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The community is called childfree, you'd think everyone here would be at least somewhat opposed to the concept of having children.

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[–] Aeao@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I’m on “all” not really interested in the community. You do you tho. Have kids, don’t have kids. Whatever.

Anyway I’m saying most of the parents are coming from all. Source: I’m a happy parent and I’m here.

Do you think children on this planet have a future worth living?

[–] Malyca@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 day ago

I just sort by all and my ADHD brain comments before I see what community I'm in. I'm trying to do better.

[–] PonyOfWar@pawb.social 43 points 3 days ago (3 children)

Because people use the All feed.

[–] knexcar@lemmy.world 9 points 3 days ago (1 children)

There isn’t enough content to stick to a few subreddits, and any that get enough traction will certainly be “brigaded” since there isn’t that much content to go around.

[–] otp@sh.itjust.works 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

What are your favourite subreddits on Lemmy? Lol

[–] AngryCommieKender@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Nice try, ~~FBI~~ botmaster....

[–] Nomad@infosec.pub 5 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Person disseminating extremist views complains people don't let them isolate with other extremists to become even more extremist.

Person was promised a social media bubble and it upset it doesn't work that way.

Much like the real world does not work as simple as the simple minded people want to make to believe.

[–] destructdisc@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

The fuck is extremist about "I don't want to have kids"? I'm just surprised there are so many parents on a community for people who have decided for whatever reason that they're better off without kids in their lives.

[–] Nomad@infosec.pub 1 points 1 day ago

Some people shouldn't have kids. Especially not those that don't want to have em. Know plenty of people that do that privately and I can respect that.

And then there is the child free movement that is like the vegan movement. Can't go a breath without telling people about it and trying to convert more people.

As a parent that rubs me the wrong way. There are a lot of people missing life experience that a advocate to miss one of the things with a potential for the most profound experience in their lives. Endangering it for others thinking that know it all. Its a little like a Catholic priest advocating against marriage or against sex. Its a topic he can't possibly know anything substantial about because observing is not the same as doing.

[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 33 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

Wait... This isn't a place I can get a free child?

[–] UninterestingVoid@reddthat.com 5 points 3 days ago (2 children)

does this imply you can buy children?

[–] elephantium@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago

Isn't that basically what adoption is?

[–] NewDark@lemmy.today 12 points 3 days ago

Libertarians, man.

[–] Donjuanme@lemmy.world 17 points 3 days ago (3 children)

I was child free until I wasn't?

Lil guy is pretty cute.

Saw this when browsing everything, normally I'd let it pass but I felt called out.

I totally support the child free community. Was pretty sure I'd be amongst you all.

I hope most in the child free are not aggressively against children, I knew someone like that once, not a cool person.

[–] Mongostein@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 day ago

I didn’t even know this community was here. I’m childfree and intend to stay that way. I didn’t know I needed a community to bitch about kids to do it.

[–] acosmichippo@lemmy.world 1 points 3 days ago (2 children)

There is a surprising amount of antinatalism here. Apparently people just want the human race to end.

[–] Madzielle@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

I dream about it. Like, if a fungus infected all of mand kind, and suddenly we all stopped reproducing because the fungus made our brains not want it, what would happen? Would we take care of eachother until the last ond dies? Would we ever identify the fungus and slove it?

so many thoughts

[–] TheDarkQuark@lemmy.world 4 points 3 days ago (2 children)

I do want the human race to end though. Not painfully, but rather phasing out gradually (although I do realize that antinatalism is such an unpopular opinion that it isn't really possible). No hate for children or any other being though. I just want there to be less suffering.

[–] acosmichippo@lemmy.world 2 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (2 children)

do you want to end all life that suffers?

[–] TheDarkQuark@lemmy.world 1 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Not sure what you mean by that. Neither I nor antinatalism advocates for ending existent life. It is just about not causing additional suffering by bringing new beings into existence.

If anything, I believe that we should acknowledge that we are all in this suffering together, and be compassionate to fellow living beings.

[–] acosmichippo@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

It's the logical conclusion of antinatalism. All life "suffers". If you stop bringing new beings into the world that can experience suffering then you're advocating for no life at all after this current generation.

And yes I fully support compassion and empathy, but you can do that while also sustaining the human race and life as we know it.

[–] TheDarkQuark@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

Got it. Thanks for clearing that up. I thought you were talking about antinatalists ending existent life.

Yes, in the ideal scenario, I think it is best to "end" all life, via gradually phasing out of existence. I think that would cause minimal suffering. I do not realistically think that it could happen in the next generation (or in any generation owing to how extreme and controversial it is perceived by the general population).

Sure, you can be compassionate and empathetic to existing beings, but I see not bringing new beings out of empathy (due to the potentiality of their guaranteed suffering) to be more moral and a purer form of the trait.

[–] HubertManne@piefed.social -2 points 2 days ago

yes @thedarkquark@lemmy.world because creating and ending life is the same. every sperm is sacred.....

[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 0 points 2 days ago

yeah im with you here. Also if the population and balance goes far down enough people would start having children again. We just have to get back to that level.

[–] Strider@lemmy.world 11 points 3 days ago

I just saw your post and never heard of this community. So it's your fault Im visiting 😂.

[–] elephantium@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago

IDK, I can easily see some parents posting to a community like this to say something like "Don't do it! I did, and it was a huge mistake..."

Opposite side of the coin from the common "You'll understand when you have kids of your own".

[–] DaniNatrix@leminal.space 10 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I think hearing from parents and getting insight into their perspectives is interesting and worthwhile. Provided it's not an unproductive dog pile of "you'll never understand true love" or "you're just selfish" nonsense. I'm secure in my position of being a childfree person, nothing another person says or thinks will change my mind or make me doubt myself or feel ashamed of my choice etc.

I'm childfree because I want to be and because I simply don't want to raise children. I'm unlikely to regret not doing something I've never wanted to do in the first place. I also don't want to be a surgeon or learn to play the oboe or dedicate my life to a religion or climb Everest or any number of things that take time and dedication and commitment and effort for a result/purpose I'm entirely uninterested in experiencing personally.

I also love and whole heartedly support my friends and loved ones who are parents. They have an immensely difficult job that I certainly don't want to do, and they impress me all the time with how much care and dedication they pour into being parents. I learn so much by holding space for them and my perspectives on life are enriched by listening to theirs. My own choice to not parent is also consistently reinforced by their stories and shared experiences lol.

I feel like a live and let live approach goes a long way in supporting open and productive dialog when it comes to this particular subject.

[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 0 points 2 days ago

im a bit of an antinatilist so if anything I feel the shame goes in the other direction and I think the people I know with kids are bit nuts to have kids at this point but otherwise Im sorta similar in sentiment.

[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 4 points 2 days ago

I scroll all and only block communities if I have 0% interest or if I feel the community is really looking to be a place just for the people into it. The sidebar does not really say anthing about the group so I don't see why parents would not get into the discussions if it moved them.

[–] makeshift0546@lemmy.today 7 points 3 days ago

It's a feed on a community with like 10 people.

[–] tomato666@feddit.nl 1 points 2 days ago (1 children)

My kids are both out right now, I think I'm child free, no?

[–] destructdisc@lemmy.world 8 points 2 days ago

Not what that means. Your kids exist. Childfree people don't have or ever want kids, whether biological or adopted.

[–] gaiussabinus@lemmy.world 1 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

ITT: individual confused by difference between topic and participation