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Probably 1/2 of the users on this platform are here as a protest against Reddit. Either the API stuff, or the admins nuking your account, or the mods being... goofy. Or the users, or who knows what.

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[–] KC_Royalz@lemmy.world 1 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago)

Pre 2014 Trump, I believe reddit was so successful in disproving Republican bullshit that they decided to just take it over because they couldn't fight the truth. It was a slow yet successful highjacking. I literally believe they had a thinktank dream it up and hired people to do it.

It's around then when you saw the influx of more right wing users but they were still getting banned by the mods because reddit was a notorious left leaning community. But I think gradually they were able to become mods of themselves.

I think I'm the only person to be banned from world news for being pro Israel and eventually saying fuck israel.

The difference between reddit then and reddit now is night and day. It has become a safe haven of the right wing.

[–] tigermountain@lemmy.world 1 points 5 hours ago

I come from a generation where there were many societal references to younger males (let's say 12 to 16) being attracted to older women. Think of Van Halen's Hot for Teacher or the scene from the Blues Brothers where the playboy Bunny was thrown through a kid's bedroom and he says "Thank you, god!". When I was that age I would have loved the chance to have had sex with an older woman. I think it's a normal part of the sexual awakening of young straight males.

So there's a story very similar in some sub about a 14yo kid having a woman in her mid-twenties coming on to him. I don't remember if anything physically happened between them. The news about it at the time was saying the kid was traumatized and everyone was screaming it was sexual assault. I posted something along the lines of it being a dream of mine for this to have happened to me. And it would have been. Well you can imagine what happened next. Those on the Internet whose views have been hardened by group think and psychology and where there is no room for any discussion or questioning of these ideas attacked en masse. One person in particular said they were immediately reporting me to the admin of the sub, and sure enough I was banned from the sub within 30 minutes.

People on social media fall into being judge and jury at the slightest push. They're so terrified of losing their group identity that they've shut out any ability to question or consider another viewpoint. They're exactly like the villagers with pitchforks rushing to Frankenstein's castle to kill "the monster".

[–] digdig@piefed.social 1 points 7 hours ago

So many reasons, in no particular order.

  1. Same questions and content being repeated again and again

  2. The environment became hostile, so many people arguing.

  3. Intrusion of politics into everything. Particularly right wing politics.

  4. Extremely inconsistent modding of forums and inconsistent bans etc...

  5. Going public, changes to API, old reddit, comercialization, selling data for AI

I joined when it was a much smaller place, now there are many millions. I realise I like smaller communities. It's why I left Facebook.

[–] IamBlank@lemmy.zip 1 points 1 day ago

I said that tech oligarchs need pain and ruination. It earned me a ban.

[–] captain_aggravated@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

3 day ban for "They (here meaning men in the American southeast) hate electric vehicles almost as much as they hate black people."

[–] Frikisada@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

It's funny because it's true!

[–] starman2112@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 day ago

Permabanned for calling Ann Coulter racist. Appealed, appeal said bam was overturned, account suspension was never lifted. No way to appeal further. 15 years on the platform down the drain. You can't even look at my comment history anymore.

[–] DidIReallySayThat@lemmy.world 4 points 2 days ago

I cant remember which sub it was, but I posted something along the line of "If Israel doesn't stop this genocide, they're gonna find out soon."

I was perma banned by a zionist mod for inciting violence.

Reddit just sucks. That’s all there is to it. Bots, trolls, /hailcorporate, forced ads, forced app, bans, the API debacle, getting rid of Victoria, quarantining everything while leaving right wing trash subs brigading other subs, hivemind, karmawhoring, race to be the quip for karma no matter how serious the subject… so many reasons to avoid the place in general.

[–] GreenKnight23@lemmy.world 6 points 2 days ago

was banned when I told a Nazi they should "experience the freedom of Auschwitz" if they were true believers. and to not worry about what others have said because "the work you will do there, will set you free".

mods didn't like that and banned me. oh yeah, the Nazi just continued to post white supremacy bullshit.

[–] NeedsMoreWD40@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Permabanned for "threatening violence" because somebody asked what everyone was planning for retirement, and my answer was a sturdy rope. So I guess suicidal ideation is verboten

[–] Tollana1234567@lemmy.today 1 points 1 day ago

i assume it was only referring to yourself, and not someoneelse. i do visit a bunch of subs talking about retirement, because i was curious(one was about children not wanting to retire thier parents into thier homes)

[–] umbraroze@slrpnk.net 1 points 1 day ago

Posting links was fucking impossible.

