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Just be happy that beauty like that can exist and that you can appreciate it.
Also he left the relationship at it's highest point.
It was in college and I sat down next to her in the library. I did my best to ask her out but she shot me down.
2 years later we were in the same genetics class and I sat down next to her the first day. We ended up being assigned as lab partners much to her dismay. She immediately requested a new partner. Professor told her to "Either work with him or take an F."
4 weeks later we were counting fruit flies and she invited back to her place for dinner. After dinner she pounced on me (she has a different version of the story).
Couple weeks later the genetics professor caught us in the stairwell kissing before class and about died laughing.
We got married a year later after she graduated. Been married for 25 years now.
What I'm hearing is:
Yes, but you DID shoot me down that first time, honey.
That has come in handy over the years.
Genetics professor doing his thing, counting love flies 😄
She clearly felt you had genetics she could count on!
That so awesome!
I just take her out for walks, pet her belly, and get her a nice bone from the pet store. 🤷♂️
(the most beautiful girl in the world is my Siberian husky 😋)
I was also going to suggest OP try giving her a bone. GMTA.
Oh you become an adult that is aware of the fact that beauty means nothing in the face of love and support. Over time, that beauty becomes a deterrent to your needs.
Improve your self esteem lol
I have met enough very attractive people with terrible opinions that, for me, beauty and desire are largely decoupled. Get to know her first- she might make getting over her very easy.
And if it doesn't, you've still won!
Appreciate her beauty and remember it is ephemeral. With a few exceptions, all of us look mid at best by 50, let alone 70. Beauty is beautiful to look at. I appreciate beauty, but I wouldn't trade my wife for the most beautiful woman in the world.
My uncle has a way of putting this: no matter how great a woman is, someone, somewhere, is sick of her shit. I generously assume he also meant for that to apply with the genders reversed.
For guys, no matter how "him" someone is there is some sick of his "bo".
See more of them. There's a lot of pretty people.
Go to any big city, preferably in a different country or area where people look ever so slightly different or have different fashion. You'll see that there's basically infinite many beautiful people.
Well, it took me 15 years, but I married her
You learn from your mistake - Do you feel like you should have struck when the iron was hot? Next time you feel that feeling, strike when the iron is hot. Do you feel like you gawked and made her feel uncomfortable? Next time smile and see if it's recipricated. Do you feel like you are not worthy of an attractive partner? Work on yourself and use this experience as fuel to be better.
Uh, don't do that. That girl has loads of guys trying to "strike when the iron is hot" every day.
Be lucky there is beauty in this world, but don't try to appropriate it just because you saw it, or you might destroy it.
What a defeatist attitute to have about the world, I hope you break free; as for me, I'll keep persuing things I desire.
I have had loads of opportunities and more, but I have never ever harassed a girl just because I like her looks.
That's just creepy.
It might be a fine line (IDK) but don't be a creep.
When did I advocate for harassment? When did I advocate for being creepy? What a bizarre line of thinking.
If you make people uncomfortable, well, that's creepy (your first post talks about it without flinching), and maybe you don't do that.
The problem is that creeps think they aren't creepy, and just needs to "find the right thing to do/say" like it's some sort of puzzle. Don't be that person is all I'm saying!
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Yeah, I was going to say something like this. But more like: just learn how to be a friendly, cheerful person in general. Not just to people you think are attractive, but to anyone (as appropriate.) Then when you see someone like this you'll have the ability to say "hey, nice bike" or something like that in the same way that you'd say it to anyone.
This is awesome advice!
I get over other people by remembering they will probably forget my existence within 30 seconds to 5 mins and I'll never cross their mind again
You write a blues song
Exactly. An 800 page book also works.
That is funny to me; I love seeing beautiful people but they don't stun me like that, I can't really be attracted to someone I've not met. And I couldn't define a "most beautiful" because there are just so many different ways to be beautiful.
I think the only thing to do is put a stick in the spoke of your front wheel.
Hear me out.
You're already head over heels, you might as well make it literal. Also, if she comes over to help, out was meant to be. If not, she was probably a terrible person.
Edit: remember - no matter how hot they are, there's always someone who's sick and tired of putting up with their shit.
Rule No.1. There will always be somebody more attractive than the last. So try not too dwell.
Rule No.2. Wait about 10 years till your paths cross again and then marry them. That's what I did :). (We were in a smaller city, so more chances of connecting again.)
I think most people use art, in whatever form they can. Get that out of your system.so it does.not drive you (too) crazy. "Art" can be subjective here 🤣
Keep her in the basement so I don't have to.
Or just realize that looks aren't everything and there is a decent chance she could be a shitty person and obsessing over looks isn't healthy. Talk to people.
next time whip out your dick and fap. women love it when you fap for them.
/s #####please don't do this.
It was like in the Fellowship of the Ring when the hobbits see Arwen.
So what did the Hobbit need to learn later?
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She is also powerful, not just beautiful.
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She is going to leave
You apologise for stumbling onto her and help her up.
The heart wants what the heart wants.
The question you are asking is do you follow your heart. People will have very different opinions on that.
I mean my wife is already out of my league so I don't need to fantasize about the absolute most beutiful girl in the world stumbling into me if she is even on this continent. Im pretty old to so she would likely be like some prime beuty age or something and way to young for me. So I would not be surprised if I did not even notice her.
Should've run up to her and offered her an orange to prove that you're not a weirdo. Now she thinks you're a weirdo.
You're lost in lust and you don't know much. Now you're thinking aloud, falling out of touch. You gotta get back on your feet, and be eager to be what she's wanting.
First phrase sounds like lyrics of a song 👍️
Finally! 😉
Oh, so it was. 🙂Didn't know this song, it was just the vibe it was giving.
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