If their eyes do that, they might be autistic.
Source: am autistic.
this post was submitted on 26 Jan 2025
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Or socially awkward or anxious
Hell I'm generally fine with eye contact, but if I actually want to pause to put thought into an answer, I will absolutely look away so I can get in my head and think!
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My eyes always do this and I was diagnosed with ADD as a child after an IQ test. Teachers before always accused me of being dishonest and I got into all sorts of trouble because of it.
a lot of people still read me as dishonest
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Try reading to the final panel.
They can't. There were eyes in that panel, and therefore their eyes looked away.
I did. What I said still applies.
It's a fun subject to talk about regardless. The final panel makes it funny, sure, but I imagine a lot of people like discussing their variety of social quirks with others... and this definitely provides the opportunity.
Alternatively, another social quirk that exists is responding before fully processing something... replying to an email / comic / thread before reading the content completely... THAT is typically a behavior seen in people with ADD.
I have ADD and still do this sometimes verbally. I hate myself for it because it's so annoying. Ever been around someone that constantly finishes other people's sentences? Probably ADD.
But have you ever been around someone who constantly finishes other people's sentences wrong? It's funny at first but not for long, holy shit it's annoying. And they do it because they want to move the conversation along, but in reality they are slowing it down by forcing others to repeat themselves, correct, or clarify.
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What? This is technically written so it doesn't apply to him.
Came here to say this. It's so hard to look at someone in the eyes.
I don't know where to look! It's so awkward.
Bridge of their nose
Look at their right eye. If you look at their left it'll feel like they're looking over your shoulder. Lol
Bridge of the nose, or just above it.
Then you notice how far apart their eyes are or there's a zit there or they've a faint monobrow and you wonder if they've ever considered shaving it and you just missed most of the last five things they said.
I usually pick something on the wall just to the side of their head and then I get too focused on that and then the conversation is over and I have no idea what just happened.
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And if their arms or legs are crossed, they're probably feeling cold.
Source: am cold.
It's actually both.
Allists! Your eyes are not that interesting! They're boring to look at 10 minutes straight.
There's a variety of reasons - some social, some have to do with memory. Brain wiring is weird. When recalling conversations with people I will 'half insert' them into the physical space and make eye contact with 'them' as I would have in the original conversation. For me it helps with recollection; for the other parties involved I may as well be addressing ghosts.
ND salesman checking in. Yep, I hate this lie.
I went to an alternative school for a bit, and one of the βbehaviorsβ I would get punished for was not making eye contact. I still donβt feel comfortable with it.
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Had me ready to rant until the last frame... well played.
I've never heard averting eye contact means that. I do it all the time because I'm scared of making eye contact not because I'm disinterested or dishonest
In some cultures, direct eye contact is actually aggressive and disrespectful. Kind of jarring when it happens when you come from a culture where eye contact means you're paying attention...
The thing about body language is that it's always context specific. Yours is a common reason in a lot of people who avoid eye contact, especially with strangers. However, if someone who usually doesn't avoid eye contact suddenly does it, then it's often because they're disinterested or dishonest. Or just nervous or stressed. I don't know. Maybe I'm full of shit too, but I don't call myself an expert.
I think that's the joke
Whatβs disappointing is that body language can definitely help to determine how people are feeling or what they are thinking, but the people who are into it the most just seem to forget itβs not a foolproof method to completely determine the truth.
So, funny thing: a person's body language may or may not tell you something about what they're feeling, but it absolutely has an impact on how you perceive them. When you get advice to make eye contact, or not cross you arms, or ball your hands into fists and cock your arm (no, dude, I wasn't being aggressive; body language theory is such bullshit), it's saying less about what your internal mental state and more about how you're non-verbally communicating to others.
The bullshit part about body language isn't that it's not valid, because it is. The bullshit part is that there's some key that let's you interpret it unambiguously.
Some people avert their eyes when they lie. Some when they're disinterested. Some because they have social anxiety. I do it because I simply can't think clearly when I'm staring into someone's eyes, because I'm too busy drinking their souls. But when someone is talking and you avoid eye contact, whatever your reasons, they will tend to feel as if you aren't interested.
Anecdote time! The aunt of a friend was a local politician when Bill Clinton was running for re-election, and he stopped in town, gave a speech and mingled, so she got to meet him. She said his most amazing characteristic was that, when you were taking to him, you felt as if you were the only person in the room. He had no distractions, his eyes didn't wander to more important people, he wasn't thinking about other, more important things: when he talked to you, he had all of his attention focused on you, and was only listening to and talking to you.
That's what I think of when I think of effective body language. Regardless of what really was going on in Clinton's head, when he talked to someone, he was able to make them feel as if that's all he was doing: listening to and talking to them.
Lol your aunt just wanted to fuck Bill Clinton and you turned it into a life lesson on body language.
Oh, come on... everyone wanted to fuck Bill Clinton. Don't be shy.
Hey bro whatever you're talking about can't be that much more important than this angry birds level, keep talking I can multi-task
There's only one thing more important than Angry Birds, and that's the factory must grow.
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Funnily enough, I feel like in most social situations people would think I was insane or overfocused on them if I kept steady eye contact - which I easily could. But I consciously decide to let my eyes wander every now and then to let them feel less pressure. Because honestly I doubt that the cashier or my daughter's kindergarten teacher wants me to think that I talk to them like they are the only people in the room and I am 100% focused on them. I especially prefer looking "to the side" when I listen because I am way too scared for people to think I am a maniac who wants to make them my whole world.
No idea why you were downvoted. Solid analysis!
And as you see you didnt say you are a body language expert and you seem like one so i guess the comic was right.
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I just don't know what to do with my hands most of the time and sometimes shoulder pain...
Shoulder pain. I tuck my hands under my arms in such a way to kinda prop my shoulders into a position of comfort. Pretty much everything I do is just looking for the position of comfort all the time. I get some anxiety like most people from time to time, but my mannerisms are for every situation. Comfort is key.
This comic is perfect. I was starting to get annoyed after the second panel and it did exactly what I was thinking.
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