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[–] P4ulin_Kbana@lemmy.eco.br 78 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)
[–] shneancy@lemmy.world 28 points 1 year ago (2 children)

nooooo that's the worst horny jail! the tops aren't there in the corner with us and nothing happens :(

Im pretty sure in the bottoms corner we mostly cuddle and meow at eachother :3

[–] P4ulin_Kbana@lemmy.eco.br 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] Danitos@reddthat.com 10 points 1 year ago (3 children)

In case you are serious: opposite of bottoms.

In gay relationships there's usually a bottom (passive) person and a top (active) person.

[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

i mean i'd say that's pretty standard for humanity in general, no? not really just a gay thing.

[–] Danitos@reddthat.com 4 points 1 year ago

Yeah, I guess so yeah. But in gay communities is veeery notorious, as 2 tops or 2 bottoms will be a big sexual incompatibility.

[–] Passerby6497@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Same for the Kink community as well

[–] princessnorah@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Needs to be noted:

Top =/= Dominant

Bottom =/= Submissive

[–] P4ulin_Kbana@lemmy.eco.br 1 points 1 year ago

Thanks for the explanation!

[–] dharmacurious@slrpnk.net 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Jokes on you, I tunneled out of the bottoms corner years ago! Now I can sneak into The Basement of Aggressive Tops whenever I want!I haven't been able to sit down since 2009!

[–] P4ulin_Kbana@lemmy.eco.br 5 points 1 year ago (4 children)
[–] dharmacurious@slrpnk.net 9 points 1 year ago

Hopefully about 7 inches and looking to take out some frustrations

[–] jaybone@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago (2 children)

You’re making us straight people look uninformed.

[–] theneverfox@pawb.social 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It's a legit problem... You have tops and bottoms in straight relationships too, it's not about parts or gender, it's about relationship dynamics

But we've partially tied it up with gender, which really fucks with all these people who don't understand why their sex lives suck, no matter how hard they try

[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 5 points 1 year ago

The societal views on relationships are just so fucked in general, stuff like "dominant=top" "man=dominant" and "you can't have different preferences day-to-day", and of course "relationships can only be 2 people".

It's taken me several years of constant poking and prodding at my brain to figure out my preferences and it's complex enough that i'd double the length of this comment by explaining it.
But god damn it's nice to have it figured out; especially coming to terms with not actually being straight (and rejecting the concept of sexuality categories) has done wonders for my confidence, it's a solid foundation for my mental health.

It makes me very sad and angry that it's questionable if a significant amount of the population will ever reach this point, i wish we could launch a global project to help people with introspection and untangling themselves so they can have this inner peace.

[–] beefbot@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

You’re not uninformed You’re just categorically unable to truly experience being an excluded community* so you’re got to take terminology from people who don’t really have a choice

*cis only

But you don’t HAVE to understand the lives of people you take terminology from, so lots of you don’t, & those who don’t sometimes wander into threads like this anyway, reminding me that honestly most of you ARE like that

:3c

[–] jaybone@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

My bad. I’m sorry. Thank you for correcting me. Peace and love. ❤️

:3c

[–] festnt@sh.itjust.works 5 points 1 year ago

the stuff you wear on your torso

[–] sem@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)
[–] dharmacurious@slrpnk.net 2 points 1 year ago

I have never felt quite so seen

[–] P4ulin_Kbana@lemmy.eco.br 4 points 1 year ago

Why isn't he in the corner? /genq

[–] FilthyShrooms@lemmy.world 65 points 1 year ago
[–] jballs@sh.itjust.works 50 points 1 year ago (2 children)

:O C===3

:OC===3

:O==3

:O=3

:3

[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 10 points 1 year ago

me inhaling a weirdly long chicken drumstick whole

[–] smitten@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 year ago

Username checks out

[–] headerfile@lemmy.blahaj.zone 32 points 1 year ago (2 children)

the resemblance is uncanny

[–] Tiger_Man_@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 year ago

Holy shit that's freeBSD reference

[–] magnetosphere@fedia.io 15 points 1 year ago

Thank you! I’ve wondered what the “c” was for.

[–] kittenzrulz123@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)
[–] smitten@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 6 points 1 year ago

mischeivous proboscis monkey, with only the bulbous nose able to fit in the frame

[–] assassinatedbyCIA@lemmy.world 10 points 1 year ago
[–] Tiger_Man_@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 year ago
[–] jbk@discuss.tchncs.de 2 points 1 year ago
[–] Emotional@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)