Treat others how you wish to be treated. It's pretty easy.
Socks that slide down or are a bit too small? Kill me 😊
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The Golden Rule kinda falls apart if you're a masochist into CBT.
It's not like "Treat others like they express they want to be treated" has that much worse of a ring to it.
It doesn't because people into those things should usually understand the basics of consent, and also don't generally want to be treated that way by people they aren't fucking.
Not into CBT specifically, but on a similar side of the house, and yeah, consent is the big thing. "Treat people as you wish to be treated" doesn't mean do exactly what you'd want done. Consent is king. You want consent, they want consent. I love strawberries. A good friend is deathly allergic. I would love to be given a strawberry desert. That would kill my friend. I'm not going to forcefeed my friend strawberries just because I like em, but I may give them food.
Why would you want an area of land devoid of strawberries?
Only masochists are into cognitive behavioural therapy tbf…
Every time someone mentions the therapy by acronym, though, I think of the other one!
I'm the opposite. I want my sock small. I can't stand a baggy sock. I usually have to buy a smaller size than my foot.
Hurting = bad. More hurting = more bad.
The rest is surprisingly easy to derive. Not sure why people struggle with the concept...
But socks, oh my... Where could I possibly begin.
but less hurting means less money for me, can’t have that
they must just be silly for not liking to hurt for a good cause because they are not people
-rich fucks the world over
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When I was a kid, I went through a phase where I didn't want to wear socks at all. Didn't like the sensation. Then I went through a very long (decades) phase where I would wear my socks inside out. I realized that it solved a lot of the sensation issues.
For the past several years though, I have been on my third phase of socks; merino wool. Specifically the ones marketed for hiking. The kind you buy at an outdoors store like REI. I can wear them like normal, and the feel kinda like a blanket. Such great socks man...
Wearing socks inside out is huge. Some socks are better right side out, but is rare. I also agree that Merino wool kind of solves this problem, but, as a general rule, “wear your socks inside out” should be in the autism handbook.
Ive always* liked knee-high socks. Cant stand ankle socks, cant stand regular cut socks, and thigh-highs don't stay put without garters, so they can fuck off too. Basically I don't like feeling pants rub against my legs, if the sensation terminates at some distinct point.
If I cant wear knee socks I wont wear socks. If I don't have to wear shoes (can wear sandals or go barefoot) I don’t because I hate socks, and shoes, and general toe restrictions.
But, similar to your wool solution, I recently found ski socks. High quality, elastic doesn’t degrade quickly leaving them loose, etc. and no toe seam at all. They are a bit tighter than I’d like but thats probably a perk rather than a detriment. Have further to go to wear out.
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Darn Tough socks are the best. They're expensive, but worth it. I got a few pairs for hunting and now they're my go-to in the winter. They come with a lifetime warranty, but the pairs I've had for like 10 years show no signs of wear.
OMG, are you me?
I used to wear only those merino wool socks, but as I've been getting older and colder I've started a collection of oversized snowboarding socks. They are so warm.
And colorful too!!
I remember years ago I saw a joke online that said something like, if there’s a difference between right and left socks, you’re autistic. I was like, that’s stupid, obviously there’s a right and left sock, and I’m not autistic. A few years later, BAM, autism diagnosis.
Massively. I get so angered by obvious injustice while others just go ehhh and back to tiktok.
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Yes how are people struggling with; killing is abuse, animal abuse is evil, therefore I should not buy products sourced from animals
Morality. Logic. Patience. Kindness. All go out the fucking window the moment my toes in their always-double-knotted shoes feel the suffocating tickle of sock seams.
As an autistic person, morality is simple. People should be allowed to live, hurting people is bad. War and death are bad.
But if that sock seam gets in the wrong place, I can fully imagine commiting war crimes that would have me tried at the Hague or offered a high ranking position on a team of scientists recruited by the US government.
Being told to do something I'm doing, or accused of shit, makes me fly into a rage instantly.
Feeling injustice is pretty universal. I don't think it's characterising autistic trait.
i think you are missing how many people have stunted empathy in the world and how they tend to fall conservative in politics
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https://www.simplypsychology.org/autism-justice-sensitivity.html
You think wrong. Psychologists do use a heightened sensitivity to injustice as a diagnostic criterion when trying to see if someone has ASD.
And to highjack this comment as well to correct the record on your view of empathy and autism: empathy can be roughly divvied up into cognitive empathy (reasoning why someone is feeling a certain way) and emotional empathy (recognizing that someone is feeling a certain way). The former strongly depends on one's theory of mind, which tends to be under developed in people with ASD. Saying that someone with autism has "reduced empathy" is reductive and can lead to wrong conclusions (for example, one could conclude that autistic people care less about justice).
empathy can be roughly divvied up into cognitive empathy (reasoning why someone is feeling a certain way) and emotional empathy (recognizing that someone is feeling a certain way)
Colloquially people think of the latter when they use the term "empathy", don't they?
The former is a deduction, not empathy, it looks like.
I meant the latter anyway.
By the way, I don't think sense of injustice is necessarily rely upon empathy.
Autistic people have a more emotional sense of justice.
yep, pretty accurate.
Soooo...yeah, morality is simple. Do least harm. Easy as that.
I got so tired with trying the "rules for thee but not for me" approach of every single group to morality that something snapped and I began to follow idea law=moral code. It took years for me to go back to trying to figure out morality.
In the end I gave up lol. We all have to judge ourselves, because the moment we offload figuring it out to anyone else they are gonna bend it so it works for themselves. ^^
>9000
We talkin Broly levels of rage
My theory on morality is autistic people tend to develop more logic-oriented personalities. Its not a result of autism, necessarily, but a correlation.
Too much, it's a problem.
I don't think it's simple, though.
And if the cock on the dunghill crows, then it migt rain or it might not.
listen socks are not complicated. i get the light grey boot socks. they are great for my work boots, and are light grey so you can wear them in sneakers. i collected and removed all my socks and replaced them all at once with the exact same sock and brand. now i just throw them all in my sock bin, everyday i reach in and always have a matching pair. no muss no fuss. simple as can be!
though morality is also easier but still, socks are not that complicated
Some autistic people hate the sensation of wearing socks. Just the feeling of the fabric on your skin, the pressure of the seam. I think. I don’t have an issue with it.
How many years did you deal with crappy sock problems before you took the nuclear option?
Cuz the solution part is the easy part when you figure out what works for you. Its getting to that stage that has them labeled “complicated” for so many. For me, it was 35 years until I discovered socks for skiing are exactly what I want. I don't have sock problems anymore, but for 35 years socks were complicated.
i’m am going admit here that my intention was to prove the op correct, by showing that i spent way too much thought on my min maxing sock peradime, and then dismissing morality as a solved game.
Dont have any sock things. Although i have the opposite whre I have recently been wearing odd socks tho cuz sometimes I cant find the other pair for some reason and I just dont care.
For morality I think it is complex, but a lot of moral dillemas today are very simple. I.e helping the homeless. The process of helping the homeless can be complex, but whether u should is a simple YES. But people huff and puff about that the homeless are lazy, or that homeless people are drug addicts etc.
I find it difficult to not judge those types of view but i try to realise my empathy should extend to them aswell since they're human aswell. The might have particular trauama reasons why they feel so averse to helping others in need.
I think also seperating your own hatred of someone from morality can be difficult and I think its important to actively think about that. This can be where morality can warp.
So overall, I think our pereception of morality is complex since we have various biases and emotions. Morality itself imo is often (not always) more simple than we make it out to be.
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