Cracks_InTheWalls

I second mycoboutique, it is cute as fuck.

Similar dream I have for Ottawa - you give Chebucto Community Net a nice chunk of change to set up and maintain the infrastructure.

Been many, many years, but if the kind of person who worked/volunteered for CCN hasn't changed doubtless someone would be interested and have the skills.

This is going to come off terribly, but do you talk to many people IRL? There's no game here, just humans being humans.

That said, perhaps not your preferred types of humans, which is perfectly fine. If anything, not engaging people the way I describe here could be a filter for the kind of people you prefer to interact with. Really isn't anything wrong with that, though others may find it a bit constrictive.

If what you're doing makes you happy and secure in your relationships with people, then more power to you!

If you don't mind me asking, how is this reading minds? This is watching for behavioural cues, which lend some evidence of interest/disinterest. Men exhibit similar cues as well - think about the guy sitting at the bar, facing the interior with a grin looking about, versus the guy hunched over with a scowl counting the bubbles in his beer. Unless you're moved by pathos to clink scowling guy's glass, who seems more approachable?

Will admit there are folks who see a single behavioural cue and immediately jump to "They want to jump my bones"/"They wish me and my family were dead", which is dumb. What I'm talking about is more "Oh, looks like they may be open to chat with someone, go say hi", then noting if that impression stays or dissipates on fresh evidence. Again, the biggest problem I've heard of is people, but particularly women approached by men in a social setting, not wanting to tell the approaching party to fuck off (politely or otherwise) because of a perceived or real threat of violence. But this feeling often comes across pretty clearly in body language - if you're a decent person, reading those cues and and exiting gracefully just makes sense.

Discounting non-verbal cues in IRL communication is silly. We give out a lot of information about how we're feeling with our bodies to those paying attention. I'll admit it can sound kinda creepy when writing it all out, but for some folks this is all intuitive. For other folks, thinking about this a bit helps with being more at ease in talking with new people, whether platonically or with an eye to something more.

The thing is, there are signals - open body language, frequent glances around the room, etc.

The tougher bit for some folks is also seeing, and respecting, when they clearly want you to go away, AND not taking it personally. They may want someone to approach them, but for whatever reason not you. That's perfectly OK, and says nothing about your general worth, just their interest at the moment.

Go, initiate contact, and if you're getting one word replies, crossed arms/body facing away from you, refusal to meet eyes, inauthentic laughs, etc., exit cheerfully, move on with your day and let her move on with hers.

The biggest problem I've had women tell me about is not being approached, but guys not taking the hint if it's not clicking and leaving them be. Be the guy who reads the situation, takes the hint if present and doesn't get all fucked up about it, and you'll probably end up talking to someone who does want to talk to you later.

Should note this is often just human stuff, and holds for a lot of guys as well with the caveat that they're often, though not always, more direct.

Well, the aroma is most pleasing. Who wouldn't be curious to taste it?

Sometimes, I think about the fact that if I post something really useful here, our traffic's still so comparatively small that it probably won't come up in a search engine query.

But that's the way I like it, baby - I don't want to live forever.

Sup Nick! Love the energy, and if you legit haven't heard of our friend Nicole, this is hilarious in a good way.

Looks like you're also a sh.it.head (don't worry - this is a good thing!), and so far don't look to be a shithead (which would be a bad thing) so in my book we're already friends :) Welcome!

The difference between boofing and hooping is entirely contextual, it's the same act.

So I've since quit, and I understand why even what I'm about to describe doesn't exist anymore where I am, but right at the tail end of smoking indoors there were businesses/buildings doing totally walled off, wellish ventilated smoking areas. Those seemed ok to me, and when I (stupidly) took up smoking I was sad those were gone.

The only, and last, one I saw when I was a smoker was in an airport, which was an unexpected godsend because my fuck does it suck to be a smoker waiting for a flight.

(Yes, it's a gross and deadly habit that's also unhealthy and gross for the people around you and the employees who had to work in/clean such spaces, and it makes sense to have no smoking indoors).

adds to 'Things to do on your last day to burn all bridges if you magically come into wealth' wish list

Something to think about, though of course do whatever makes the most sense for your circumstances: what's better - maintaining your current pace of work, without meaningful breaks, in a way that only further pushes you into burnout and risks impacting job performance to the point you could be let go for cause. Or, using your PTO, which is part of your compensation package, to take breaks and at least try to get some downtime to mitigate burnout, which generally has a positive impact on job performance and with that reduces the probability of being let go with cause?

Not going to lie and say you couldn't get blindsided and screwed either way, but with very few exceptions I always think not taking your PTO is a mistake.

Will acknowledge I don't know your circumstances and don't mean any offense. If what you're doing makes sense from a long-term survival perspective, then do what makes sense.