didn't a lot of women end up leaving tinder because it's gained reputation as exclusively a hook-up app, leaving mostly bots? Is this meme just a v old repost? I believe Hinge is the app de jour, but I might be out of date.

[–] Cracks_InTheWalls@sh.itjust.works 4 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

A combo of Hinge and Bumble, apparently. Seems to be working for my buddy anyway (to the absolute fury of the people he complains to about the number of matches/dates he gets).

[–] GreenKnight23@lemmy.world 3 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

because they don't meet his marriage standard, which is high)

it's important to be with who you want, don't settle for whoever comes first.

[–] Cracks_InTheWalls@sh.itjust.works 1 points 50 minutes ago* (last edited 49 minutes ago)

Absolutely, I don't fault him for that. It's just kind of hard for other folks to relate, when he's getting up to 10 matches a week (real figures, saw it in action myself) and the guy he's complaining to got like 1 in a month

Real talk, I find it hard to believe the kind of woman he's looking for is on a dating app. But who knows?

[–] Axolotl_cpp@feddit.it 15 points 15 hours ago (2 children)

Only 1?

[–] MycelialMass@lemmy.world 18 points 14 hours ago

Not greedy

[–] zero_spelled_with_an_ecks@programming.dev 15 points 14 hours ago (2 children)

The poly peeps are on different apps.

[–] rumschlumpel@feddit.org 5 points 11 hours ago

The monogamous girlfriends are (apparently) also on different apps.

[–] AntiBullyRanger@ani.social 2 points 12 hours ago

Can confirm🤣.

To this day, only one person joined my simpleX, and that's because of /c/privacy

[–] Emi@ani.social 7 points 14 hours ago (3 children)

Planning on making an account too because I have no idea how to interact with people outside. Hope to find at least someone I understand with.

[–] Contramuffin@lemmy.world 1 points 1 hour ago

Pro tip: don't. It'll make you feel worse than if you just isolated yourself.

The incentive structure of dating apps is completely twisted and makes you feel like every part of yourself is getting commodified and ranked.

Find some social groups or clubs and go hang out there. You'll have a much better time. Many people don't mind if you aren't comfortable with communicating, just being present is a positive in their book.

[–] Asafum@feddit.nl 6 points 11 hours ago* (last edited 11 hours ago)

Try if you must, but as a guy after 10 years on and off these dating sites I just completely gave up. It's like a constant attack on your self worth and for me I just ended up feeling absolutely pathetic and worthless. I'm still lonely but I feel better than getting ignored constantly and literally only getting likes/messages from bots that want to scam you.

In that 10 year span I went on maybe 6 dates total...

[–] Axolotl_cpp@feddit.it 12 points 14 hours ago* (last edited 14 hours ago) (2 children)

I suggest to just talk with people online using social media and social networks, try to not use tinder because it's based on the look and IMO ot's a toxic thing. For example i know a lot of funny people from discord

[–] Emi@ani.social 3 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

Ten problém is on discord they usually live on other side of the world.

[–] Axolotl_cpp@feddit.it 1 points 7 hours ago

Search local communities

[–] kayzeekayzee@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

The problem with discord is that it's also filled with a lot of very weird children

[–] Axolotl_cpp@feddit.it 6 points 14 hours ago* (last edited 14 hours ago)

Stay away from communities that allow childrens then, there are plenty that are adults only, for example a friend of mine run one

[–] sundaymidnight@ani.social 4 points 14 hours ago

absolutelly all