Because fuck you, that's why. It's my shit. I can do what I want.
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I suggested an anime the other day and got downvoted and berated for it not fitting their criteria. Rather than argue my case I just deleted that shit. I love the occasional anime, but holy shit the fans...
I write dumb stuff sometimes. Doesn’t matter why, I just screw up.
Most of the time I’ll leave the post up. Whatever. I’ll live.
Sometimes everyone and their cousin needs to reiterate over and over that they disagree with what I wrote. I get tired of the notifications, yeah I know I screwed up, but everyone wants a gold star by their name for telling me so.
So I delete it. Enough is enough.
Ya or when you are the voice of logic and reason in a thread that's about a highly emotionally charged topic.
That gets left up, but just walk away.
Cause I accidentally commented on a tankie post and I’d rather not be told half a dozen times to off myself.
But you're supposed to provide them their daily praxis. /s
If you suspect they might, always quote reply.
I do it when I realize it's a comment I don't want to be associated with. Maybe I realized I was being tone deaf, maybe I realized I was being monumentally stupid, maybe I thought I was being clever until the post posting clarity showed me the light, and maybe I realized I was wading into a fight I don't want to actually fight.
I get the people who prefer edits, and if I think an edit is valuable I'll make it. I'm very much not afraid to edit. But if there's little interaction with something and I realize it's something I'd rather not have said, well then I just delete it.
Oh god the amount of times I have done the same is embarrassing, maybe I should start deleting them too.
Could be shame
It’s shame avoidance, can’t cope
If it's something egregiously wrong, I prefer to edit it and own up to my stupidity.
If it's my considered opinion being downvoted, then I take the downvotes and backlash. I stand my ground, unless someone makes a point that enlightens me to consider a different position. Then, I'll edit the comment to that effect.
The rare times I delete a post or comment is usually because I've posted something demonstrably false that I realized after posting it, or I replied to the wrong comment.
We are alike in every detail here. Good on ya.
Ya I delete a comment or post when I realize I received bad info and are spreading it. If you think you aren't susceptible you are part of the problem.
Better to leave the comment up, and edit it when you realize the problem.
"~~The Earth is FLAT!~~ EDIT: Well, apparently, I was misinformed and dupe by idiots. Mea culpa."
And the idiots aren't even the problem, it's the disingenuous experts. When your a voice of authority and are spreading misinformation, well that's the end of humanity.
I used to do this when I was on reddit from 2011-2026.
I did it because I'm a narcissist. Like actually, I was diagnosed with NPD in 2023. People disagreeing with me physically hurts. I don't know how to explain it but when a person has a worldview disagreeing with me, it feels like an attack on me and causes this kind of ache in my chest.
Everything just gets translated to, "Oh, you think this way? God, you're fucking stupid! I HATE YOU!" We cannot just disagree because my opinions and worldviews are so intrinsically linked with me. My whole world is me looking into a mirror and seeing nothing but my face. If it reflects something else, that's frightening.
I obviously am trying to be a better person now and don't react the same anymore, but in the day that is why I would do it.
Impressive perspective you have there
Being a narcissist sound surprisingly like have zero inward confidence and self esteem every time I hear it described. Is that at all accurate?
I'd say so. Deep down, I don't actually like myself. I've said before narcissism is like scar tissue or armor that limits your "range of emotion." I'm either angry or feeling absolutely nothing.
I'm sorry to hear that. Thank you for responding and helping me better understand it. I wish you the best in your journey to feel better.
I have Avoidant Personality Disorder, and from what i have learned and experienced, the main difference between me and someone with NPD seems to be our coping strategy to deal with the low self-value we assign ourselves. While a narcissist makes everything about them to avoid facing their lack of self-worth (replacing the internal issue with external means), i seek to avoid attention because it makes me face my lack of self-worth (the external is what i feel inadequatedly defended against) - this lack is a constant companion for both of us.
Both conditions show signs of significant distortion of the self-image.
