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Hey I just got a RSS feed post about this topic

https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/Mqg2bqFw8k79sW7C2/you-should-try-contra-dancing

They give one example and explain the nuances of it but its really can be any sort of dancing or adult sports or board game nights or movement arts like taichi, judo, jiu jitsu, or climbing gyms for practicing bouldering, could be volunteering in some cases or LARPing, any sort of rexourring outdoor group that is physically away from devices and is pro social in a way that is low stakes where everyone has their attention on something else so the shy people have a easier time to get in

Talk.

Having a good meal.

Avoid them.

Sharing snacks eg nachos, chips and dip

Football

Either having a deep conversation or sharing an activity that we're both passionate about. Things involving genitals don't make it to that list in my case anyway. I count those as chores.

Talk about cats

Touch their genitals!

Fall asleep cuddling

I really enjoy hiking, especially in the sort of places where you can explore and choose different routes ... hiking is nice, because you're getting exercise, fresh air, and you can talk to whoever you're with, with enough time to have a proper in-depth conversation.

And when you're out in the middle of nowhere, surrounded by nature's beauty, you can fuck them.

Stuff that involves their genitals.

A massage

Laugh

At their genitals

go explorin. downtown, in the neighborhood, new building. just lookin around with a pal. good times

Playing music (jamming or performing) together. Nothing beats getting into a groove with fellow musicians.

Fish Pool Picnic Loaf

There's many other things that don't immediately involve any genitals... but, the night is young. May you find the right love, in all the right places

Eat pancakes.

Just one person? And aside from pleasantly passing the time with random chatter...

Squash.

Loved playing squash with someone of similar ability, just socially keeping score in a endless game until we're too tired to play.

Thinking of nothing else for a time, focused on the game.

Sadly my health hasn't been up to that for a while now... But that was great.

As a group activity. Table-top RPG with long-running worlds.

Usually D&D but even system-less story-teller games. Whether running the game or playing it.

Role-playing with an experienced and familiar group of friends that can flip instantly in and out of character to chat about the game as much as play it - that's great fun. We could do that all day (and in some instances most of the night)...

I really wanna just talk fringe topics...

Like alt timelines, butterfly effect, philosophy (especially ontology), space travel, aliens, fermi paradox, time dialation, black holes, you know, all the very werid stuff...

But unfortunately, people IRL seems to not like to talk about these things...

The other thing is just... I guess exchange life stories...

I like it when they give me money

Heatedly debate with them from a place of bad faith about events and concepts that are not actionable and we have no control whatsoever about, getting extremely winded up and emotional during the entire process, speaking louder than what's socially acceptable, using very cheap half baked arguments and ultimately appealing to made-up authority figures if they corner me, until they admit I'm right, even if just out of sheer exhaustion or sarcastic condescension.

Hey, I'll take what I can get.

hbu?

rpgs

Choking each other.

Dance.

Bar trivia or other kinds of trivia. It’s fun!

Either going for food or playing board/video games together!

Mountain biking in the rain. Biking is fun in general, but in the cold rain and mud, it's a mission you're on together.

SCUBA diving. The best part about it is peeing on your buddy....

But seriously having someone to talk with after a dive where you have seen something amazing is a great thing.

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