Post some link, and it gets shadow-eaten by the spam filter.
OK, sometimes it gets auto-snatched by some posting rule, like a karma threshold or whatever, which you will not be notified of if you use old reddit.
Or it might be eaten by automoderator for reasons that are complicated to explain.
You might get the post through if you message the moderators. 1 time out of 100, they approve it. 19 times out of 100, they go "this post doesn't seem to be cultured enough to fall under my narrow definition of what's fitting, sorry." the rest of the time, nothing. (At least I didn't get turbo banned. I hear that's what has happened to some people who messaged moderators for innocuous things.)

Meanwhile, shit from corporate shill accounts just flies through because they spend their time (and money) avoiding the landmines.

They say they want community members, not corp sock puppets. Yet, 10+ year old accounts are still considered just as suspicious as fresh users what comes to "link spam".

[–] myyass@lemmy.world 12 points 2 days ago

It was really fun a long time ago; getting gifts/exchanging gifts. Secret Santa. Making artwork and just trading it for stuff, lots of subs. And overtime all of that was gone. It became a hateful festering pile of shit. Once reddit became "old" it was done and it showed. It really became a hardcore data mining trash bin. Getting multiple down votes for things I disagreed with was it for me; not that I care about the down votes, it's just there was no comments no interaction. Reddit maybe has a few more years left in my opinion, with new users only joining because it was indirectly advertised by the people that made it what it is. It's like Regr'etsy, wasn't too bad on launch to hey allibaba or temu is in the house!

[–] Felis_Catus_Domesticus@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

None. Never used Reddit. Never will.

Same goes for any corporate social media.

[–] NewNewAugustEast@lemmy.zip 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I wouldn't call it social media. Well I wouldn't have in the past.

But I would call it corporate. Which is why they are desperately trying to make it social media.

[–] yermaw@sh.itjust.works 8 points 2 days ago

I said that nuclear arms race was just stupid at this point.

"I'll kill everyone"

"If you kill everyone I'll kill everyone"

"Well I can kill everyone 3 times over"

"If you kill everyone 3 times over I'll kill everyone 20 times over"

"Oh yeah? We're working on a way to kill everyone 200 times over"

Anyway that got me a 3 week ban for inciting violence. When I pressed the appeal button and said "its actually condemning violence, theres context there" it got upgraded to a permanent ban.

That was the 3rd time I got banned. The first time was from typing "genji main btw" into an overwatch post complaining about how theres no people playing support.

[–] db0@lemmy.dbzer0.com 50 points 3 days ago (2 children)

I run and grew /r/piracy for over 10 years. I took part in the api protests and also urged people to migrate to lemmy publicly. One of my mods went behind my back and asked the admins to demod me and rearrange mods so that they're on top, and the admins complied. Then the sub went back to business as usual.

[–] UiUiUiUiUi@piefed.nl 1 points 1 day ago

The internet makes picketing impossible, UK union miners used to throw stones at any scabs.

[–] Zedd_Prophecy@lemmy.world 14 points 3 days ago

Thanks for your work there.

[–] historicaldocuments@lemmy.world 10 points 2 days ago (1 children)

The mod for r/AdultChildrenofNarcissists disappeared, and replacement essentially admitted that they were running an experiment and couldn't give more details because it would ruin the experiment. They also said they were going to try to remove the anti-parent bias in the subreddit. So much for that support group.

So anyway, r/AdultKidsofNarcissists was created, but there's no reason to think that same sort of thing didn't happen to a bunch of other subreddits. They will eventually sell the comment database to someone who'll run a poorly thought out LLM and find red flags by cross referencing a support group subreddit with other subreddits and cause real world consequences. It isn't enough to stop using reddit now; they already have the posts and will have them forever.

[–] Tollana1234567@lemmy.today 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

something tells me that is r/adultchildrenofnarcassist new mods are right wingers, trying to say parents are not at fault for causing children to hate him, are unemployed, unable to move out of the house, or refusing to house the parents when they retire. it sounds convoluted but alot of stories like this, have a very boomer center to it. why is the 30-40yo woman not having a job, or moving out, or whatever(usually its the sibling complaining)

[–] historicaldocuments@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

It used to be a place to see that other people had similar issues with their parents and had links to other resources for people doing research. So of course someone found out the children were talking bad about their parents and brought the parents to come supervise. The perfectly manicured, sharpened fingernail at the tip of the slap to the face was that the new mod removed some of the helpful links, like this one: https://issendai.com/psychology/estrangement/missing-missing-reasons/ that distills the issue down to such a condensed form that I wouldn't have thought it possible. You'd might as well stand outside an AA meeting and offer free airplane bottles to people walking in as pull that kind of maneuver.

I'm not trying to draw equivalencies between people's trauma, or elevate one or dismiss others, but if a group of people found a spot to sit and talk quietly about shared experiences, then it's better to let them alone. $RDDT couldn't have drawn up a mission statement that more clearly stated that they weren't there to help, and any help derived from their platform was accidental and subject to their "adjustment" at any times.

