dandelion

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago) (1 children)

honestly I can't tell whether a plurality of men think women are humans, let alone trans women ...

EDIT:

Lesbian, gay and bisexual women overwhelmingly identify with or lean toward the Democratic Party over the GOP (83% vs. 12%). Similarly, the Democratic Party enjoys a wide advantage among gay and bisexual men (83% vs. 17%).

Straight men are more likely to associate with the Republican Party than straight women (55% vs. 47%).

(source)

Men generally, but straight (and married esp.) men, seem to be "the problem".

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 hours ago

that is a good point that I should have thought of sooner, lol

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

oo, that makes sense - I'm starting to suspect I might be neurodivergent, so it might turn out to be a semi-appropriate label for me 😅

The hands on the doorknob hurt so much - I can feel it just from your description, it almost makes me feel sick, lol

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago) (3 children)

omg I feel that so much

I have:

  • fallen down stairs 5+ times, breaking my ankle on two such occasions
  • stubbed my one of my middle toes on a door frame when attempting to walk out of my bathroom, splitting a toenail
  • regularly run into walls, corners, and door frames
  • regularly stub my toes on bed frames
  • broken so many glasses and plates my parents thought something was wrong with me

I am usually paying attention (I think) and able to see well (I think); I suspect my proprioception is just off. When I was a kid, the ball often hit me in the face when attempting to play sports. I had a hard time coordinating my body, even when trying. There was a notable improvement when I started estrogen, I was able to navigate in the dark better than before, but I still run into objects so it could just be placebo.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago)

fingers crossed ...

I think birth control is usually a combination of synthetic estrogen and progestin, whereas HRT would probably be bioidentical estrogen (less risky).

I could see why a doctor would be worried a blood test would be thrown off by the synthetic estrogens in the birth control pill, because it might lower your body's production of estrogen as it relies on the synthetic stuff.

You are still left with a situation where it seems like your levels are too low and you are having symptoms, so you might still need a higher dose to compensate for menopause and to alleviate your symptoms.

You might also look into a birth control pill that is a progestogen-only pill and then introduce bioidentical estrogen for HRT (ideally as a cream or patch, oral estrogen is poorly absorbed and is metabolized in spikes which creates mood swings and results in uneven blood levels, just an awful way to get estrogen in the body tbh).

Either way, I would advocate for getting more estrogen in your body somehow, because what you are describing (night sweats, anxiety, brain fog, etc.) all sound exactly like the symptoms of low estrogen.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago)

Honestly, our own sight is a kind of "metaphor" - what we see is a construction the brain creates to make sense of visual data, but it is not those visual data themselves, in some sense we only see in metaphors.

Maybe that bends the meaning of metaphor. Maybe better examples would be like skeumorphisms in graphical user interfaces, e.g. a trashbin on a desktop that you can drag files to. Obviously there is no literal trashbin, but I think people start to think in terms of those metaphors and forget there aren't actual files and folders and a trashbin, and when the computer behaves in a way that doesn't accord with those metaphors, it's frustrating and confusing for them.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago) (1 children)

yes, very pro body pillows, though as you're saying, they don't have to be Japanese comfort pillows to be a body pillow 😆

[–] [email protected] 2 points 10 hours ago (2 children)

that sounds like low estrogen, have you considered hormone replacement therapy?

[–] [email protected] 4 points 10 hours ago

In case you don't get it:

spoiler2NA sounds like "tuna" (two-nah -> toonah)

[–] [email protected] 4 points 10 hours ago

I read this in the voice of Charlie from It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia

[–] [email protected] 23 points 10 hours ago (4 children)

it helped me understand this better once I knew a dakimakura is one of those Japanese body pillows

 

Autogynophilia (AGP) is a debunked pseudo-science concept that trans women are motivated to transition primarily as a sexual fetish, and Mike White confirmed on a podcast with the anti-trans conservative Andrew Sullivan that the Sam Rockwell monologue in s03e05 is autogynophilic.

Here is a clip from the podcast on Reddit: https://old.reddit.com/r/Fauxmoi/comments/1joh7dd/creator_of_white_lotus_mike_white_appears_on/

For more about autogynophilia, see Julia Serano's article on the topic.

(see also Julia Serano's post on the White Lotus episode before Mike White went on to confirm he meant to reference AGP)

This comes after Mike White removed a scene mentioning a non-binary character from the show after Trump won the election:

“You originally found out that her daughter was actually nonbinary, maybe trans, and going by they/them,” Coon said. “You see Laurie struggling to explain it to her friends, struggling to use they/them pronouns, struggling with the language, which was all interesting.”

“It was only a short scene, but for me, it did make the question of whether Kate voted for Trump so much more provocative and personally offensive to Laurie, considering who her child is in the world,” Coon added.

According to the actor, Trump’s re-election made series creator Mike White hesitate about including that character detail in the final cut.

“The season was written before the election. And considering the way the Trump administration has weaponized the cultural war against transgender people even more since then, when the time came to cut the episode down, Mike felt that the scene was so small and the topic so big that it wasn’t the right way to engage in that conversation,” Coon continued.

Coon also said that White handles his characters with nuance: “They’re not just one thing.”

In another article it was clarified the scene was cut due to a political "vibe shift":

“The Trump thing becomes much more offensive to Laurie because of her daughter, but this was before Trump was reelected and before this war on the trans community was escalated,” Coon said, despite the fact that Republicans have been filing anti-trans legislation at the state level for the entirety of the 2020s. The actor added, “Mike felt that it was actually too political, or too far, or too distracting.”

White responded, saying that that conversation “felt right in March of last year.”

