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I come from a generation where there were many societal references to younger males (let's say 12 to 16) being attracted to older women. Think of Van Halen's Hot for Teacher or the scene from the Blues Brothers where the playboy Bunny was thrown through a kid's bedroom and he says "Thank you, god!". When I was that age I would have loved the chance to have had sex with an older woman. I think it's a normal part of the sexual awakening of young straight males.
So there's a story very similar in some sub about a 14yo kid having a woman in her mid-twenties coming on to him. I don't remember if anything physically happened between them. The news about it at the time was saying the kid was traumatized and everyone was screaming it was sexual assault. I posted something along the lines of it being a dream of mine for this to have happened to me. And it would have been. Well you can imagine what happened next. Those on the Internet whose views have been hardened by group think and psychology and where there is no room for any discussion or questioning of these ideas attacked en masse. One person in particular said they were immediately reporting me to the admin of the sub, and sure enough I was banned from the sub within 30 minutes.
People on social media fall into being judge and jury at the slightest push. They're so terrified of losing their group identity that they've shut out any ability to question or consider another viewpoint. They're exactly like the villagers with pitchforks rushing to Frankenstein's castle to kill "the monster".