The best charity doesn’t look like charity
this post was submitted on 15 Jul 2026
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where is the part where everybody clapped?
Doesn't matter if it's true or not, what I personally hate about these stories is that it cheapens the act by making it performative or self-congratulatory. If you do a good deed you're not supposed to talk about it, and certainly not in this overly flowery trash prose.
I'm not religious at all anymore but I lived a significant amount of time in the Bible Belt so you have to steel yourself against religious hypocrites or go insane. So IMO this is one of the good lessons in the Bible, for what it's worth.
“When you give to the needy, do not announce it with trumpets, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and on the streets, to be honored by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full. But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, so that your giving may be in secret."
There's merit in "do good and talk about it". Public sentiment is very dependent on that.
Honestly, if it gets people to be kind, do it. But do it genuinely. Help people and brag, but don't exploit them. I volunteer, I post about it all the time, but I'd still go even if I wasn't posting, I really don't care about the clout.
Help one another, show others your good deed. But don't do it for clout, do it because it's the right thing to do.
There's worse things to attention whore about. You could call this setting a good example, too.
The more I think about it, the more I don't like the mindset that good deeds must be done in secret. People shouldn't expect anything in return other than appreciation, but I think good deeds do deserve appreciation.
And I'd bet that bit in the bible was actually there to discourage competition and make it look like no one helps each other so the church is more necessary.
As long as people aren't just making up shit, exaggerating wildly, twisting what happened, or humiliating the people they help.
The good deed doesn't need to be done in secret. But the person doing the good deed shouldn't brag about it. Let the person who got the cake post about it if they want. And omg the writing in this post lol, white knuckles on the purse give me a break. Talk about exploitation
I have no idea who this person is. I have no idea if this is true. But i need to at least think there are people like this in the world. Especially right now. So I NEED stories like this.
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So what do you suggest? The internet, tv, everyday life, etc is full of people doing the wrong thing constantly and being rewarded insanely for it.
Then a person posts a wholesome story that might inspire others to kindness and your response is this?
What a sad world we live in right now.
You kind of need good actions TO BE SEEN. Come on man.
You get those stories from the mother posting about how a bakery did this really nice thing for her.
From my perspective, if someone advertises that they did <nice thing> then it's just ad spend. Give them kudos for spending a portion of their marketing budget on charity rather than just commercials, but it is still marketing. This can apply to individuals building up their social reputation too.
So we should do good deeds in complete silence and just hope that someone notices.
I hate to break it you guys but that's not working anymore. It hasn't for decades.
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Actually doing good shit instead of making up bullshit stories on the internet would be a fantastic start. Maybe not spend half the post glazing themselves too.
"What do you suggest?"
..... to do good deeds without announcing them. I thought it was pretty clear from the post.
"don't let perfect be the enemy of good"
So you punch down at anyone who dares to be inspired by a feel good story?
You think you're helping?
You're not. The only thing you're doing is giving people who see your opinion another reason to only think of themselves.
Punching down? I am helping. You didn't seem to understand from the post that the OP was suggesting you just do good deeds and NOT post about them online.
Get pissed cuz I'm answering YOUR question lol
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And everyone clapped
fuck off and let us have a little optimism. shits bad enough without some doomer debbie downer trying to suck the single iota of wholesome energy out of a post regardless of whether it's real or not.
This is toxic positivity, which is toxic.
Anyway, I gave half of my last sandwich to a homeless guy yesterday. Then later it turned out he was a billionaire and he appointed me to be CEO of his factory. And you're an asshole if you dispute that story, somehow.
it's only positive if you're both not male and not white.
otherwise you're just perpetuating the patriarchy and you should have gave that sandwich to a more oppressed homeless person
yeesh, seems like that struck a nerve. calm down
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