Both are malfunctioning coping mechanisms - they worked at early development stages in childhood, when they were adaptions to bad conditions - one needed to be attention seeking to an extreme point, while I had to avoid attention to feel safe. Sadly, these frameworks become a lot more problematic as someone grows up, and these things are hard to change at all (not impossible, but it takes a lot of effort. I have been in weekly therapy for at least 25% of my life, and while i have made advancements, i still struggle daily)
We are both very bad at accepting critique - when i was younger, online comments were able to keep me awake at night, and in-person critique e.g. at work was hell, especially if there's no time to mentally prepare myself for it. I can understand why we both might just delete everything instead of facing it. Damn, sometimes i have to take a few deep breaths to calm myself before i look at my notifications.
Thank you for sharing and for providing some insight. I wish you a speedy journey to wellness.
~~From what I've heard in all my experiences with folks woth BPD, all y'all in the cluster B have a ton in common internally, just different means of dealing with it.~~ Apparently AvPD is cluster C, so nevermind that bit
And good on ya for working on it so hard and consistently. While the results do matter, the only thing we should judge people on is whether or not they make a sincere effort, and it sounds like you are.
In a overly simplified way yes. It tends to be more the inability to have self confidence or lacking the natural ego to foster it healthily. So a over correction occurs.
With out treatment or outside help that results in problematic behavioural responses, and other issues.
So funny enough the lack of self esteem results in a facade of too much self esteem.
Again this is GROSSLY over simplifying it and doesn't even cover some of the more complex expressions of the topic.
Least this is how it's been explained to me by phycologists when we where helping my uncle deal with his narcissistic and bipolar disorders.
That man was a walking mine field of mental issues. Thankfully he's doing better now, only took 40+ years.
Kudos on you for trying to better yourself!
Damn. Having that knowledge must be some kind of a relief, isn't? I don't mean the diagnosis, obviously, but it must have taken up so much of your energy.
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I delete my comments from time to time to cover up the fact that I was horrendously wrong and somewhat stupid for even thinking it. It's hugely embarrassing and it takes away from my status as an "internet genius". /s
you know. I think im going to start trying to remember to start all replies to question ones by pasting the question and then answering in a second paragraph.
This is a great idea actually.
A little mantra I like is
Don't believe everything you think
Sometimes I come to that realization after I've hit the post button, and whatever I've said is either a dumb take or needlessly antagonistic. We already get so little free will, no need to throw away the bit we get just to be a stupid asshole.
I agree but I have a curve ball question.
When you come to the point, why not edit the post/comment to “I don’t agree with my original post/comment” or “I step away corrected”. Another take about information: “I have come to a realization that I was wrong and find someone’s comment [insert link] or this is the correct info [insert correct info is source link]”.
I ask this because I do the same as you but would this be a example of progression for ourselves and others? Is that a culture to have or do we naturally do that on our own paths?
Fair question, I guess it just depends on how I feel that day and whether or not it's even worth engaging with even myself about it rather than expunge the dumb thought from existance. I don't necessarily forget it, but the feels linger if I leave it hanging, and I only get so much time on this planet.
I guess it's just easier to delete it and move on with my life and the next time I come across the thought I approach it differently for everyone's sake.
I like to think I'm okay with being wrong, but just like every interaction, it goes smoother if I don't need to backtrack and regain the trust of my interlocutor. Mulling on it myself instead of with someone I've already pissed off is probably more productive. I guess that's also part of the learning curve.
These rang true to me.
I guess it's just easier to delete it and move on
I like to think I'm okay with being wrong
Thank you for sharing!
This is what comes to mind for me every time I do so. Lately I’ve just feel obligated to try to do something different, like what I asked to you. Maybe it could be a way to not do bad comments at least.
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I delete comments pretty frequently. Sometimes you just realize you've said something that's gonna lead to a bunch of unpleasant interactions, and you'd rather just everyone have a pleasant day.
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I delete stuff if I was objectively wrong. If people just disagree with me I'll leave it up, I don't care about fake internet points.
I deleted everything on Reddit because fuck Reddit, website doesn't deserve my content. I even got dms complaining about nuking my solutions to questions in gaming and the blender subreddit, but I just told them to leave reddit too lol.
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When I'm proven wrong and I deem the post more harmful than useful by its continued presence. But it's super rare, I am frequently right
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