Introvert doesn't mean shy or socially anxious. I regularly tell people to shut the fuck up if they're in my space being annoying.
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Exactly this, my dad’s an introvert but is the most charismatic person I know. He does great with people, but is the last to arrive and the first to leave since he finds it so draining. He “recharges” when he’s by himself.
That's kinda what I do too. I acknowledge it as an effort that needs to be managed and have strategies to recharge afterwards.
I don't hate being around people but it does take a lot of energy.
Oh, does that make him MajorEffort? Or GeneralEffort?
He's actually AdmiralEffort.
I hate all this extrovert VS introvert stuff, one side seen as vapid, gibbering apes and the other seen as loner shut-ins. It's exhausting, especially since most people don't fall squarely into one camp or the other.
There's plenty of introverted people who love to talk and go out with people, they just need some time between outings to wind down and gear up and to know there's someone around that will share their interests. Likewise, there are shy extroverts who thrive more in online spaces where they can easily manage their interactions with others and have time to think about their responses. In either case, being an asshole is not part of it.
Lockdowns during covid kinda did this and the extroverts went crazy.
Society in general encourages and rewards those who speak more, even if the things they speak have zero contribution or are absolute nonsense.
Society in general encourages and rewards those who speak more
Squeaky Wheel, etc.
But only if you're older, whiter, taller, and maler.
Society (at least, my corner of the American Southwest) hates hearing a short young brown woman open her mouth.