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RULES (updated 01/22/25)

  1. Be respectful: no harassment, hate speech, bigotry, and/or trolling. To be concise, disrespect is defined by escalation.
  2. Encourage conversation in your OP. This means including heavily implicative subject matter when you can and also engaging in your thread when possible. You won't be punished for trying.
  3. Avoid controversial topics (politics or societal debates come to mind, though we are not saying not to talk about anything that resembles these). There's a guide in the protocol book offered as a mod model that can be used for that; it's vague until you realize it was made for things like the rule in question. At least four purple answers must apply to a "controversial" message for it to be allowed.
  4. Keep it clean and SFW: No illegal content or anything gross and inappropriate. A rule of thumb is if a recording of a conversation put on another platform would get someone a COPPA violation response, that exact exchange should be avoided when possible.
  5. No solicitation such as ads, promotional content, spam, surveys etc. The chart redirected to above applies to spam material as well, which is one of the reasons its wording is vague, as it applies to a few things. Again, a "spammy" message must be applicable to four purple answers before it's allowed.
  6. Respect privacy as well as truth: Don’t ask for or share any personal information or slander anyone. A rule of thumb is if something is enough info to go by that it "would be a copyright violation if the info was art" as another group put it, or that it alone can be used to narrow someone down to 150 physical humans (Dunbar's Number) or less, it's considered an excess breach of privacy. Slander is defined by intentional utilitarian misguidance at the expense (positive or negative) of a sentient entity. This often links back to or mixes with rule one, which implies, for example, that even something that is true can still amount to what slander is trying to achieve, and that will be looked down upon.

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I have an nginx server with WordPress where I post my own poetry, for no one to see. Also the subdomains I use for some self-hosted stuff.

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submitted 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
 
 

Asking this here because it might be a strange question or open for debate.

A habit that I have carried over with me from Reddit is subscribing to every community that I think I'll be participating in. But I'm kinda thinking of unsubbing from all of the news and politics communities that are always in the 'All' tab anyway and keeping my subscriptions to everything other than news and politics. I'd still like to throw in hot takes / shit takes if I feel so inclined but want to seperate it from my main feed.

My question is, is it frowned upon to participate somewhere that you're not subscribed to if it's not going to be once in a blue moon? Or a hassle for moderators? I've looked up if there's a Lemmy equivalent of multireddits and from what I can surmise in this Github thread, people are still spitballing ideas but nothing concrete yet. So it seems that method is out of the question for now.

Edit: just had another thought that I don't want to make another thread about but need to get off my mind. From an app perspective and the Subscribed / Local / All tabs, and comparing that to a place like Bluesky with all the different feeds that you can add or remove, it would be nice if you could have tabs that are specific to instances. For example adding a Blåhaj tab from here in the .world instance I'm signed up on. Basically accessing the 'Local' feeds of other instances from one place.

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submitted 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
 
 

It's the new "just get to the gym". For many it won't do jackshit plus outside USA this isn't even a thing in some places. Even worse if you're an immigrant, hell, immigrants go sick to their jobs and do extra days just to not get fired, do you think any of them care about "MeNtAl HEalTh"?

Shit, you would probably get mocked for being "weak" NOBODY I know has taken therapy, and I know alcoholics, divorced, cheaters... That's how my world is.

Sometimes alcohol and adult videos, that's my therapy, and I don't see that changing and can't do anything about it.

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cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/20763011

Could be one specific task or just in general.

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I cut my own hair today for the first time and I am so happy with the result. I look like a cute little lesbian with a tomboy haircut and I have been smiling every time I see my reflection. It's was really tricky to get right and it took a long time.. I'm sure someone else could have done a better job.. but I finally look like myself! I put my jewellery back on for the first time in months because I felt like I deserve to look my best.

I got exactly one compliment when I went out today. "Did you cut your hair?" "Yes." "Nice." It's not much but I'll take it xD

On a side note, is this what it feels like to fit your gender? Just knowing I look like this instead of a guy with long hair has made me feel different about so many random things today

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Nice story I wanted to share, seen on https://old.reddit.com/r/CasualConversation/comments/1i092q3/my_dad_accidentally_became_famous_in_our/

My dad is super quiet. He doesn’t like talking to people, skips parties, and just wants to read books by himself. So I was pretty shocked when I found out he’s kinda famous now.

A few months ago, he built a birdhouse in our yard. Then he made another. And another. Now, our yard looks like a little bird village with tiny houses everywhere.

People around here started noticing and coming by to check it out. One day, someone knocked on the door and asked if they could take a picture of the birdhouses.

My dad said sure, and now people stop by all the time to take pictures and say how cool his yard is. It’s crazy!

