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You learn from your mistake - Do you feel like you should have struck when the iron was hot? Next time you feel that feeling, strike when the iron is hot. Do you feel like you gawked and made her feel uncomfortable? Next time smile and see if it's recipricated. Do you feel like you are not worthy of an attractive partner? Work on yourself and use this experience as fuel to be better.
Uh, don't do that. That girl has loads of guys trying to "strike when the iron is hot" every day.
Be lucky there is beauty in this world, but don't try to appropriate it just because you saw it, or you might destroy it.
What a defeatist attitute to have about the world, I hope you break free; as for me, I'll keep persuing things I desire.
I have had loads of opportunities and more, but I have never ever harassed a girl just because I like her looks.
That's just creepy.
It might be a fine line (IDK) but don't be a creep.
When did I advocate for harassment? When did I advocate for being creepy? What a bizarre line of thinking.
If you make people uncomfortable, well, that's creepy (your first post talks about it without flinching), and maybe you don't do that.
The problem is that creeps think they aren't creepy, and just needs to "find the right thing to do/say" like it's some sort of puzzle. Don't be that person is all I'm saying!
Yeah, I was going to say something like this. But more like: just learn how to be a friendly, cheerful person in general. Not just to people you think are attractive, but to anyone (as appropriate.) Then when you see someone like this you'll have the ability to say "hey, nice bike" or something like that in the same way that you'd say it to anyone.
This is awesome advice!