I have such a hard time with this. I just can't get myself to be ok with repeating the same shit over and over just to have a kinda normal life.
I know this is partially because of my anxiety, which makes my body be in an almost constant state of "this is the last day so nothing matters other than survival" or "this is the last day so consume and spend everything you have as tomorrow won't exist", but it's also something I just don't like.
I can't stand the repetition and no matter how hard I try to keep a "normal" life with cleaning my apartment, keeping a good sleep schedule, saving for stuff, have any sort of long term feeling for anything it just doesn't click.
I've always been in survival mode and even after close to 20 years of long term sick leave and doing my best all that time to get away from that it has never even come close to happening.
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Entropy, it ain't what it used to be
I guess a false comparison to literally everything else where it doesn't matter is the best hope for lying to your kid about the one place where it does.
Fun fact: it is scientifically proven that messy beds, thanks to more exposure to UV light and better distribution of that exposure per various points of surface, have lower populations of harmful microorganisms and are better for your health.
Release of trapped moisture is more important, especially for rooms without windows.
I guess it depends then on the level of the mess. As my kids use it as clothes storage also, not a lot of sun is getting in there
Okay... But...
If you have a comforter, and you don't give a fuck, it doesn't matter.
I speak from experience. Me and my partner never make our beds. Not ever. We're happy.
I actually think the comic is not arguing for bed-making. I personally interpreted the adult as implying to pick and choose your battles because one certainly can't win them all.
I learned early in life (from ocd parenting figures) that you have to set a certain level of clean you need in your life to how much of your life is taken up by it.
I know people who spend their entire waking hours cleaning. Can't have 1 dirty dish. Floor cannot have a spec. Lawn must be pure green grass so kill all dandelions and any "weed" (also this is terrible for the environment but anyway). All glass absolutely spotless. Its sad how much of their life they spend just cleaning, to me anyway.
I just have a rule that I don't let things be disgusting. Do I have dishes in the sink? Yes. Is it overflowing and molding? No. I vacuum and sweep maybe once every couple weeks or if it gets visually dirty faster.
I have way more important things in life than keeping things spotlessly clean.
Making a bed? Never done once in adult life. Complete waste of time for me. washing bedsheets and blankets, obviously yes we have to do that.
Funny enough, this threshold for what you find dirty or gross can cause a lot of relationship strife within a household as partners may have different thresholds for this.
Generally, the partner that has a lower threshold for when they feel like things are too dirty or too messy or too gross and it starts bugging them feels like they do most of the cleaning work because they start feeling stressed and end up cleaning earlier then the other.
I noticed this and tried constantly cleaning what I could but I still don't think it was enough, I just never noticed what they found messy/unclean :<
I just have a rule that I donβt let things be disgusting.
Some people who spend their entire waking hours cleaning believe exactly the same as you. They just have different thresholds of "disgusting". My in-laws are like that. I'm much closer to you; where I can easily accept untidy, but not dirty.
My mom found out she had HIV two months after I was born. I grew up a bit of a germiphobe. On top of conditioning me out of my entitlement and generally making me a better person, homelessness was one of the best things that ever happened to me because it cured me of a certain level of OCD as I learned that "dirty" is not nearly as "disgusting" as I once thought. I'm generally messy being schizoaffective, meaning there's order to my chaos, but I still keep things clean, just not with the OCD of "if I don't clean this plate I ate a sandwich on right now, I will get airborne syphilis," or what-have-you.
, I will get airborne syphilis,β
you say that like it's a bad thing... man I guess some people simply can't enjoy the little things in life
I'm also very much organized chaos. My wife will "helpfully" put things "where they go". She hasn't yet (in nearly 20 years...) figured out that if it's mine "where it goes" is "where I put it". I'm generally consistent with where I put things, but there's little reason to any particular place for things.
Growing up somewhere cold with usually just enough blankets, I would often need to wrap the blankets around me to fully trap the heat. When the sheets are solidly tucked in, you have to rip them out before you can wrap.
I am basically never comfortable in a made bed. If I visit a friend and the guest bed has the sheets tucked in, I have this low level subconscious response of βI guess thatβs one more thing I have to deal with now.β Not that they are wrong for doing it, but it does grate a tiny bit versus sleeping at home.
Yeah exactly, I'll pull it out the moment I enter the bed. Also, I'd rather let the bed "breathe" while I'm not there. I tend to flip the sheets and lay them all the way over the "freet end" or the side of the bed, so both the sheets and the bed/mattress itself get some fresh air
Haha, I have the same feeling for opposite reasons. I grew up in a warmer environment but kept my feet against the cool exterior wall my bed was next to. Now I have to have my feet uncovered and a fan on just to feel comfortable and tucked in sheets feel like I'm trapped.
Being human, eh?
That's exactly why you should not blindly follow things though. There is literally no advantage to a nicely made bed except that it looks nice. If that is not worth the effort of making the bed, then why would you do it?
If that is not worth the effort of making the bed, then why would you do it?
Discipline. It helps with timing things properly.
There is an advantage to your psychology, which can influence other areas of your life for the better. A bleed over effect if you will.
it has an advantage for your mental health, because it helps your mood to know you have finished a task, have a routine, and cleaning.
This isn't true for everyone... Did you know that?
For some of us, it's punishment. Punishment to keep things nice only for others.
Having to make my bed has a negative effect on my mental health. But yes, that's why I said to evaluate it individually.
It might for you. It does nothing for me.
Making my bed does nothing for me.
I make my bed purely because my wife likes it that way. I'm not bothered either way, but I do it because it's important to her.
She wakes up before I do and goes to bed before I do. I make the bed nice and tidy when I eventually wake up so she has a nice neat bed to climb into at night.
"How you do anything is how you do everything."
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"Life in every breath."
I've made a bed a handful of times in my life. The one time I remember specifically was when I had my first girlfriend over to my house when I was 17.
If you don't want to make your bed, don't do it. After 60 years of not making my bed, I've suffered zero ill effects.
You could also take away the opposite lesson, that society asks people to prioritize meaningless things, so there's no reason to follow such a vapid worldview.
"Exactly, there's so much shit you have to do over and over in life, why add unnecessary things to it??"
Or perhaps it's wonderful news about literally every aspect of life, in a nihilist way. Why try in any aspect of life if it will eventually get messed up again and your efforts will definitely be in vain? There is peace in surrendering to the inevitable chaos.
A nod to my parents on this one: up until age 12 or so, it was just mattress, fitted sheet, and sleeping bag.
Mom even sewed little straps to the non-zipper side of the sleeping bag, which secured to the bedframe: kept my dumb ass from rolling out of bed without needing to screw around with rails.
Make the bed? Just pull the corner on the foot and head opposite the straps. 2 seconds, perfectly flat.
Eventually I switched to normal sheets and such cuz in my brain, sleeping bags were for kids!! ...aka, the parents tricked me into wanting to make the bed cuz I'm a big boi, see?!
Well played mom and dad. 10/10