And just in case anyone missed it, the link that the mod removed from a subreddit by and for Adult Children of Narcissists was this one: https://issendai.com/psychology/estrangement/missing-missing-reasons/

EDIT: added a piece to a sentence to make a thought more fully formed.

[–] qevlarr@lemmy.world 5 points 2 days ago

Got into a thread that was all transphobia. Not the subtle kind, but totally messed up. I was furious nothing was done about it. Glued to my phone, I reported every single one.

Next day I was suspended for abuse of report button. Unfair, but here's the kicker: It was a report 6 months earlier in a different sub, completely different topic.

So these shithead mods let transphobia bullshit slide, then got mad at me for flooding their mod queue, report me, and someone looked through my earlier reports to find something. The reports in that transphobic threads were legit. Mods should have been punished but it was me.

[–] ElGrande@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Haven't used it for it to suck. Mostly lurking. Came to Lemmy to try it out.

[–] Tollana1234567@lemmy.today 2 points 1 day ago

most people currently using reddit is lurking, i do 75/25 and only niche subs. also people who got burned by reddits AI moderation only lurks now.

[–] Feathercrown@lemmy.world 6 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

No story, just dozens (hundreds?) of wasted hours reading slop (the human kind at first, but increasingly also the bot kind later)

[–] GreenKnight23@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)

not all was slop.

I had shared a few tifu posts that actually did really well you probably read if you frequented that board. I think one of them got around 17k upvotes and was featured on some prominent YouTube channels.

[–] Feathercrown@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

True, but the gem to rough ratio started to get too small and the discussion on good posts was still always bad

[–] SwingingTheLamp@piefed.zip 44 points 3 days ago (4 children)

I used to have an iPad, and watching an entire movie on the Netflix app drained the battery by 2-4%. The Reddit app took 15-20% of the battery over breakfast, so I switched to Apollo. Then, I could get through breakfast with the battery still at, say, 95%. Clearly, the official app did something else in the background; since they didn't disclose what, it was probably nefarious. One day, Apollo stopped working, and that was that.

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[–] zwiebelkaramell@lemmy.world 9 points 3 days ago (3 children)

User culture change for sure. The subversive, progressive, smarmy nerds that used to hang out there were "my people" so to speak. The shift to a 50/50 mix of bots and soccer moms made it kinda useless as a forum. Lemmy isn't quite the same, but I think it's a good thing. Much less culturally homogeneous, but 100% authentic.

[–] krakloskewm@lemmy.zip 4 points 2 days ago

So much of it is people just ditching about things in their lives looking for validation.

Nothing is about anything anymore.

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[–] whoxtank28@lemmy.world 13 points 3 days ago (2 children)

No RIF, no reddit, bye Felicia...

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[–] Tattorack@lemmy.world 6 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

The gamification of Reddit. Stickers, awards, achievements, all for creating content and engagement, regardless of quality. Now they have actual games in Reddit where you can win awards for... Stuff... I guess. I refuse to engage with any of it.

Deep ties with NFT and crypto. The NFT side died, finally, because nobody really engaged with it. I was given an NFT avatar on Reddit for free, with a whole lot of advertising to engage in lootboxes and such. My response to that was essentially "ok. And fuck you". It's still doing cryptoshit, though, but doesn't advertise it anymore.

Are you a moderator of a loving community? Hate what Reddit has done? Wanna protest? No you can't. If reddit doesn't like your opinion, or you protest against some of their actions, they'll just remove you from the sub you created and the new owner will be some schmuck who agrees to everything.

[–] dkppunk@piefed.social 9 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

For me, it’s the API stuff. I used the Reddit app for a long time until I started seeing the He Gets Us ad everywhere. I hated it because it’s from an anti-equality organization. I blocked the account and I stopped seeing it for a while. Then it started popping up again after I blocked the account, so I started using Apollo to avoid it. Once the API thing happened and Apollo stopped working, I said fuck it, deleted my account, and moved on to Mastodon, BlueSky, and (after a time) here.

If they let me block that stupid fucking ad, I would probably still be there, at least if not for all the other dumb decisions they have also made.

[–] missingno@fedia.io 20 points 3 days ago (3 children)

I moderated a large sub that participated in the blackout. Our mod team was threatened by the admins into reopening, and that's when I knew I was done with the platform.

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[–] disregardable@lemmy.zip 22 points 3 days ago (2 children)

I was one of the people who they actually unbanned because the bot wrongfully banned it. But because I used a second account during the wrongful ban, again cannot underemphasize so wrong that they admitted it was wrong, it perma banned all of my accounts.

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