] Maeve@kbin.earth 8 points 1 year ago

Maybe they're hard of hearing and don't know.

[–] Xylight@lemdro.id 5 points 1 year ago

I have really bad social anxiety and will either speak too quiet or too loudly when i have to talk to somebody, there's other reasons someone might speak too loud.

[–] MrJameGumb@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] habitualcynic@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 year ago

Parks and Rec is gold, and Andy Samberg is a treasure

[–] some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 3 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I've always valued privacy when having a conversation in public. I speak loudly enough for the person I'm with to hear me. I've never understood people just yacking loudly so the whole world knows their business.

Loud college students were having a conversation behind us yesterday (the museum is near the university). I stopped and my partner was stopped by us holding hands. Waited till they got about fifteen feet in front of us and resumed walking.

[–] The_Che_Banana@beehaw.org 3 points 1 year ago

And NOW on the mobile phone on speaker.... it's a concept I don't get, nor want to.

It also makes me feel like an old grumpy man because I dislike it so...

[–] Maestro@fedia.io 2 points 1 year ago

Don't ever go to Spain. They are loud as hell. They all yell at each other at full volume while having multiple TVs and phones blaring on speaker.

[–] sockman@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 year ago

For me it's more likely that they just grew up in a big family where you can't get a word in unless you speak up

[–] LarkinDePark@lemmygrad.ml 2 points 1 year ago

Yes that's a good one. I'll add table manners. If someone eats with their mouth open I'll instantly think a lot less of them.

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