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I've been playing games for almost 3 decades and I've owned almost every Xbox, so the online factor is there and overall easily accessible but I just never got this community feel I read in some places, my most played games are probably WWE 2k14 and Tekken 7 and 8, yet I've never interacted with anyone, I don't have a headset and I don't wanna hear voice or chat while playing though, it just distracts me and I despise losing, but apparently the people connect, make friends and a few even found love while playing their favourite game.

I envy them.

Is like the only hobby I have and tbh it isolated me even more from getting any type of affection or contact.

Some people mention discord but that awful app is terrible plus people act weird there, is like the game is very secondary there and just post cringe stuff instead.

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Did you already get your hands on the new Super Comics?

In this issue named "Unlimited number of coins", evil Scrooge McDuck from Multiverse with help of Rafans used a magical mirror from Magica to enslave a whole city Duckburg and steal all other Money Bins from different universes into big Giant Money Multibin which consists of others smaller Money Bins and is so huge, that blocks sun from Duckburg.

As the plot progress, Uncle Scruggs from different universes, countries and historical epochs unite, stop fighting between each other and start to cooperate.

With help of Gyro inventor, they manage to break into multiverse and fight against evil McDuck to get back their money which were stolen from them.

In the end, they invoke huge Donald Duck army which defeats the Rafans and they pacify the evil multi-verse McDuck.

He then breaks down as he valuated only the money and the balance in universe is restored. Money Bins are returned and Uncle Scrooges go back to their universes to continue work on their own local Duckburgs and protect them against evil Rafans and enemies.

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The plague of NIMBY's may yield if a real plan is put in place to rebuild better. Vast areas could be rezoned for density. A way of addressing the enormous number of displaced people could also address the largest homeless population in the USA. The city that defines urban sprawl could be redefined. How does this play out?

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Defeatism, cynicism, doomerism, essentialism, materialism, anti-intellectualism, consumerism, and cruelty are everywhere on the Internet... and I'm just not into it anymore.

I used to buy into self-limiting beliefs because I thought they were answers from people with more life experience than me, but they just limited my thinking and led me astray. They were why I was insecure and unhappy. They were why I was doing nothing to make my life better.

Once I started to push back on all of the Internet's supposed "wisdom," I figured out that my fundamentally flawed beliefs were paralyzing me from actually doing anything with my life and being brave enough to take risks, especially socially. I'm noticeably happier, I've developed a positive life outlook, and I'm more comfortable in my own skin because I stopped getting my opinions from the Internet and started thinking for myself.

I recognized that others' opinions don't define reality. Opinions are the result of someone's life experiences filtered through their brain. They may have some value, but they are often incredibly biased and should not be taken as gospel. If you take them all seriously, you will be riddled with insecurities in no time flat, subconsciously trying to appeal to people who you don't even like and would never be friends with.

I honestly can't say I know who social media is even for at this point. There is so much content promoting unhealthy ways of thinking just haphazardly strewn about everywhere. I don't know how anyone can avoid it all. I don't know if the benefits can outweigh the costs. Even the most harmless content is forgettable and eats up valuable time that could be used for something more meaningful.

Sometimes I think about how we never see any posts from the happiest people alive. They don't need social media validation, their positivity wouldn't generate clicks, and the negativity of social media platforms probably scared them off long ago. As a result of their absence, negativity and unhealthy thought patterns have proliferated unchallenged.

I feel like I don't even belong on the Internet anymore. I can't relate to all of the doomers and cynics. The constant firehose of simultaneous anxiety and apathy, the lack of introspection and empathy... what use do I really have for it all at the end of the day? It's getting so old and stale. I feel like I can't grow as a person anymore if I continue consuming Internet slop.

There are so many, much more constructive ways I could be spending my time. If I should be using the Internet for anything, it would be to aid me in doing that. For example, finding good books to read. I can't wait until I finally overcome my behavioral inertia and move on with my life.

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submitted 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
 
 

Let's all play geoguesser together, post your score for this round.

No movement, no time limit, panning and zooming allowed.

https://www.geoguessr.com/challenge/p75TGlwyNnzHipLE

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I moved into a new apartment. It's furnished, clean, chill. Also I break out in hives when I lay in bed with the fresh bedding provided to me. Currently washing a blanket but I've just ruled that one out as a cause. I'm out of detergent for washing the remaining sheets and snowed in. I think I'll sleep in this chair :)

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Apparently, the PC I was given by my employer less than a year ago is too out of date (uses Windows 10) and I have to have Windows 11 now for security reasons. I have a gaming PC, but it's my partner's, too, and it'd be a huge waste of its power and graphics card, plus it'd have to be moved. I really don't want to do that.

A new company owns the company I work for now, but still. This is not what I agreed to. Ugh. I'm so annoyed.

It's not that expensive, really ($200), but it's the principle of the matter. How long will it be before they force me to do this again, anyway??? I already get paid a shit wage.

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