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My position is that it's a snack and husband tax must be paid. My wife is arguing that it's a meal or occupies some third food space and it's entirely hers. Who's right, court of Lemmy?

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[–] originalucifer@moist.catsweat.com 68 points 11 months ago (1 children)

dessert is a course of a meal

if consumed outside a meal, its a snack.

its all about context.

[–] Takapapatapaka@lemmy.world 20 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Im with you there.

If sweet food is consumed at the end of a dinner/lunch, it's a dessert to me.

If sweet food is consumed on its own, its a snack to me.

[–] some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 18 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I'll never forget the my second grade teacher, Mrs Tilley, taught us the mnemonic "you only want one desert and two desserts."

Thanks, ma'am. It serves me still.

[–] Okokimup@lemmy.world 3 points 11 months ago

I learned that only one S can survive in the desert.

[–] Nemo@slrpnk.net 12 points 11 months ago

It's a course, part of a meal but not a whole meal by itself.

[–] limer@lemmy.dbzer0.com 11 points 11 months ago (2 children)

My advice is not let the corporate media divide you on superficial concepts between snacks and meals. Reclaim your freedoms. Feed cats more

[–] undefined@lemmy.hogru.ch 3 points 11 months ago

I was going to ask why it needs to be one or the other.

[–] Lemminary@lemmy.world 2 points 11 months ago

No no, it's the globalists, the shadowy cabals, and the mind control by the deep state. We're falling prey, folks! Anyway, buy my dick enhancing pills.

[–] ultranaut@lemmy.world 10 points 11 months ago

Its a course served at the end of a meal, typically sweet. If you're eating outside of that context it's a snack or a meal depending on how large it is and your specific eating schedule. I think she is probably right that its hers but also maybe wrong if she won't share a small taste of it with you. Or I would feel wrong not letting my wife at least taste my dessert if she wanted some but I was unwilling to share.

[–] IMongoose@lemmy.world 9 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Why are snacks shared but meals are not?

[–] spittingimage@lemmy.world 14 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Because when eating a meal she has a fork in her hand and will stab me with it.

[–] TheDoozer@lemmy.world 7 points 11 months ago

Then it would seem the fork is the determining factor in this.

[–] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 9 points 11 months ago (3 children)

Does this look like a mere mortal snack to you?

This thing has the might to send you to sleep for days.

[–] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 5 points 11 months ago

I'm too ashamed to disagree with you.

[–] MothmanDelorian@lemmy.world 3 points 11 months ago

That looks pathetic. The cone should be full of ice cream and fudge with whipped cream atop the cone.

[–] RisingSwell@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 11 months ago (1 children)

With one scoop of icecream? Yeah that's a snack.

[–] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 1 points 11 months ago

There are a few scoops there, they just conceal them in the glass very well.

[–] DragonsInARoom@lemmy.world 8 points 11 months ago

It is apart of a larger meal or can be a snack

[–] Death_Equity@lemmy.world 6 points 11 months ago

Quantity, exclusivity, and order of consumption are the determining factors.

A piece of candy after a meal is a treat.

Eating an entire chocolate cake and nothing else is a meal.

Eating a handful of candy is a snack, but could be part of a meal if consumed during, or dessert if consumed after a meal.

Eating a slice of cake and a steak, going back and forth, is a meal that has cake as a portion which could be considered dessert and may indicate mental health issues.

Eating a slice of cake after steak and potatoes is dessert.

Partners have no entitlement to one another's food being consumed, unless there is no more of it available after. If food is offered in advance and declined, they have no entitlement to it when the food is later present.

[–] Mubelotix@jlai.lu 6 points 11 months ago

It's neither. It's the last dish of a meal

[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 5 points 11 months ago

I agree with others in that it's a course and part of a meal.

But when eaten alone, snacks are snacks or meals according to size. If it's something small that won't even fill a third of your appetite, in my books, that's a snack. And in my books, precisely because of scarcity reasons you have less leveraging power to demand tax on a snack.

[–] steeznson@lemmy.world 5 points 11 months ago

meal component

[–] AllNewTypeFace@leminal.space 5 points 11 months ago

It’s a secret third thing

[–] TootSweet@lemmy.world 5 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

A drug.

Whether it's an important medicine for health and wellbeing or a hard recreational drug can depend greatly on the context.

[–] lung@lemmy.world 4 points 11 months ago

Are salmon technically dogs or cats? You decide!

But to answer the question, I recommend your wife start an IRA to be able to make tax deferred investments

[–] unknown1234_5@kbin.earth 4 points 11 months ago

it's both, a smaller tax applies.

[–] lemmyng@lemmy.ca 3 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Depends on nutritional value. Snack if empty calories, meal if reasonably nutritious. Cake? Snack. Fruit salad? Meal.

[–] Lemminary@lemmy.world 2 points 11 months ago

I like how preparation is optional in this definition. I could open a few food items, stuff my mouth with shovels of everything and call it a nutritious meal. 🤭

[–] helpImTrappedOnline@lemmy.world 3 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

Dessert is a meal. Snack is a meal.

Why is this a question, are you guys not having plate fulls of candy, cake and ice cream at 2:30 and 7 everyday?

[–] ShittyBeatlesFCPres@lemmy.world 2 points 11 months ago

I say snack. The liminal space between dinner and bed can be a digestif or coffee or tiramisu. But it’s not a proper meal.

[–] DragonsInARoom@lemmy.world 2 points 11 months ago

Phantom tax

[–] jet@hackertalks.com 1 points 11 months ago

If you both have food in front of you at the same time, it's a meal. If only one of you has food, it's a snack