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The entire purpose of highschool reunions was rendered irrelevant as soon as social media was invented.

We haven’t had one, but if there were, I would probably go. I was pretty much friends with everyone, and I still stay in touch with a few people I am very close with.

My feelings towards a middle school reunion is pretty much the same as everyone's feelings towards high school reunion. I would never show up to a middle school reunion. There were some people who tried to do one 10-15 years ago, and I never went, and I never will. The people there sucked. I never want to see them again. If I do then I pretend not to know them and I am pretty sure they do the same.

No. I'm still working on unfucking myself after the way those assholes treated me. Why would I want to see them again? I'm not successful enough to flex on anyone.

Most of the people I went to high school with I don’t give two shits about. Maybe 3-4 of them do I care about. I don’t need a reunion for them. Hell like me they wouldn’t go anyway. In my opinion, reunions are either for people who peaked in high school and wanna relive that adoration or want to brag about their life to people who looked down on them in high school. I didn’t peak in high school nor would I want to brag to people I don’t care about their opinions.

I guess you could just want to see how people turned out is another option. Maybe I’d like to verify a few bullies that I’d bet died of alcoholism in their 40s.

But no I wouldn’t, and haven’t, gone.

No. High school sucked because teenagers suck. Any decent people from then I just kept in touch with. Those who peaked at 17 are pretty pathetic.

Yes. My graduating year had a lot of tragedy occur, so we were all really tight knit (even with standard teenage drama). It was good fun catching up.

No, I don't understand the point of reunions.

I think I went to my 5-year as I was going to be in the area anyway, but nothing after thati only attended that school for one year, but still had some good memories. This was before Facebook and I think even myspace. I actually moved my final year of highschool so most of my memories of that one we're good.

No, 'cuz it's just "look at me! Look how successful I am!" Boring as shit.

I never had any desire to go to one. I had a fine time in High School, college was much better. I had a good strong circle of friends in high school. That circle was a bit odd. There was four of us who hung out all the time and that started in the second half of my sophomore year.

In my quartette was me, two dudes who were one grade ahead of me and one guy who went to a different high school. There was also an extended circle of friends but the four of us were the core group.

So my high school reunion would mostly be people I didn’t spend a lot of time with in high school. I don’t have any animosity towards any of them, I just don’t have any desire to see any of them.

Now back when I did Facebook I did join a group that was my high school class and I recognized a lot of their names. The stuff they posted with the typical range of stuff, Many had kids and familes etc. A couple were religious fruitcakes. One ran for Mayor of the burg I grew up in.

Yes.

Did not like the people much back then but was still interested how it all developed.

I had some nice talks. It was fun talking to my highschool crush she seems to still be the same person. Glad it did not work out back than otherwise I'd propably still be stuck back there.

The most interesting part was seeing people that told me they thought I was the cool person back then while I was very insecure back then and definitly did not think of myself as cool.

No.

A billion years ago, someone added me on Facebook and I accepted because I thought it was someone else. Then I realised it was someone who graduated alongside me and they were in a group organising a reunion and I blocked that shit so fast. One of the last things I did on FB.

Since leaving Facebook, I'm pretty sure I'm untraceable for anyone from back then so if they get any ideas about inviting that girl that most of them used to think was weird and best avoided, they're shit out of luck. I don't want to meet any of those people and those that I might tolerate for a bit don't balance it out.

Hell no

I left school 27 years ago. I Don't think there has ever been one.

My school was in a small town. Half the kids lived in the town, the other half (myself included) didnt. When school ended the kids from town all stayed friends and ended marrying each other.

I've kept in vague touch with maybe 3 people since that time and that's barely anything except a happy birthday message every couple of years.

So no, I probably wouldn't ever attend a reunion

Absolutely not. No desire to see those people again. I didn’t enjoy high school, and I don’t like the person I was back then either. Everyone is better off going their separate ways.

Oh fuck no. There are a handful of people from highschool I wouldn't mind catching up with, but the vast majority of them I either never met well enough to form an opinion, or actively disliked.

...and as long as it's been, every single one of us is a completely different person now. It'd basically be like meeting a few hundred complete strangers. And at that point, I can just go to a bar or something and meet complete strangers right here - why travel to reunion for that?

Yes, the 20th one. The school had long closed, so it was at a hotel ballroom at a city central to everyone. It was awesome hanging with old friends and catching up. Even better was seeing the bullies turn into meek little men. After too many drinks, one tearfully apologized for being such an asshole. Lots of closure all around.

A couple of retired teachers showed up, and it was great talking to them like peers. And the one EVERYONE had a crush on, now with two kids and an ex-husband. Still hot as hell.

Nothing like Grosse Pointe Blank, but still fun.

I did, but undercover. It was hilarious!

A lot changed in my life after graduation, including my first name and my surname (the latter due to marriage, the first thanks to deed poll, I always disliked the name my parents gave me...).