“Now, there’s a vibe shift. I don’t think that it was radical, but that’s not the kind of attention I want,” he said. “The politics of it could overwhelm whatever ideas I’m trying to talk about. And a lot of it was about time. Every episode is bulging at 60 minutes.”

I also got the sense from this season that conservative Christianity was given a more serious place, a kind of reverence, alongside Buddhism (which is a departure from the previous two seasons). There is the relevance of the Christian choir to the husband character, but there is also a Trump supporting conservative character:

In the far-ranging conversation, the cast discussed the reveal in episode three that Leslie Bibb’s character, Kate Bohr, is a Republican. “I do think people like Meghan McCain and her community are really gratified to see a conservative person on television,” Coon said.

The characters are bad, yes, but it's a thin line between satire and representation. In conjunction with going on a conservative podcast and using anti-trans terminology, there is a sense that Mike White is at best naive and negligent, and at worst bigoted.

Regardless of Mike White's character, meanwhile the anti-trans movement is claiming White Lotus for themselves and using the show to help push AGP into the public consciousness, are attempting to use the moment to promote their junk science ideas that trans women are just fetishists.

 

hi, I suspect if I did some searching I could find my answer (so apologies up front for being lazy and not doing enough research up-front 🙊) but I have noticed every time I type : and then start typing the name of an emoji, for example :sob: (i.e. 😭), there is a list of emojis that start to match what I'm typing:

The emojis rarely match the auto-complete I'm expecting (which is based on doing this in other contexts like Slack with standard unicode emojis), and often there are custom emojis in addition to the standard ones that if I accidentally tab and hit enter to accept, results in an embedded image.

Incidentally, my fingers somewhat automatically start to type emojis like :sob: and this auto-complete feature is essentially "broken" for me by the large number of custom image emojis (notice the emoji I'm looking to autocomplete when I type :sob isn't showing up in the top part of the list).

Admittedly this breaks my flow, but I'm not complaining as much as wondering what this custom image emoji feature is, whether it's a Lemmy thing or an instance specific thing, and how much other people use it (do other users like these custom emojis, and their easy / automatic finger flow is accustomed to these options)?

The custom emojis are cute, tho 😄

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how to breed blue roses (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
 

according to nookipedia, blue roses are the result of hybridizing two 1110 hybrid red roses, which are produced by cross-breeding a yellow rose with a 1011 hybrid pink flower.

You can get a 1011 hybrid pink rose from cross-breeding a store-bought red rose (2001) and a purple rose. There is also a chance that you get a 1011 hybrid pink rose from breeding store-bought red and white roses.

Here is the chart from Nookipedia:

It's not clear to me whether this is accurate, however - I have successfully bred each of these necessary roses, and so far none of the 1110 hybrid red roses have produced a blue rose ... They have produced more black, white, and red roses, however.

Maybe it's just a matter of time, since the blue rose is a 1.56% chance ...

 

I'm always wanting to learn and I don't feel qualified to actually share tips, but here were a few things I wish I had known earlier:

  • when my mascara was drying out, I went too long before learning I could spray a little sterile saline on the brush (shaking off any excess drips of saline), and put the brush back into the bottle and work the brush a bit - then it would apply to the lashes perfectly without clumps (I've enjoyed mascaras like Mineral Fusion and Better Than Sex).
  • lash curlers are a life changer, I have long lashes but they're heavy and droop down, and I thought it was a mistake with how I was applying the mascara (and the mascara weighed them down even more!!); maybe this is just obvious, but I went too long without using one and they really lift my eyes, even just the curler without the mascara is a big help
  • foundation can really age you, so it's important to prioritize skin care and "natural beauty". It really sucks when my skin is breaking out and I have to cover up with foundation because it ruins the natural, soft look of my skin; I wash my face every night with a cleanser (occasionally using a more exfoliating salicylic acid cleanser on my nose) and use a night cream with ceramides. Hydrating throughout the day is also important to healthy skin. (As is diet, tbh.)
  • I had no idea that cosmetic sunscreens existed, I wish I had known there were sunscreens that didn't feel like covering my face in grease, I've gone without sunscreen for decades because I had no idea. Discovering Japanese and South Korean sunscreens that function as a makeup primer, and aren't greasy and absorb into the skin, completely blew my mind and made it so much easier for me to put sunscreen on every day. I have really enjoyed CANMAKE's Mermaid Skin Gel and SKIN1004's Madagascar Centella sunscreens in particular.

What beauty and makeup tips did you wish you knew earlier?

 

Was reading the rules and they said that anyone that is a victim of intersexism can identify as intersex, and I just wonder what intersexism is exactly and how it would differ from, for example, stigma against trans people who appear with ambiguous or mixed gender.

I assume intersexism is something more narrow than merely the way anyone with ambiguous or mixed gender traits might be mistreated in society.

Just wondering if there is a book or article I should read to learn more, basically.

 

Polenta and mushrooms in wine sauce, loosely based on this recipe: https://www.rabbitandwolves.com/vegan-creamy-polenta-red-wine-mushrooms/

I felt like mushrooms were not sufficient, so I added tofu (which was too soft, I think maybe soy curls would have been better?). Also didn't have red wine, so I used white wine + red wine vinegar + raisins blended in water to replace the red wine, lol.

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mac n cheez (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
 

this was a quick and dirty mac and cheez, normally I would make the cheese from scratch but this time I used some store-bought stuff because I didn't have much time

 
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bed rotting (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
 
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enchiladas (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
 

"beef" topped, filling is more "beef" and refried beans.

cheez is made with carrot, potato, cashews, nutritional yeast, white miso, and Sherry vinegar

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well rule (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
 
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