No Stupid Questions

I'm super open with my NDE experience bc ppl actively are looking for ppl who have had them to help with their own existential fears. Otherwise, if I feel I have something valuable to add, or something inane that might make someone laugh, I'll share it, if not, I don't post, just upvote (rarely downvote.) I only use Lemmy and Reddit tho, I've never felt the urge to write a blog or have followers, so there's really no reason for me to share personal things. Closest I've shared is being raised in an extreme-right religious cult in the 90s, bc that cult grew to take over the US and ppl seem confused sometimes how long it's been going on. (Since the 70s, it's called the Dominionism Cult.) But again, it basically comes down to if it's a personal experience I feel can help others, I'll share, if not, there's no real point in commenting or posting. I just woke up lol, sorry if this post is rambling, I can't rephrase it right now 😂

I’ll share what I need to when it’s appropriate, but I’m still cautious about it. Still wanna remain anonymous while also leaving interesting/relevant comments to prompt interesting convo

I had a BSN program where an ongoing assignment was blog posts although it was an option to set the privacy to your instructor / fellow students only. I think it was good practice in maintaining patient privacy while still expressing your lived experience for the purposes of self-care venting AND advocating for societal reform. Like yeah I'm not going to tell you enough details to personally identify the patients who have done some sketchy shit to us or had sketchy shit done to them, but I do think it's important that the rest of you understand how things actually work / happen. Some things are entirely unavoidable, but there's also a lot of things that should be avoidable but currently aren't due to some social ill.

I won't tell someone where I work and live or anything else personally identifying, but ideas and values? Totally open on that.

As for not caring what people think. You might be getting hung up on the definition of "care." I think we all care, to a greater or lesser extent, about things we profess to not care about. Speaking specifically for myself, I might seem to care to some extent, but I don't let what others say or do affect who I am. That's an important line to draw, and to recognise when it's being approached and to disengage when it gets pushed, but learning to do so comes with age and experience.

I think it's a myth that your online accounts can't be connected to you. Even if you're exclusively using burner phones connected through a VPN, people could trace you if they really wanted to. I'm honest online and in person, and I'll accept the consequence of anything I post.

I am fairly open, for a couple of reasons. I’m older now, and I have a lot of lived experience and education. Secondly, I learned a long time ago that silence can enable. I have nothing to lose by sharing my story in particular. So in certain communities I am open about difficult topics.

Nice try, FBI. 😂

Nah, I'm pretty open as well. I get the idea that the conduct is similar to talking to strangers IRL, and I wear my heart on my sleeve and open myself up completely. Old habit from trying to accept things by telling others about it, and just kept going.

My fediverse accounts are anonymous and may not be tracable to me or my family based on the information I post. I do post political views and stuff about my hobbys. I leave my loved ones out of my posts, so no sharing of pictures or other personal information.

I do have a dormant LinkedIn account and a semi-active Strava account though, so if you can trace my fediverse accounts to either, you can potentially find out some more personal stuff.

I've been using my real name on the internet for 30 years or so now. I've hosted public radio shows, I run/admin several online LGBTQ communities and I've had newspapers articles done about my transition and activism.

It's absolutely possible that someone with the desire could utilise that against me. But it's unlikely and it hasn't happened yet. And in the mean time, having to hold myself back and be constantly on edge about what I say and where I say it would impact my use of the internet in a way I don't like, every single time I use it.

So for me, it's worth the risk.

Very open IRL and online. I don't understand the concept of shame around basic boring facts of my humanity.

It upsets a lot of people. Often people who are very concerned about their image and seeking validation from other people who are very closed off and present themselves in a very selective way. These people often accuse me of being pretentious and judgemental... which is precisely what they are doing, and often are deeply ashamed of themselves.

I just don't really understand what the big deal is personally. But I grew up in a household where everything i did was constantly shamed, so I just kind of became indifferent to it because most of my family are really stupid people who get upset about every inconsequential thing. Over the holiday my brother asked me what dish I wanted for from Chinese take out, and I asked what kind of chinese and he called me a stupid asshole for asking that. Where I live there are different styles of Chinese food, where he lives there is only shitty Americanized Chinese food. In his mind I an asshole for even asking the question. Where I live they don't have every dish at every place and I don't ever really get the americanized dishes.

I also went to a famous college and people's reactions to that fact about me... alarming. I don't really regard my attendance of this place as significant, but my biggest regret about going is the way people treat me because of it. If someone doesn't care about it, I'm genuinely impressed, because most people care about it and attack me for it because it makes them feel inadequate or something. It's been an issue in so many relationships/friendships and I just don't understand why it is relevant at all, but to other people this fact is extremely important.

