I think you're seeing a loud minority honestly. People who use mainstream socials still (yes, I do) don't tend to shout about it all the time.
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using social media is just assumed. like driving a car, having a job, watching tv, etc. it's just background assumption, and if you don't use it, you're weird.
but there are vastly different ways and volumes in which people use it. i have most only ever used it for community/volunteer stuff. i only used it personally like 10 years ago back when it was just pictures my friends and I posted. I stopped using it in 2021 or so after it got enshittified and became nothing but advertising and porn in my feeds and my friends photos took scrolling for 5m to find.
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Just YouTube, but I only watch and don't comment or use it as social media.
Not even a little actually.
I'm well acquainted with the "I have an account for my social circle but just don't use it" version of this answer, and that's not what I mean. I genuinely never saw the appeal.
The only periods in my life where I ever held social media accounts were due to collective years of badgering and bullying by friends. I didn't get a facebook until 2017 or snapchat until I was basically about to graduate from college.
The moment I lost the social obligation I deleted those accounts with gusto and the sentiment "You know how to reach me." We all have phones and emails lol
The thing that always put me off social media more than anything, extending all the way back to the MySpace days, is how fake I would watch people I knew irl behave online. Someone could swear up and down that they hated someone's guts and wished them nothing but suffering in life... but online they'd send them friend requests and heart their little vacation posts. And that's without even going into the "personas" and curated images I'd see them project online...
I noticed myself almost fall into it once too. I uploaded two different profile pictures within a short timespan, and the one that felt a bit more staged and less like "myself" got a barrage of attention whereas me being myself was ignored. And I almost leaned into that for a couple of months before I caught myself and realized this is how personas start, and stopped trying to curate my photos for social media.
That place is not for human interaction, it's like one of those labrat drip-feeders, but for online validation. It's theater without conversation.
I genuinely never saw the appeal.
For me it's finding diasporas to connect with
Unless you count old Reddit as "mainstream", I never did.
Even if I have to deal with pissed-off people because I "still didn't join them on facebook".
my favorite is people wnat you to join them on some app. whatsapp, signal, etc. and you say you don't use apps and they ask you why you are such a dick.
because i use my phone as a phone dude.
I actually quit a volunter org because they demaded we all have slack on our phones so we could 'be available to cover for each other'. And I just flat out refused and they all got super upset with me, so I just quit. basically gen z people had joined and they refuse to use phone calls or texts to communicate. everything is slack/discord or some other group chat app.
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I use discord and piefed and that's it. Discord is mainstream, but I'm just in a couple small servers talking with friends.
I just don't mesh well with most social media. Mastodon and Bluesky confuse me just as much as Twitter and Facebook did.
This is literally my only social.media. i have a discord but mainly use it for tech forums. I ditched meta completely a couple.years ago ad it has been one of the best decisions ive ever made. I did it when i was getting sober because i recognized that it was an addiction and hated the way it made me feel. Never had a shitter or anything. I technically have a youtube but i only use it for posting the occassional video for joy.
I lurk on some subreddits still. Sometimes I just want to look at pictures of orangutans or neatly organized server racks without anyone bringing up Trump in the comments.
Also if you count YouTube, I still have premium though I’m starting to wonder if it’s worth it.
I’ve been using SmartTube on a Firestick and it’s great. Not only does it get rid of the YouTube commercials, it can also get rid of the “…and that’s why I use SquareSpace” type stuff.
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No, only this.
I lurk on Reddit but no longer have an active account.
Nothing else
I Just got my second Ban from Reddit in two weeks for mentioning Zionism in an inoccuous way.
Reddit has been captured.
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I scrape reddit for things that can't be trusted to stay hosted there and put them on the Fediverse. But I don't actually use reddit.
Being honest? Fuck no. Well, except for Facebook Marketplace. I try Craigslist first but all the good shit (and stupid people... holy fucking stupid people) are on Marketplace. Which means I technically have a FB account. I did venture down the feed a while back and the amount of AI slop had me noping out faster than a crab at a seagull convention. How anyone tolerates that shit is beyond me.
The stupidity in Facebook boggles me. Where are these people coming from?
youtube and discord but only because i cant live without those (youtube for youtubers and updates, discord for friends)
I have FB for marketplace a couple times a year, I don't install the app unless I'm buying something.
I watch a LOT of educational YouTube, and some tech news on there, using GrayJay.
Otherwise, this is it.
Used to have insta years ago.
I guess I technically have Marco Polo, but it's literally my immediate family only 🤷♂️ and that's more chat app than social media.
Edit: oh and discord for the couple of friends who use it. Plus I'm on a couple of servers for my hobbies, very specific, I hardly look at them unless I'm active in a given hobby at that moment.
Decentralisation purist here.
I guess I still use Bluesky?
Issue for me with social media is it feels like such an awful chore. I don't understand how people basically live on a platform.
Only YouTube.
I was pretty addicted to Reddit for a while, but eventually I got banned for basically no reason and that was enough to get me to almost entirely stop checking it.
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YouTube and discord if you can call those social media and Tumblr if you can call that mainstream.
I still have a Facebook account, but I refuse to even look at my feed. I don't really want to know what most of my family is up to, however Marketplace, sadly, is better than Craigslist ever was.
Still have my old YouTube account, but I rarely look at it.
No Gram/Twitter/LinkedIn Permabanned from the mainstream link aggregator what feels like forever ago
Don't remember my Tumblr login
This is it for me.
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I do not use mainstream social media. Haven't in years.
No but I barely used it in the first place.
tumblr
I keep trying to block reddit, but half of the good practical advice and troubleshooting help is trapped there.
If anybody has a giant directory of active messageboards, I'm all ears.
discord for sure, since that's where all the ESO raiding teams are. twitter's my main source of really kinky gay scalie porn, but that's about it.
I'm still in the process of abandoning Reddit and barely started moving from Discord. Almost completely done with Facebook, though, and deleted Twitter while it was still Twitter.
YouTube will probably be the hardest to replace, and I'll stay on Bluesky alongside Mastodon for a while.
I guess the hard-core fedi users are naturally overrepresented because they're posting here a lot more often than others.
I have a business profile on Instagram. I haven't used mainstream social media for personal reasons since 2008 or something like that.
No
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