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If you have 5 dirty dishes, each time you walk past pick one up and hope it leads to them all being clean.
Alternatively, throw out all dishes, you have one bowl, it doesn't get clean, you don't eat.
And other tips in my new book, "It's totally fine, I'm fine, why do you keep asking?"
Alternatively, throw out all dishes, you have one bowl, it doesn't get clean, you don't eat.
We eventually resigned ourselves to just buying paper plates/bowls/cups/etc. Yes, it's wasteful. But it also helps just the tiniest bit.
I would like a copy of of your book
Genuinely, How to keep house while drowning by KC Davis is kind of like this and I recommend it to any neurodivergent person or parent of young kids.
Uh no. That tip was so tedious I stopped reading halfway through.
The ADHD urge to yap vs the ADHD inability to read more than 5 lines of text
"make a list"
"Mother fucker, I will cut you."
“make a list”
"Fine, Done. You're on it."
Making a list, then a few more. Have trouble organising and ordering the lists. Which makes a priority list, get overwhelmed and doing something different entirely.
I made lists
I lost them 🙁
Yep, yep yep yep.
Or wind up looking like a conspiracy theorist.
Hahaha 😆
Different things work for different people
It ultimately all goes into the square hole.
Same thing goes for Depression.
I use the mantra "do what must be done"
And in my mind frame it something as inevitable like a car crash or a tsunami
Then I count to 5 and start the task as soon as I hit 5.
I notice the hardest part is starting for me but once I'm there I keep going
I live on monster energy and coffee until I'm cranking out adrenalin and use the mild panic caused by that to treat every task as a last minute task.
My heart is fine why do you ask?
Tried and true method.
I use the mantra: "Why am I so stressed. How can I destress. Is it just this one fucking task that is stressing me. Maybe just do a little bit and see how you feel. Okay and now a bit more."
This seems like kind of the opposite for me.
The biggest change to my ADHD was when I got an autistic obsession with a sport, so I started excersizing, eating better and sleeping better.
The second paragraph would be entirely useless to me and woulntnwork as soon as it was more than 2 steps and involves writing
Yeah, this doesn't really explain why the first is bad advice. Technically, it is great advice, eating better, having a schedule, and proper sleep DOES help people with ADHD. The problem is actually doing all that when struggling with ADHD. So when the advise boils down to "just do the thing" and you are struggling to do it, it feels worthless.
Ok but as someone who has adhd: sleep, exercise, and diet are huge. They're just also difficult goals you have to push towards.
Different stages of dysfunction require different advice. Someone who is deep in it needs advice like "when absolutely necessary you can use an anxiety spiral to get adrenaline to break free from executive dysfunction". Meanwhile someone who can't seem to get any further than daily struggling and doing things at the last moment may need to hear that they might be better at doing what needs done if they put some of their efforts towards exercise and eating better.
yes. i agree with both tips
This reminds me of an old line I heard, "My parents took me to the doctor because they thought I had mononucleosis. Turns out I was just lazy".
How the fuck do I go from slowly moving an eyeball to doing 5 jumping jacks?
why hate on experts with advanced degrees?
Agreed on the anti-intellectualism being lame. PhDs with ADHD are where it's at, since they have both expertise and experience
I mean both are true. Good exercise and sleep help sooooo much but first you have to get there. This might happen cause you decide to just give up on everything else in your life, or because someone finally gets you to do it. Whatever the reason is, once you get into it, its a positive feedback loop. Its still a bit scary tho cause you feel like youre one bad week away from your whole system getting knocked down but thats just life i guess.
a lot of those PhD probably are themselves, academia is quite neurodivergent.
100% When I notice I'm stuck in place, I start by wiggling my toes or just a finger joint. Then build from there.
SOOOOOO REAL, same with gender dysphoria