I've had a personal blog since the previous millennium. My primary subs on reddit were "Ask" communities, two of which I was so active in I went on to mod them. I post under my real name. I am not shy.

I don't put anything online I wouldn't say out loud in real life, though. That's my limit.

I'm a little too open if I'm being honest. I lack any sort of community in my daily life so I think I share more because it gives me a false sense of it. Like I know its not healthy but I feel like I can't get it any other way

Depends where on the internet I'm in.

On here and when I was on reddit, I'm a bit more guarded and speak in broader terms in regards to family/friends/experiences so as not to pin too many identifiable specifics on me.

In another long forgotten corner of the internet that like at most 30 people congregate in, I'm a bit more open but not overly so.

My producer and I are open on general things, but realistically speaking, we tend to keep our most private information concealed, as we advocate for controlling what information we leak.

Before having US citizenship, I probably would not mention any political things and like be vague about my location.

But now I have US Citizenship, and yes I know it's not a magic shield, but it's much better than non-citizens, so now I feel a bit more confident in just saying:

FUCK DONALD TRUMP, TREASONOUS PIECE OF SHIT

I have a lot of anecdotes and I really wanna share and that'll inevitibly make it easier to track me down... but whatever... I have no one irl that would wanna listen, so I'm gonna tell my story on the internet, leave a permanent mark in history. Hi future historians 👋

I already disclosed my ethnicity and city... I don't care anymore.

I feel safe sharingthe general area of where I previously lived.

But current location, yes I'd just be vague and the city is the most precise I'm comfortable sharing.

I mean some twitch streamers shate their face, name, and city and their address is still private, I should be fine since I'm a nobody and no names or face is shared.

But I'm still gonna guard my family secrets, well not the abusive things, that I need to vent about, but I'm not gonna tell you where my parents set up shop for example... don't want any shitheads doing vandalism.

Not gonna tell my name, not gonna show my face.

I mean, I doubt any normie is actually gonna be able to find me from a few anecdotes, you need a lot of government databases to find who I am.

The NSA, tho, I have no doubt that they can find me if targeted this account, but I'm not that scared, there are like a million anti-trump comments online, what are the odds that I get persecuted? (I'm gonna jinks it aren't I)

Hey if my address get leaked, I have an excuse to move xD, I'm getting tired of this place... but yea I'd try to not intentionally leak it.

I end up being quite open, if I'm being honest. There are many things that I don't expose about myself online, but I wouldn't be surprised if someone could make an accurate, partial profile of what kind of person I am based only on my lemmy posts, plus a close approximation of where I live.

Sometimes I'm open, but I also lie a lot, to keep the AI bots and advertising algorithms guessing. What's real and what's fake? Who knows, we live in a post-truth world anyway.

I'm quite transparent, and have been exposed to doxxing before, unfortunately, with random packages appearing on my doorstep and such. Still, I keep being perhaps a bit too naive, as being cynical would make my internet presence quite a lot more demanding of me.

I own my actions in life, including mistakes and failures. I don't let it weigh me down, nor feel ashamed of who I was. So threatening me with shame is fortunately quite ineffective.

I have no issues speaking my mind on emotional topics like death, war, and politics, which naturally makes some people despise me. That is their problem however, not mine, as I believe communication is key, even among enemies.

I feel like I've found a balance that works well for me, but if needed, I have the knowledge to change my ways.

I'm pretty open. I've been using the internet this way for about 25 years and to date it's never been a problem. I've got clothes with my handle across the shoulders, etc. so it's not a secret who I am. I try not to be too specific about some stuff that I don't feel are mine to talk about, or that might be professionally problematic (I don't really talk about my current employment anyway - I'm not ashamed of it, it's just not very interesting and doesn't particularly define me so it's not very relevant).

In various online communities over the years I've been one of the biggest fish so I'm occasionally recognised which varies between flattering and a little uncomfortable (usually in terms of " You clearly want something so what is it you want me to do/not do or wish I had done/hadn't done?" but with socially awkward pleasantries). This has resulted in someone trying to use an FAQ I wrote to argue against me, not realising - meaning I effectively had to dust off the old "don't you know who I am‽" type of response (albeit minus the diva overtones).

In the past the odd person has been a bit stalky and then been surprised when this information doesn't intimidate me (I recall a particularly memorable one being "I know what you look like" to which my response was a photo of me with a shocked face). I do care what other people think but disapproval doesn't bother me all that much. I try to be true to myself so when confronted there's nothing to use against me - there's no cognitive dissonance (so if I was an arsehole, no, I meant to be, it wasn't an accident, it's what I felt was an honest response to the situation).

As close to 0% as possible.