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I got a message on LinkedIn about a job, it seems legit. The issue is as soon as I replied, she basically told me to apply as quickly as possible because it's time sensitive.

I don't know why this kind of rubs me the wrong way, I guess because I'm in a different time zone and I'm expected to literally drop everything for a job I might not even have an actual chance for.

Also she is the person who I would be working with, my potential future boss, and also the co owner of the company.

Am I overreacting? It just seems unnecessarily stressful idk. Also I'm very afraid of red flags now cause I ignored them at my last company and it was a nightmare.

Edit: I responded and asked some basic questions about the timezone/hours, and if applying in the next few hours would be ok, and she hasn't responded in over an hour. Now I'm wondering if I should even bother applying :/

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago) (1 children)

#1 rule on LinkedIn when responding to recruiters - ask them what the pay, benefits and hours are before providing anything other than what's on your public facing resume.

If the job offer is legit, they'll respond quickly with real numbers. If they throw up some BS like "competitive pay dependent on experience", then they're either a scammer or someone who doesn't have any real authority to actually hire you. They'll try to string you along so you're invested, and won't balk when you find out their offer is below market rate. If they're not up front in any way, or leave you hanging for basic information, let it go. They'll just waste your time and energy, or put you in an untenable situation where you won't be able to trust them if you do end up working for them.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 weeks ago

Thanks for much for the advice!! She is basically trolling me at this point. I have (almost) no doubt it's a legit company, they're just complete pieces of shit. I guess if they weren't they wouldn't be separate double texting me then ignoring me for days lmao

I hope to god I can one day find a work environment that isn't total garbage.. not sure what fields that's even possible in though. Even if the majority is good seems there's always one bad apple that likes to stir shit up anyways.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Rushing your decisions is a common red flag in scams. I'd say it's probably enough of a red flag to stop talking with them. You can try to slow play things and if they continue to hound you then it's almost certainly a scam. They're probably going to do something like:

Ask you for money to purchase things you'll need for your job (MLM/pyramid scheme)

Give you a large cheque, ask you to cash it, give a certain amount of the cash to someone, and keep the rest for yourself (cheque fraud).

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I'm not really as worried about it being a scam, as I am about it being a toxic work environment idk .. I'm very nervous

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

She is demanding before she is even your boss. It will only get worse from here.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

See I was going to mention that but thought maybe it sounded egotistical. It's weird that she is telling me what to do/commanding me before she is even my boss.

Idk if I have a problem with authority or something, or it's just a red flag. I can honestly say I don't know if I've ever had a boss that wasn't at least a little bit sociopathic. The best one I've had basically just hid in his corner and let some nice lady supervise me.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

It doesn't sound like you do. Problem with authority and a problem with abused authority are two very different things. If you worked well under a kind boss then it's clear you don't have a problem with bosses, just with those that are demanding, commanding and micromanaging. Sounds to me like healthy boundaries for your mental health.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 weeks ago

It might occasionally be legit that an employer needs you to apply quickly.

But EVERY scam will say this.

You might just let this one go.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I am a potential employer. Speaking on behalf of only myself, there are two reasons I may feel inclined to rush an applicant. If the unfilled position is causing hardship on operations or other team members (Like having someone having to fill the spot while I search) or if the intended start date falls towards the end of a current pay period. Because if the new hire doesn't have paperwork done by then it can slow down payroll for all of us.

I learned very quickly not to rush folks out of desperation, but honestly sometimes that does happen. It doesn't necessarily mean it's a terrible place to work. In my case our labor market is lacking viable applicants. It can sometimes take weeks or months before finding even a good interview. If I have somebody that hates overnights, but is working them to cover for a recent loss then you bet I will be motivated to fill the spot ASAP. It takes emotional control to make sure that doesn't turn into rushing the applicant.

These may not apply to your situation, but that's my two cents.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago

Thanks. Unfortunately I think she's just trolling me at this point.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

You know what, don't ignore your instincts. Everytime I did I regreted.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Honestly, I feel like job interviews and applications always give me the fight or flight response. To be fair I've never really had a boss that wasn't awful, so that could be why. Idk.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I literally had a panic attack and ran out of the room during a phone interview once

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Did they just ghost u after lol

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 weeks ago

The ghosting was mutual, I couldn't show my face there again (metaphorically)

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago

It's either a scam or a hellscape.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Dang, this reminds me of how genuinely helpful /r/Scams is and how we could develop an equivalent, thriving community here on Lemmy.

Anyway, vet the company and have a friend read the messages, or share them here. Do not do anything involving money (you should only be gaining it, not having to part ways with it), and the app sure as heck shouldn't ask for your SSN at this time.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)

She hasn't asked for anything suspicious yet, I'm more so worried it's a toxic company and they won't treat me well :/

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Oh, so you think it's legit and the company just sucks. Yeah, that'd be nearly as bad. What about reviews on Glassdoor or elsewhere?

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I couldn't find any. Just on some random website there were like four 5 star reviews. Either way she ghosted the fuck out of me so Im not going to apply. Absolutely pathetic how desperate she was to then ghost me

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Almost sounds like she was trolling you!

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Yepppppp.. she just added me on Facebook a few hours ago, I accepted immediately and she didn't say anything 💀

Seems she's literally trolling or insane or all of the above. Wtf is wrong with people I feel like I should block her. Tbh she just looks like an evil person

[–] [email protected] 0 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

Why is she adding you as a FB friend? Isn't this work-related? I might not have accepted the request if I were you, but since you did, you may as well message her on there and ask what the next steps are.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

I mean she still didn't respond to my questions lmao .. should I ask them again? Man this is weird

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago)

No, message saying you're unfriending until she replies because the relationship is inappropriate given your hiring prospect, and then do so.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago

I think it's a red flag because rushing you (without a valid, stated reason) is an attempt to override your instincts while pressuring you to take a certain action. Outside of safety-related situations, that kind of situation has never gone in my favor.