A few dear old friends from school knew about me living abroad, about all the other changes going on in my life and since all of us were the weird folks back then, we decided to prank everyone else big time.

So, I went there as a friend of one attending. Fricking no one recognised me. Not a soul. But they kept asking why person x was the only one no one found contact details of online, or any other way of contact. The person they knew just disappeared into thin air after graduation.

A big mystery no one could figure out who wasn't in on the ruse. Some great theories we've overheard that evening included, but were not limited to:

A) dead

B) in prison

C) became a hermit

I stood right next to those people I went to school with for over 10 years, some I knew even longer.

It was a fun challenge for me keeping a straight face for the entire evening while drinks were also involved. Not one person could figure out they knew me in the first place. :D

Nope. Hell I'm not even sure there was one.

The venn diagram of "people who organize and attend high school reunions" and "people I want to ever see again" are two circles drawn on different pages in different books on different shelves.

I went to the first one and didn’t enjoy myself. Saw the assholes are now cops and most of the self-proclaimed cool kids were now shilling one MLM or another. Everyone still hung out in the same groups they did in high school. They held a moment of silence for the popular dickhead who got drunk and drowned in a river after high school.

No, because all of my high school peers were enemies. High school - or rather the entirety of my childhood - was a time of bullying. All I learned was how to hate and eradicate myself. How the fuck am I still here.

Haven't been invited. Really small school, for all I know there hasn't been a reunion

No, because disaster struck. My high school’s tradition is that the graduating class hosts the reunion party in a decade, and everyone else who can attend is invited. When it was our turn, a weather disaster struck our hometown, so the reunion was canceled and we donated the pooled funds instead.

I remember peering into the facebook group where they were planning our reunion, they were making a list of all the people who "most likely wouldn't show up" and therefore "didn't need an invite".

The list was basically all the unpopular kids they didn't like.

No, there was like four people that I actually liked the rest of them can get in the sea.

Actually they're probably all right now but they're not a tits when they were kids, but I have no desire to find out.

I did not go to the tenth or twentieth. I can’t imagine how they’d even find me for the thirtieth in the 2030s, I don’t really do any social media these days.

I’m an introvert and haven’t kept up with anyone from high school. Seems like it’d just be awkward.

i forget how it came up, but last year someone mentioned high school reunions and i was thinking, "hey, my ten year should be coming up soon. i wonder if it'll be worth going" and then later that night one of my old friends from high school mentioned he just got back from it. i'm sitting there wondering if i would be generous enough to grace them with my presence while the event was currently going on and i wasn't even invited! the more things change, the more they stay the same

Never once. I still talk to the only people from there I care to know.

I vaguely remember tossing some mail about a reunion a number of years ago, never planned on going to one.

I can count on one hand the number of people I've willingly talked to since highschool, and none of them in the last 15 years.

Plus I guarantee nobody would be friendly to a Trans person. My highschool once made national news for a hate crime...

Never got invited lol. Not that I'd go, I have no interest in mingling with white supremacists. I grew up in a fun area.

I only went to high school for two years then took all my classes at the community college, so I wasn't like super well known or liked or anything. I've also had a gender change since then, and I don't wanna have that conversation the whole event.

Nope, for pretty much most of the reasons everyone else in the thread didn’t.

No.

I'd moved out of state by the time the first one came around. Seemed like a lot of bother and expense to see people I didn't keep in touch with otherwise.

Thought about the 10 year then went to see phish instead

I’m so relieved to find a ton of other “no’s” in this thread!

I always felt like I was being a bit antisocial not to go to one. I’ve never been to a college reunion either. I’ve kept in close touch with only one person from high school and a handful from college. Add to that: 1) I don’t feel like I have much to brag about; 2) I would feel icky bragging even if I did. And that’s what I imagine reunions to be, if you haven’t kept in touch generally: just a bunch of near-strangers posturing to each other to feel better about themselves. I just don’t have any interest in that. It’s much the same reason I got off of social media about 10 years ago (minus the link aggregators/forums).

Not at all. I graduated a semester early and moved to a nearby city where I immediately lost all my friends from high school. A few years later I moved across the country and never looked back.

Fuck no. I dropped out of High School thanks to a bunch of racist Hawaiians and Samoans because I started standing up against their bullying midyear.

Kids that look like they might be military brats got targetted quick. I wasn't one of those kids, but I was just another "fucking haole". School staff turned a blind eye to the harassment and intimidation. Shits a lost cause when the campus security is literally related or close with these kids families.

Dropped out, got a GED, got a job, started a family, moved back stateside, never looked back. Aloha Oe, ya fuckers lol

I did not go to mine. But I did watch Grosse Point Blank last night, still holds up.

Invites were probably on Facebook and I don't give enough fucks to login.

I did not. If I wanted to keep in touch with people I would have.