Trans Memes

Male socialized = beaten with a belt

Yo some of y'all in the comments really need to get educated on Transfeminism. Quit trying to argue trans women are "biological males" that's just transmisogyny.

"male socialized"? IM NOT SOCIALIZED AT ALL!!!!! my gender is neurodivergent socialized

Hey, Im a straight cis male. I have no idea what this means, however i do like to keep my head on a swivel for new dog whistle, ways to be hateful, stereotypes, so on and whatnot, so I can avoid people like that. Can someone please explain this to me?

One of the worst things about the "male socialized" or "biological male" dog whistles is that it's used to treat transfems as having all the worst traits associated with men but none of the privileges. We can be accused of being aggressive, predatory, violent, etc. But we are never get taken seriously like men do, never get the benefit of the doubt, and certainly don't benefit materially like they do. Men don't get discriminated against for employment or housing like we do, men make a ton more money than we do. In fact trans women make less than cis women do on average. Also transfems are the only group that are systemically sex trafficked by the government (look up v-coding)

Let's not forget how this also degrades gender-nonconforming cis women. Saying "oh, that thing you're doing is a male thing from male socialization" works to tell trans women they're not "real" women, but equally signals to some cis women they're not "real" women either! This really just boils down to policing women, just the same old patriarchal standards.

"Socialized male" is one of the key tools in deploying transmisogyny specifically against trans women.

And on and on and on. It's crap. Just walk away from it. Transmisogyny is just one form of gaslighting.

And then there's "biological man"/"biological woman", which simply don't exist but get used frequently anyway.

Wait wat. Then how am I supposed to express exactly that? I only realized I was trans close to graduating high school. All my close friends up to that point had been male. Male gender stereotypes influenced what I did in my free time, how I behaved in class, how I saw the world.

It took effort to shed some of that. Maybe it's because I haven't heard it used in a transphobic context yet, but "I was male socialized" is, I'd have said up to this post at least, very apt.

Literally everybody has "male socialisation," it came free with your patriarchal society that centres male narratives as the default human experiences. It's why I don't think it's a useful term with any real practical applicability beyond bullying trans women.

transphobes will use literally anything as dog whistles and slurs so we may as well keep using terms which allow us to describe, analyze and study our social relations and functioning

many transfemmes have good jobs because they graduated and got employed passing as male, so how should the feminist community point out that the wage gap applies differently to some woman?

also a lot of us carry trauma given to us by exactly that male socialization: competing, performing and taking space as social mechanisms get ingrained over years, so feminist spaces may use "male socialization" to point to our struggles and behaviors with an appropriate term, refusing such critics under the guise of "transphobia" surely does us no good

also it's not like you learned to lurk boy spaces and you can never change that, we can be male socialized and yet fully social women

Maybe I just haven't seen it used by transphobes, but I don't see what's wrong with male socialized. The first time I heard it I thought it described how being raised male and peer pressured into acting male has fucked me up.

I didn’t realize I was trans until I was 21, and I sometimes use it to refer to the habits/tendencies ingrained in me (many of which I’m trying to un-learn) through my youth. I try to avoid it because of the general connotation, but sometimes it’s the best descriptor to encapsulate that in one term